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Originally posted by goodgreefgirl like i said, thanks to those who gave mature input, as for the rest of you... meh.

meh yourself, you donkey raping shit eater.

lol

erm..

my adviice:

- maybe u wanted out of the relationship, but now that he's dumped you u feel as though 'fuck! what have i done!!'

just remembering the good + not the bad times? ..tad insecure perhaps?

meh.. what would i know..

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Originally posted by UglyDave erm.. my adviice: - maybe u wanted out of the relationship, but now that he's dumped you u feel as though 'fuck! what have i done!!' just remembering the good + not the bad times? ..tad insecure perhaps? meh.. what would i know..

nah, i definitley didnt want out of the relationship, i faught for it with all my might when we were breaking up...

i remember the bad times, but not as much as the good times...and i think thats where my down fall is...but what can i say.. i liked the good times!
and yes.. im definitley feeling very insecure about this, because i feel vulnerable and weak...

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Originally posted by goodgreefgirl alright, here it goes (it might be long, i hope not though..ill try to make it short). went out with a guy for over a year and a half. we had a long distance relationship from the beginning, and things were going great as we knew we'd be together eventually. we went to europe together for 4 months... grew super close together when we were in europe, it was the most time we spent together non-stop like that, and it was great. when we got home, a month of stress got the best of us and we started fighting more than before. we were far apart from eachother... had little money to spend on travelling to see each other as we spent it all in europe, and things were slowly but not-noticeably going down the drain. saw each other one weekend, had some nasty fights over really stupid small things (mainly caused by me)...but by the time i was going back home things were better and we promised to see eachother soon.. blah blah blah 3 days later, he dumped me ..deciding he cant take it anymore BBBUUTTT he still loves me and wants to be with me (just cant do it). so ive been trying to act really strong, cut him off completely cuz it just hurts too much to be friends. i didnt want to break up, and i faught for it for days... but it only made things worse probably. now i miss him so incredibly much, and we talked casually the other day, but it only made me hurt even more... do i move on??... right now it feels like i cant. do i do anything or just wait... hope that he'll miss me and reconsider type deal.. *sigh* im not doing as well as i hoped i would be. i cant act as strong as i'd like to, and not only my emotions but my body is getting the worst of it... i still go out and have fun, hang out with friends and whatever.. in that time i feel great but if one little memory jumps back into my mind...when i go home im a wreck. any advice would be appreciated.. maybe harsh stuff too so i can get it in my thick head to move on.

a girl did this to me last year
i wonder if she felt the same way
tell him how you feel

yeah im gonna see how this week goes by... and then ill make some drastic decisions as stuff will be happening to allow those sorts of decisions.

The general concensus (sp?) is : "dont let him know you're weak" from MOST of the people i've talked to about this.

move on..

and where the hell are the pics dammit


post themm

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Originally posted by callme I've always meant to ask this....who the fuck are you? I mean i have never heard of you or the 5 friends you have on your myspace. Official info : chokeonit

The thing with long-distance relationships is that once you actually move to being with each other (as you were in europe), it's almost impossible to do the distance again.

My relationship started off long-distance, and I love my guy and all, but there's just no way I would do long-distance again.

If you both love each other, you're probably just fighting because it's stressful to only see each other a couple days in a long span of not seeing each other. If you both want to be with each other, you have to actually move to live with or near each other, imo.

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Originally posted by kate The thing with long-distance relationships is that once you actually move to being with each other (as you were in europe), it's almost impossible to do the distance again. My relationship started off long-distance, and I love my guy and all, but there's just no way I would do long-distance again. If you both love each other, you're probably just fighting because it's stressful to only see each other a couple days in a long span of not seeing each other. If you both want to be with each other, you have to actually move to live with or near each other, imo.

yeah i agree completely i guess it just wore us out and stuff
im moving there for school in january none the less (whether he and i will be together or not). it was the plan from the beginning... which is why we stayed together..cuz we knew we'd be together geographically soon too..

but it got the best of us which is why i dont want to give up on it ... cuz it seems like it was just such a silly reason to break up something so good.

You do realise he was probably seeing someone else. Oh wait.... that's not advice.



*slaps wrist*

Im in atlanta, my girlfriend is in puerto rico...

almost our whole relationship has been spent apart and right now we're going through issues because she has no cellphone and its been a week since ive talked to her. BLabla Long distance relationships are hard......

I went to visit her 2 weeks ago....had the time of our lives. It really showed me we were meant for one another. She knows it, I know it.

But sometimes the current status of where you both reside in can ultimately bring the whole relationship to crash&burn.

Essentially, yeah I believe him when he says he still loves you and so on.....but the question comes down to:

Would you ever be together-together again? Would you be within 10minutes of driving from one another?

Cuz this matters...

You should try to move on, but always know that this doesnt necessarily mean its over!!

ill get back to you more on tihs, i have to go see junkie xl now

bye

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has anyone suggested breakup sex yet? that is the only good thing you will get out of this situation in the immediate future. be strong and convince yourself that a better one is waiting for you. have patience and you will find him.