As long as it makes them happy, I don't care. The type of people I'm going after aren't going to be using an online dating service.

My friend told me he was using one, and I just kind of went silent for awhile, thinking 'damn, people actually use those things?' I guess so, because it seems there's been a friggin' explosion of them all over the net these last couple years.

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf Didn't you have a long-distance internet relationship with Loconet for a while?

they're still a couple a very happy one too

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf Can I have your sister's email address? I dig teh hot Croatian girls.

no.



its been said that the best way to meet new people and potential dates is to be introduced to friends' friends. this will probably involve taking (for the guys) your left hand out of your pants and the right hand off the mouse, and actually getting out of the house to go hang out with friends (not "hang out" in chat rooms )


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i met a lot of people online when i used to go on the computer more often. i even dated one, which was a disaster. though we dated like normal people after we met. i think meeting people online is fine as long as you eventually transfer it to real life. you need physical contact....

that being said i met my current bf in the park.

i went through that whole phase a few years ago and dated a few people i met online. it's not so bad, but don't let it become your only means for meeting people. i'm kinda weary about it now, just cuz of past issues that came out of meeting online. i have a boyfriend now, but if i was single, i would be out trying to meet people, not sitting at home trying to. i'm all for meeting people online as friends though...i'm sure i'll meet up with few new TA's during wmc, but that's the extent of it.


oh and i do think it's possible to actually meet someone online and have it work out. my ex boyfriend and i met through here actually, and we were nuts about each other, but he was in cali and i was here in florida, and eventually the distance took it's tole on the relationship, and it ended. so if you're gonna get involved with someone from the net, make sure you're close to each other, and make sure you meet soon after interacting online, that way you don't build it up and then get disappointed. it's cool if you meet online, but it's very important that you guys know you have chemistry in person, so try to meet up right away.

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it depends..some people feel more comfertable talking online as they would be more aggressive and not shy...i am the type of person whose personality shines more in person..i get bored of chattin online..its not natural for me..

but that's not good if you like to chat more online rather than interact in person because you're not as outgoing in person. then you would make the other one think you are this vibrant, outgoing person, and maybe that's exactly what they're looking for...but then you guys meet up and they're like "what the hell", cuz u can't even make eye contact.

it's also like someone said earlier, a lot of it is laziness too. when you meet online, you tend to get straight to business and cut all the bullshit that comes along with meeting someone out in person. i'm a no BS type of girl and i hate dumb mind games that come along with dating (a healthy dose is ok), but i still would rather meet someone in person and go through the motions of calling each other and getting excited at his phone calls, and the dates...rather than coming home and thinking, "omg, did he email me"!?

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

for pedo's and virgins. lame.

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Originally posted by Slylee but that's not good if you like to chat more online rather than interact in person because you're not as outgoing in person. then you would make the other one think you are this vibrant, outgoing person, and maybe that's exactly what they're looking for...but then you guys meet up and they're like "what the hell", cuz u can't even make eye contact.

but it works for really shy people or people who lack confidence in someway..its easier for them to approach someone online and build up confidence then maybe meet later..doesnt work for me though cause i suck online haha

yea i suppose you're right. my ex (the one i met on here) was shy in person...but he was the type of shy person that was only outgoing around people he was comfortable with like his roommates and stuff. so the net definitely helped him communicate more with me, i'm sure. but he was the same in person with me. i mean he was comfortable around me and just like he was online and so there were no surprises. the only surprise i got was a pleasant one. when i saw him in person, he was way hotter than in his pictures, so that was cool.

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For me, I would have to say that Internet is a blessing. I've met friends online that I would _never_ have met traditionally. Two of them in particualr changed my outlook on a lot of my views on aspects of society in general. As for dating, I would prefer online to get introduced to people, as you have the freedom to speak to someone anywhere in the world and as I see myself travelling a lot in the world in the future, to me the Internet has been a godsend for the globe-trotter. I don't plan on staying in any one place for too long, and only the Internet allows me the freedom to do what I wish to do, no matter where I am. I definitely agree that after you get introduced to the person in question, you should meet up at some point after you get to know each other and trust each other. I like the Internet in other ways as far as dating services are concerned because you can specify almost exactly what you are looking for and there would be no need for asking a lot of questions over and over (once for each person you meet). I'm on an online dating site and have a five-paragraph text in there as my own words. If someone sees this, they'll probably say 'He must really know what he's looking for'. I'll write more later...

No need to state the obvious so I will address the friendships in my life. I have met a lot of interesting people over the years from online. Some of those people I ended up meeting in person (and I am still friends with them) while others I have still yet to meet. I have met tons of people from off of TA that I would have never met otherwise and I value them in my life. There are some people that I "talk" to almost everyday or at least a few times a week that I would consider to be some of my closest friends. I have become friends with artists (DJ's and producers) from here and other countries and I know we wouldn't be as close as we are if not for the internet. Some of those people I met in person first and then became friends with them after chatting on the internet (usually through MSN or AIM). I even talk to my best friend on MSN almost as much as I talk to him on the phone. Of course nothing replaces seeing him in person. I figure that if I can meet people that I consider to be friends then why would it be so crazy to meet someone that you ended up dating? Of course you should see and speak to this person in order to further establish your relationship, but I don't see anything wrong with people first having met over the internet. I don't laugh at any relationship that started that way. I do think that if both people are sincere and know what they want and are willing to make the effort to be together then they have a decent chance of making it. You're forced to get to know people without the sexual chemistry always coming into play. Some of the best relationships blossomed from a friendship first. Of course some people know right away that they want to be together.

Trance (EDM in general) is not mainstream all over the world so meeting people with a common interest as yours can sometimes be hard to find. Meeting people from off of TA that share my same passion for music has been a blessing to me.