Originally posted by samiotis
ive already blocked her off my emails aim msn etc. im trying as hard as i can to get her out of my life. i made the mistake of giving her my new cell number. i had her old email address and i found nothing to be worried about there. but she has a new yahoo one which i wouldnt mind checking. she would always check my cell phone when she came over, and would check whos on my aim list and shit like that. it didnt bother me at all
i dont know if shes not trustworthy she has told me everything shes done, but i just feel like shes hiding stuff, i guess its just the position im in that sucks
Well then I guess it comes down to what you want most
1) Know the absolute truth, and by doing so getting hurt => break her email
2) Don't get hurt en leave her behind you. But then you have to be able to live without knowing everything. => don't break it
This depends from person to person I guess. I chose the truth...
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Nov-15-2004 19:38
malek
drinks your milkshake!
Registered: Nov 2001
Location: Montréal
read it, who cares
anyone talking about respect should be hanged. (as if she respected him by cheating)
Registered: Jan 2002
Location: Oldenzaal, Netherlands
Re: do you think its bad to...
quote:
Originally posted by samiotis
try to check you ex's e-mail?
even though i dont know her pass i'd love to check it, because i know she's been talking to this guy she met. even before we broke up.
YES.
Leave her alone. What's done is done.
Nov-15-2004 19:39
lücid
electric girl
Registered: Aug 2003
Location: NY
quote:
Originally posted by samiotis
she would always check my cell phone when she came over, and would check whos on my aim list and shit like that. it didnt bother me at all
see, that kind of shit should not be tolerated in relationships. you say it didn't bother you, but it should. doing stuff like that is basically her saying, "i'm insecure and i don't trust you so i'm gonna check up on you repeatedly"... a lot of the time when someone doesn't trust their partner, it's because they are the ones who should not be trusted, doing the things that she is trying to bust you out for - cheating, lying, etc.
i know it's hard to move on, but it sounds like you'll just be beating a dead horse by checking her e-mail.
well i broke into her email shes been talking to her ex boyfriend of 4 years who she left for me because she was in love with me for those years. which took me by surprise but she also talked to that guy i thought she would. im not really hurt im just glad i know the truth. apparently she still has feelings for her ex. anyways im gonna leave it at that oh yeah how do i block her number on my cell?
Nov-15-2004 19:46
malek
drinks your milkshake!
Registered: Nov 2001
Location: Montréal
quote:
Originally posted by samiotis
well i broke into her email shes been talking to her ex boyfriend of 4 years who she left for me because she was in love with me for those years. which took me by surprise but she also talked to that guy i thought she would. im not really hurt im just glad i know the truth. apparently she still has feelings for her ex. anyways im gonna leave it at that oh yeah how do i block her number on my cell?
Now why would you ask for advice if you're not going to pay any attention? It was obvious you were dying to check on her. You can't deny that you're hurt. You are. Don't hide it. That was expected.
Get yourself a new number and stop violating the privacy of others.
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Nov-15-2004 19:53
lücid
electric girl
Registered: Aug 2003
Location: NY
quote:
Originally posted by ierxium Now why would you ask for advice if you're not going to pay any attention? It was obvious you were dying to check on her. You can't deny that you're hurt. You are. Don't hide it. That was expected.
Get yourself a new number and stop violating the privacy of others.
it doesnt bother me, shes violated my privacy alot more, this was the only thing ive done thats violated hers. you dont understand she was pretty psycho during our relationship. thats why shes my ex now
Nov-15-2004 20:01
Halcyon+On+On
Liebchen
Registered: Sep 2004
Location: midcoast
If you feel the need to check up on your partner, there's really no use perpetuating the relationship any further - it's obvious that you have definite trust issues, and if you really, truly, cared for this person and trusted this person (the foundations for any worthwhile relationship) then you wouldn't need to check up on her. It doesn't matter if she's "guilty" of talking to her ex-boyfriend; people's feelings for one another are so fickle, and if there's much doubt in either person's mind of the partner or of yourself and the relationship, then plese don't waste that person's time any further.
Some people were born to die alone. Chances are, you're one of them if you can't get your priorities straight.
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Nov-15-2004 20:04
sensorium
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Jun 2004
Location:
quote:
Originally posted by samiotis
it doesnt bother me, shes violated my privacy alot more, this was the only thing ive done thats violated hers. you dont understand she was pretty psycho during our relationship. thats why shes my ex now
You're on denial. In an earlier post you said it didn't bother you. Don't contradict yourself. And she 'violated' your privacy while you two were together. So if it bothered you, then you're just stupid since you didn't let her know. You talk about her been psycho. Man, you're the one checking up on her after you both break up. That makes you worst than psycho. Only a lunatic goes checking the mail of an ex.
Now why would you ask for advice if you're not going to pay any attention? It was obvious you were dying to check on her. You can't deny that you're hurt. You are. Don't hide it. That was expected. 
