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A.J.
Back from the dead

Registered: Nov 2003
Location: Sydney
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Nov-30-2004 21:52
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Halcyon+On+On
Liebchen

Registered: Sep 2004
Location: midcoast
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Re: Re: Re: the "i'm feelin **** 2day thread"
| quote: | Originally posted by goonerjack
I know that she liked me, but I didn't know how much cuz none of the people in our groups of mates are friends - so like we've always been in different groups. I couldnt really find out from a friend how much she liked me, so I just had to bite the bullet and find out myself. Fuckin sucks now tho! What do you mean by 'just change'?
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Well, perhaps (you thought) at a time she once liked you as much as you liked her, but those feelings of hers changed while yours stayed the same? People change - they drift on, but the pain of never knowing, never throwing yourself out there for her would, in the long run, be far more caustic a feeling of self-loathing than you're experiencing right now.
I'm really sorry she doesn't feel the same, but that can never change, so there's no reason to fret over it. You can't change people - you can only change yourself. I face similar dilemmas, but situationally, fundamental differences remain. This sort of thing makes you wonder - was I truly in love, or was I in love with the idea of this person whom I had defined in my own mind? The only resolution is asking the object of your affection - it may seem foolhardy to let your feelings slip, but isn't the risk worth it? Despite the face of rejection, if there was a chance that this person feels exactly how you do, wouldn't you risk the world for the chance to know and to be at ease?
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Nov-30-2004 21:56
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goonerjack
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Jan 2004
Location: London, England
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Re: Re: Re: Re: the "i'm feelin **** 2day thread"
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
Well, perhaps (you thought) at a time she once liked you as much as you liked her, but those feelings of hers changed while yours stayed the same? People change - they drift on, but the pain of never knowing, never throwing yourself out there for her would, in the long run, be far more caustic a feeling of self-loathing than you're experiencing right now.
I'm really sorry she doesn't feel the same, but that can never change, so there's no reason to fret over it. You can't change people - you can only change yourself. I face similar dilemmas, but situationally, fundamental differences remain. This sort of thing makes you wonder - was I truly in love, or was I in love with the idea of this person whom I had defined in my own mind? The only resolution is asking the object of your affection - it may seem foolhardy to let your feelings slip, but isn't the risk worth it? Despite the face of rejection, if there was a chance that this person feels exactly how you do, wouldn't you risk the world for the chance to know and to be at ease? |
Profound ... of course in the long run it will be much better than never knowing, but at the moment everything else seems so insignificant. I wanna be happy, and even with my teachers constantly bitching at me, if I had that girl nothing else would matter. There just seemed something different about her, I know prettier girls and would even go as far to say I know more interesting girls. But I'd never felt the same about any other girl - it just seemed to me that something was right - obviously I was wrong 
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Nov-30-2004 22:03
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goonerjack
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Jan 2004
Location: London, England
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| quote: | Hiya Jack, i feel really bad bout 2day, im sorry.
We get on really wel and ur a gud friend of mine. Please can we stil be mates. Im sorry if i gave u the wrong impression or sumit, i was really flattered by wat u sed, but i jus wana be friends, if thats alrite? I hope it is.
Sorry again, c u 2mo,
Love Nikki* |
Just got this in my inbox, and it's made me feel a bit better. Probs won't email back at the moment, might as well just wait till tomorrow. I'll let her know that she has no need to apologise etc... and that it'd be cool if we can still hang out together
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Nov-30-2004 22:09
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goonerjack
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Jan 2004
Location: London, England
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: the "i'm feelin **** 2day thread"
| quote: | Originally posted by Nou
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That's alrite dude, really helps to get it out I think. Yours is a tough situation, and may just be one which you'll end up getting hurt in (like me) if you decide you do have feelings for her.
It's weird, although something like I did can really cock up a good friendship, I think it has the potential-ness (just stuck -ness on the end of the word there ) to make us better friends, which can only be a good thing. I kinda feel it's a lot clearer between us afterwards, and although I still feel like shit, over time I'll be able to get past that and hopefully have a very good friend. I suppose I've just gotta look on the bright side and realise that I gave it a shot and got rejected, but it's all experience, and if she said she was flattered by what I said it's gotta be good.
Tomorrow I think I'll take her aside and have a chat about it, let her know that she's got no need to say sorry and that she didnt give out the wrong impression - just that since I got to know her properly I liked her a lot more cuz shes a really nice girl... but I'd still be very happy if we cud be good friends etc.
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Nov-30-2004 22:21
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goonerjack
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Jan 2004
Location: London, England
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Nov-30-2004 22:23
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