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Re: Re: Re: the "i'm feelin **** 2day thread"
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I know that she liked me, but I didn't know how much cuz none of the people in our groups of mates are friends - so like we've always been in different groups. I couldnt really find out from a friend how much she liked me, so I just had to bite the bullet and find out myself. Fuckin sucks now tho! What do you mean by 'just change'?
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Well, perhaps (you thought) at a time she once liked you as much as you liked her, but those feelings of hers changed while yours stayed the same? People change - they drift on, but the pain of never knowing, never throwing yourself out there for her would, in the long run, be far more caustic a feeling of self-loathing than you're experiencing right now.
I'm really sorry she doesn't feel the same, but that can never change, so there's no reason to fret over it. You can't change people - you can only change yourself. I face similar dilemmas, but situationally, fundamental differences remain. This sort of thing makes you wonder - was I truly in love, or was I in love with the idea of this person whom I had defined in my own mind? The only resolution is asking the object of your affection - it may seem foolhardy to let your feelings slip, but isn't the risk worth it? Despite the face of rejection, if there was a chance that this person feels exactly how you do, wouldn't you risk the world for the chance to know and to be at ease?
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