One last question, you've been really helpful, and i appreciate it muchly;

What is the best VST to use, for a side chaining compression;
and what settings will i need to use on the side chain compressor to get the desired result

Thanks

In fact I don't own any SideChain Vst.. If you load the .flp in fruity you will see that it is only a simple compressor with an automation on the threshold.
When the kick comes the threshold goes -20 with an quick attack, then it rise to -5 at the offbeat..

Ok this is the sound im getting though :S

http://www.djbensmith.net/synth.mp3

Is that what yours sounded like before EQ and Side chaining?

Yes ! now you can load the midi notes, put the tempo to 128BPM and equalize the sound trying to follow the equalization curve I gave you.

really well done, goes to show how important an EQ is on this bassline