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The only reason omission is painful is when you are omitting something hurtful you did.
For instance. The other day my GF wanted to stop by on her way out. for 15 minutes and then she was gone. Hadnt seen eachother in a day or so and it would have been nice.
I say Im going to be gone and it wont work.
I tell my other friend im going to gym for a bit and ill talk to him later.
She asks him where I am
he says the gym
her thought "he chose the gym over me...wow."
what actually happened is I stopped by the gym and then had to go see my uncle and give him his dog back that wed been keeping for a month and he was going to be here for 1 hour. The hour encompassed her 15 minute window.
Should I have told her all that?
No, its time consuming and a pain in the ass. Its a trust issue. If someone says "I cant, Ill be busy" if you ask "Doing what" for ANY other reason than PURE curiosity you are not only distrusting them but not respecting their ability to make good decisions. and you know, sometimes people need to be alone. So respect that as well and dont press it.
If its a constant game of hide and seek with your significant other...I cant imagine being in a relationship like that. How miserable.
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