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easier said than done...
u will go thru a lot of pain before that happens....at times u mite wanna stop trying and go back.so its all pretty on paper but too much pain in reality.i've got so many ppl giving me the same advice...it never works. |
your right.BUT everyone can tell you how to overcome it but that wont mean shit. the same as my parents telling me not to drink and do drugs or skip school...blahblah did i listen? no. did i fall on my ass the same way they said i would? yes. it took me 10 years to get over my shyness. i barely talked to anyone and vise versa. it became real intense for two years up until last year and i am way happier now. if you want to know how i did it i will tell you...pm me. the gist of it....the only way to overcome is to create a goal. listed here are all attainable goals, you just need to make the steps realistic for you. you cant attain true self esteem and feel absolutly good about yourself overnight. its an on going painful process, like you said. examine who you have around you and see how they fit into your life...damn....this is waaayyyy toooo deep no cant tell im a pre-med/psyc major...but really, self esteem grows from you doing things for yourself, living your life and realizing your goals. once you can see that in you is the only way towards true happiness and sense of self. thats when shyness goes away; because your self confidence took it over.
take advise as advise. as a learning oppertunity...not as a way you should be living your life because its your life...not anyone elses. 
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