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Re: Abortion
| quote: | Originally posted by JOEBIALEK
For a country that murders it's children cannot be far from self destruction. |
I've got one very good reason lately why such a conscience comparison is irrelevant in the modern USA
Over a million dead Iraqi's.
They have kids too, a great many of that number of deceased are kids and its become quite clear to the rest of the world that the US is really not someone you should go looking too for any kind of moral compass as it is hopelessly skewed influenced by the selfish opinions of its loud mouth, minority inhabitants.
For the better part of written history the boys have had the final say over the lives of women in terms of finance, laws, medical practice and cultural influence and its only still since the 1960's and 70's started to get to the point where they don't have the complete say, in some countries.
And now, you don't.
As tough as that is for you to accept, its time to stop being the testosterone bully and go do something you're undoubtedly much better equipped and qualified for: clubbing other boys over the head, picking up heavy things and taking out the garbage.
Heck if you really need to justify your intellectual and creative existence on the planet, go write an essay on why the world sucks from a masculine perspective.
Because I'm not qualified to do that.
Just like you're not really qualified from any point other than an archaic, skewed and cultural concept of selfishness to write on women's health and I highly doubt you're a gynaecologist.
What I can write about is the perspective of why unwanted pregnancy sucks for the majority of women around the world.
With the exception of only a few developed countries, its still a hazardous and unhealthy part of life that kills either the mother or child and sometimes both. Even in a country with decent medical care, there's still a risk, the figures are quite well published.
Occupationally, most employers in our developed countries treat childbearing as an 'option' of employment during and after pregnancy, rather than a fact of life. They will use any means necessary to get you off their payroll and not come back.
So, having worked your way up though the morass of male dominated careers out there, finally have enough in the bank, house and maybe a partner. You're having a kid.
Well lucky you, chances are, your career for the next 5 years is effectively over unless you want to palm the kid off to childcare, you will not have an independent income and financially with medical bills, insurance and another mouth to feed as small as it may be, its going to be a lot tougher.
This is not exactly a simple situation of social inconvenience to have a child people so casually make it out to paint pregnant women getting abortions as being selfish. It is a major disruptive event in your life you don't want to be blundering into without a fair amount of support from the partner, your family and friends.
Because you can unequivocally say in the majority of cases for people out there working part time and casual, your boss isn't going to want to see you back and they're certainly not going to give a damn if you don't like the fact.
People aren't using this procedure because they think its an easy option of having the medical equivalent of a drain cleaner shoved up them for amusement, inconvenience socially or because they simply hate all life.
It gets done when someone simply cannot have a child in their life.
Mentally, emotionally, financially, medically or morally in some cases, they simply cannot have a child.
It is not a means of birth control.
Often for the reasons above and the failure of birth control because no birth control is 100% assured, it gets used. Give people a 100% sure way of stopping pregnancy during intercourse and if they end up pregnant with this option not being used then they can be considered idiots, selfish and what not for getting an abortion.
But there isn't
So there needs to be a fall back measure.
Even on a social level having kids is fraught with problems.
It takes 2
Sometimes even under amicable situations at the time of the child's birth, marriages and relationships don't last and then, as is the case normally- the girls end up looking after the kid(s)
And you really are up that creek without a paddle.
Chances of new partner (outside of romantic dreams and notions as seen in hollywood productions) when you have kids- pretty awful
Chances of raising children on a full income and still being able to spend time with them- pretty awful
Chances of getting back your former career after the kids have been raised- very, very awful
Chances of former partner actually helping- 50:50
Chances of kids emotionally disturbed by this and economic hardship- assured
Oh it's quite easy to simply say, we'll have more tax-charity for this, but I mean for a lot of you, you're still at school, lower to middle income and while I make no judgement on that, its your life! You really aren't in the position to be forking out wads of cash.
Last year, my taxes would have paid for in my country, for 38 single parents allowances and I will be quite blunt and succinct about this.
I DO NOT WANT TO PAY FOR OTHER PEOPLES MISTAKES FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME
We are talking bucks here?
Yes we are, how many would the taxes of of your income paid for last year on average with the single parents bonus-dole allowance is around $17,000?
1? maybe 2?
Personally I would much rather have paid for 38 x $800 surgeries with the full blown surgeon, clean conditions and the remaining change from my taxes can go into things which benefit everyone.
New wing on your university or school
Fixing holes in the road
Additional wards on a hospital
And many other sundry things which taxes get used for that aren't going just into child support on such a massive level.
I am not being selfish here dodging out of my socially and legally enforced moral obligation to pay taxes, I'd just like to see them spent on something else, rather than something which is entirely preventable in most modern countries. Selfishness from the fathers perspective however, even with socially and legally enforced moral obligation to pay money for their kid, is still one of those 'grey' areas that a lot of men choose to dodge around.
For the majority of mothers, its just not an option to abandon a child for maternal reasons. Most men however, don't seem to have this little bit of moral compass and the walk-out rate is fairly horrific as they run off to unsullied, financially free pastures full of eligible partners which aren't going to cost them a mint.
It is in conclusion why I think we don't really want the men's moral compass turning into the legal enforcement of women's procedure of child rearing or choice of abortion.
You simply aren't qualified to make it most of the time.
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