Registered: Jul 2003
Location: 2012. Everything changes after this year :) <3 so can't wait.
depends on whether you can handle 'going with the flow' and keeping it somewhat casual till *further* notice -- and yeah i agree, this would be the perfect situation for a guy also. altho i do think 4-5 months is a bit long to be undecided about things. u either want to be with someone or you don't...
if she is undecided cuz shes *too* much into the club scene, id either 'lose' her or do the FWB thing. seriously.
go with ur gut...if u think shes stringing you along, sit her down and say you want the option of seeing other people. See what she says. Have the conversation, at least you'll know where you stand for sure, and you're also letting her know in advance whats going to happen, and then she can't come back whining and crying about assumptions & all other bs. Then go ahead and do your thing
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Originally posted by ludawg23
simple...never, ever let a girl control your emotions if you guys are not in the same boat. Better to let it go now than to get your heart broken 10x worse in the future.
I agree with this, it goes for any situation where ppl aren't on the same level.
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Jun-10-2008 16:28
kadomony
FRENCH EXPRESS
Registered: Jul 2004
Location: Philly
attraction is not a choice. if you're not making out/having sex with her in addition to hanging out(i'm guessing that's what you mean by relationship) best to let her go and find someone else.
don't stay with her dude, she'll be an emotional drain on you since you'll always be trying to get her into a relationship which she obviously doesn't want with you or now.
other girls will sense that and it'll actually hurt your chances with someone new.
cut and run man! you can still be friends with your current girl, but get it out of your mind about the relationship thing. don't see her nearly as often (2-3 times per week at most if possible)
Originally posted by vtec junkie
fuck the ever living shit out of her then go find yourself another lady. you will see out fast she comes running back to you. lol
INDEED. and if she doesn't come back, fuck it, you still fucked the shit outta her... win-win situation if you ask me.
Jun-10-2008 17:30
yankeeBaby
Keepin it real....
Registered: Feb 2005
Location: Upper West Side NYC
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Originally posted by vtec junkie
fuck the ever living shit out of her then go find yourself another lady. you will see out fast she comes running back to you. lol
hahah loves it! perfect advice!!
every situation is different, but to be honest, I have been in the girls position.
I met my current BF and was NOT intersted in a relationship. We did the "hang-out" thing for about 4 months before I really realized that I needed to be with this man.
He really wanted to be in a relationship almost as soon as we knew each other, but I was having too much fun being single and pushed him away (in the sense of a committment).
She MAY be in the same boat as me, and she MAY come around. but you ought to know after 5 months if this is the type that will do so, or if she is just stringing you along.
"...As to the first point, that of money. Well most guys know that women dig guys with money. Would Donald Trump be fucking models if he wasn't rich? That question is rhetorical. Now I don't even believe this is wrong, I think it is just nature. But I also think women who are this way (and it is almost all of you) should be honest and admit that they are basically whores, and stop saying bad things about the so-called "actual whores" who are just trying to earn an honest living."
HAHA. Thank you!!
Jun-10-2008 17:35
chimera66
PARTOUZE
Registered: Jun 2006
Location: Left Coast
^there is a difference between wanting someone with money and wanting someone successful. people who tend to say earn their own money exude confidence which is what women are attracted to so more times than not those successful guys happen to have money. it is also a sign of stability and let's admit it we all want economic stability. i have plenty of friends male and female who want to marry rich and i don't see anything wrong with that. it's not about money per se
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I once saw Swamper peel off 4 or 5 $100 bills from a fat roll and say this to Donald Trump: "Go clean yourself up; you look like a bum.". And then he threw the bills right in Trump's face/hair! Then Swamper and his entourage of 30, who were all wearing TA monogramed Rolexes, left the room and flew to Hawaii for a few hours because Del wanted fresh coconut.
To his defense, Trump didn't even really look like a bum.
Jun-10-2008 18:02
kadomony
FRENCH EXPRESS
Registered: Jul 2004
Location: Philly
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Originally posted by chimera66
^there is a difference between wanting someone with money and wanting someone successful. people who tend to say earn their own money exude confidence which is what women are attracted to so more times than not those successful guys happen to have money. it is also a sign of stability and let's admit it we all want economic stability. i have plenty of friends male and female who want to marry rich and i don't see anything wrong with that. it's not about money per se
yea srsly, ladder theory is nothing but a joke.
although, there are some truths in it, it doesn't make a point to expand on them.
Originally posted by DJ_Lord
dude...this is perfect...hang out with her on weekends and shit, meanwhile u look for another girl and then make the swap...she set it up for u bro...take advantage of it..u gotta play her game and beat her at it too!
+1
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Jun-10-2008 20:42
limin_li
Asian Mafioso Nerdbot
Registered: May 2002
Location: Cockeysville, Baltimore
Thank you all for the response. My take on this is that she is really taking her time to making a decision meanwhile she wants to know if she can spent the rest of her 4-5 years with me.
What really happened is that, she broke up with her first boyfriend last August (2007) She has been with him for four and half years. This is the first time she branch out to the Asian guys. I just happened to be the first victim.
i hear what youre saying but if shes insecure about her future and at the same time feels insecure about her relationship with you...cause by now it should be at least close to that....then you should dump her, not worth it..yes i realize u really really really like her, but unstable girls are not worth it, just move on and find yourself a better fish...being cold-hearted will help u in this situation
loves it! perfect advice!! 
