So let me get this straight - you're 29 and you dated a guy who was still trying to bang his ex's. Got dumped by this guy. He's still playing you for a fool and sleeping with you - and now that you figured out he's giving it to his ex's too, you're upset.
If you're 29 and still struggling to figure out this guy's maturity level (on the low side, btw) - you really need to reevaluate things.
dude is working the field. crops need harvesting before the winter.
Nov-11-2009 21:48
R.j.
Di piú! di piú! di piú!
Registered: Feb 2004
Location: L, TX, USA
I talk to all my exgirlfriends. Even if I were dating a girl. The reason I dated (and was attracted to) those ex-girlfriends is because we both had something(s) to relate to, and it carries over to post-relationship time.
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Originally posted by R.j.
I talk to all my exgirlfriends. Even if I were dating a girl. The reason I dated (and was attracted to) those ex-girlfriends is because we both had something(s) to relate to, and it carries over to post-relationship time.
It would be wonderful if this worked as easily as you have described it here. I still care about two guys I used to date, and one of them - I still talk to his grandma and sister all the time.
I had to give up my relationship with one of them after a very bad incident when he came to Toronto for a concert one weekend (he lives in Quebec) and him and his three friends stayed with me and my boyfriend. The two of them almost kicked the shit out of eachother.
At first I was angry at the fact that my bf would get all pissy everytime I talked to him, but then I imagined the situation in reverse and knew that I would hate it too. I don't think it's an issue of trust, so much as the idea "why would you want to spend time with someone else over me?"
In the end, I just made the decision: who was more important to me?
This sounds unfair even when I write it like "why couldn't I keep both in my life"
I guess it's just the way that it all played out that made me realize I needed to let this friendship go. There was lots in our past that I was able to get over, but that made my bf hate his guts.
friends are different... we both have opposite-sex friends and that's all good. I think the domain of the ex is a different story though.
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Nov-11-2009 22:11
Schadenfreude
Bird is the word.
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both sexes are always guilty of this.
easy lay is easy...and they just don't want to give up that "safety blanket".
yea i know the type you're talking about. it's usually a head game for them. making the current gf jealous and on her toes. or they just need to be surrounded by attention all the time, they need an audience, and women make a better audience because there's no competition. i've known several guys like that (friends) and dated one (very briefly). yea there are people who can still be cool with an ex, i'm not against that at all. but it's not hard to spot when the person does it on purpose and has a motive. at least for me it's easy to spot.
but yea you're 29 and it's time to grow up and want a healthy, mature relationship. and you should know by now how men are. and i mean REALLY know. not the total opposite of "know", which seems to plague a lot of the female population. i can't tell you how many times i've had the biggest WTF face in my life listening to coworkers talk about how men are and they are so fucking far off base that i can't contain my loud laughter and cause an awkward silence.
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man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone
Nov-11-2009 22:16
Schadenfreude
Bird is the word.
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pro tip : if they ask you if they can put it in your anus they are keepers and after your best interests
I try to stay cool with my exes. Try is the word. the last gf and I broke up, she rebounded hard as it was a tough break up for her. I try to call and say hi and check up once every few months but never get an answer. Doesnt bug me too much ill just keep checking up every few months until she finally does answer to say hi. shes just bitter always was a vengeful girl.
Other then her all my other exes i get along with great.