Originally posted by Lews
Telling her the truth. That you love the idea of getting married, but you're not sure if you're ready for it yet, and then explain your reasoning why.
already done
Nov-27-2009 08:51
Arbiter
Naked Power Organ
Registered: May 2002
Location:
Clever girl; I like her. See how she's managed to extract sensitive information from you without providing you with anything in return?
Now she knows how you feel, but you're merely speculating about how she feels. She's gained an advantage with her superior tactics. Sure, it's a little manipulative, but if you're going to make it so easy for her she would be a fool not to take advantage.
Nov-27-2009 08:53
djhaziel
Snake Charmer
Registered: Jan 2007
Location: San Francisco
This might be a little off but she is from punjabe - India right?
I have friends from that part of the world and it is a custom that after a girl is done with her University the parents find their daughter a guy to marry . in another words an arranged marriage.
It could be the case that since she has a bf she doesnt have to go through that ...but if you were to deny her , her parents might find a guy to marry her right away ... most likely a cousin
I know this sounds crazy but my friend met his wife through a picture he said yes and they got marry ... i was like
Be aware that she is considering you as her first option to marry her ... you should be happy
Originally posted by djhaziel
This might be a little off but she is from punjabe - India right?
I have friends from that part of the world and it is a custom that after a girl is done with her University the parents find their daughter a guy to marry . in another words an arranged marriage.
It could be the case that since she has a bf she doesnt have to go through that ...but if you were to deny her , her parents might find a guy to marry her right away ... most likely a cousin
I know this sounds crazy but my friend met his wife through a picture he said yes and they got marry ... i was like
Be aware that she is considering you as her first option to marry her ... you should be happy
lol, not the case with this family. they are very liberal.
i joke about this with her all the time
Nov-27-2009 09:07
nefardec
Tranceaddict in tranning
Registered: Oct 2004
Location:
quote:
Originally posted by Arbiter
Clever girl; I like her. See how she's managed to extract sensitive information from you without providing you with anything in return?
i know right?
girls...
Nov-27-2009 09:07
Omega_Blue
Someone Changed My Custom
Registered: Dec 2003
Location: Gone
i think you're overreacting a bit. you can take it as manipulative, but imo she threw that question out there just to see where you're at, relationship-wise. then she backpedaled and said "it wasn't serious" or whatever once you expressed that you didn't like the fact that she asked you on gmail, because she understands as well as you (or anyone, for that matter) that proposing to someone via chat is pretty lame. lol
obviously it doesn't count as a "real" marriage proposal, but i would definitely think that she is open and ready for the idea of marriage (otherwise she would've avoided the topic). pop the question if and when you're ready to take that leap.
manipulation implies ill-intentions which i severely doubt she had.
Nov-27-2009 09:10
Omega_Blue
Someone Changed My Custom
Registered: Dec 2003
Location: Gone
quote:
Originally posted by nefardec
i felt that she was trying to gauge my level of commitment before making a commitment to move in with me.
that explains everything. i dunno dude, i think you generally know where you're at in this situation, you've got nothing to worry about. i'd take it as a good sign, personally.
Nov-27-2009 09:13
Arbiter
Naked Power Organ
Registered: May 2002
Location:
quote:
Originally posted by Omega_Blue
manipulation implies ill-intentions which i severely doubt she had.
Not at all. In fact, I've got something she can manipulate.
