The reason why it's hard to make friends (especially when you get older) is most people are afraid to talk... or just make polite casual convo (or just totally obliterated out of there minds and can't handle a coherent convo). I have been to events and just randomly said something to someone and they looked at me with the expression "who are you and what do you want from me?" and that mentality can be quite demotivating and there are other times when I can meet the coolest person ever and end up really good friends with them.

Most New Yorkers are rude, admittedly myself sometimes too when I am in a bitchy mood. They likely have been wronged by one of these "fake" friendly clubbers and are now extremely cautious (and probably for good reason), however I still enjoy walking up to random people and introducing myself and more often than not they don't look at me like I am crazy. Trying is the only way to find out

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You all speak the gospel- I learned my lesson from the last time I went out and aside from maybe curbing the drinking/partying to be more on point sounds like a good time.

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Originally posted by SebG I usually go alone and meet up with other people.

LIKEWISE....

this way i'm in control of when i went to leave and what not....

I may go out solo...but i don't leave the club solo

easier to pick up sluts when you go solo

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Originally posted by Chaska I've always been an advocate for flying solo. You can go wherever you want without having to try to convince anyone to join you, you can arrive when you want, leave when you want and with whoever you want; and if you want to afterparty, you can do that too. I've been going out alone pretty much for 10+ years and it's the only way to go for me.

couldn't agree more. I used to have my own group in the twilo days and enjoyed some of the best club nights of my life with them, but since then I've been flying solo and loving it. here and there I'll go with a friend or 2 but I've been aware of the disadvantages of going with many pple a while ago. I also get to focus on & take in the music more when I go alone. I wouldn't have it any other way..I meet pple in the club also but I can't converse well in loud environments so I avoid lol.

I live in NJ and always go solo from here. I usually meet up with some people in the city and end up crashing at their place if the night was a rough one haha. I always have a backup place though just in case. I love solo adventures.

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Originally posted by EliPsE I live in NJ and always go solo from here. I usually meet up with some people in the city and end up crashing at their place if the night was a rough one haha. I always have a backup place though just in case. I love solo adventures.

This is exactly my scenario, I also live in jersey and usually would crash at my friends place so this was always a huge factor on me going out most of the times. If I'm rolling solo I'll just have to have some backup plans.

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Originally posted by EliPsE I live in NJ and always go solo from here. I usually meet up with some people in the city and end up crashing at their place if the night was a rough one haha. I always have a backup place though just in case. I love solo adventures.

Oh dude, there were many instances when i was driving back and i was so mentally and physically tired that was going nuts. Once it took me 4 tries to get out of china town to holland tunnel. I was seriously going crazy with a big brain fart.

Now I try to take a train as much as possible.

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back in the day like 98-01 i used to have some friends who i used to go out with but they were stricly house heads, once i started to explore more genre's i was pretty much going out by myself later on in 03 i started goin out with an old friend who liked trance so i was always with him but anytime he couldnt make it i was always solo or met up with people from ta
i met alot of great people over the years from nyta and wouldnt wanna party with anyone else

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Originally posted by TaurusNYY So last week I hit two parties with 2 friends and damn was it lame- it was nothing against them personally but it seems when I roll with people that just dont feel the music as much as I do I spend more time dealing with bitching then partying. I really am going to have start rolling solo to these spots since once Im in these clubs Im usually on my own little adventure anyway- smh. The older you get the less friends you realize you have lol at least ones who dig this kind of scene. Any true solo warriors out there that can really vouch for it and getting home in one piece.

I have always been a solo warrior, I go to the club with my friends, split up, find new to "random cool" people to chill with, its like an adventure. Of course I swing by my buddys to chill a bit but for the most part im solo. This also depends on the vibe, if the club is filled with vibeless idiots then I just stay with my friends

I have gone to a party solo once and ended up leaving early so It's not something that I usually do. I do have few friends that enjoy the type of techno/house I like so I got no problem there.

But I know we seem to go to into many similar parties. Hit me up next time we're at the same club. But it's definitely better to do it solo if you really enjoy the dj/music rather then going out with people that can't stand the music.

thank god my gf likes the same music as me and can hang with me. I'd go solo tho and then you eventually meet cool people to rage with. Solo can be fun though.