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I don't know why IGK would be so quick to blame the mom, honestly moms tend to work the hardest in divorced families. Unless the dad isn't around at all, all of my friends who had divorced parents were usually spoiled by their fathers.
After my parents split up my mom was def the authority figure, since we lived with her. My dad spoiled us rotten when we stayed with him, especially my brother who figured out quickly that crocodile tears were a quick way to get new toys. It wasn't competition really, my brother and I never compared our mom or dad, or even really played them off each other (there wasn't a point really, their divorce was amicable, not messy in the least, and my parents to this day still are able to speak to each other very casually and freely).
In terms of showing love through money though my dad is definitely one of those types, but so is his whole side of his family. They are very English, stiff upper lip types, where emotion of any sort is not shown, except anger, and usually only after quite a bit of prodding. Money is an easy bypass for them. On birthdays my moms side of the family always gave a real gift, on my dads side always a check. My brother has definitely taken advantage of this over the years. He is much more cool to both my parents, and as such my dad lavishes him with money and anything he wants. My brother is working a job, making a living and able to support himself and his hobbies at the moment, but my dad still pays for a lot of his trips (he goes to Japan for fun multiple times a year, on my dad's dime) and other random fun stuff like making records (he and his band have studio produced two records, including CD pressings, and they are in the studio on their third record).
I ask for the bare minimum to support myself through school and any fun stuff I do comes from investments I made when I was working full time and I am usually very conservative with my money there. I spend the minimum amount of expenditures possible, and very rarely am I totally frivolous. As a kid I rarely asked for anything expensive. The most I got was getting a new computer a few times, and my DJ gear when I was 15. I never felt good about asking for random shit just because I wanted it.
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