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Originally posted by Eugene I've been in a situation similar to yours. When I was 18 I totally, passionately fell in love with a girl who was 2 yrs older (20). I couldn't stop thinking about her... and although nothing sexual happened between us, the whole thing was a source of grim depression for me...

So what did happen, and what did you do to get over it?

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Love is only true in fairytales

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There is no such thing as "love"

This is basically the most false - yet the most commonly accepted - statement there is.. Perhaps it should be something considered on individual matter, and never said out publicly.. See, basically people who say that most of the time either never really experienced love (just lust, like in the case of Aabech: you can't really love someone you don't really know), or lived one-way relationship (the love that wasn't given back in its full)... In both case, these people get disapointed, and take the bitter position towards the world Love... but trust me, the "love" is out there...

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Originally posted by k.k.d. This is basically the most false - yet the most commonly accepted - statement there is.. Perhaps it should be something considered on individual matter, and never said out publicly.. See, basically people who say that most of the time either never really experienced love (just lust, like in the case of Aabech: you can't really love someone you don't really know), or lived one-way relationship (the love that wasn't given back in its full)... In both case, these people get disapointed, and take the bitter position towards the world Love... but trust me, the "love" is out there...

word to that, bratan. love is sacrifice. it's not butterflies in your stomach, it's rhinoes in your heart. i'm a hopeless romantic,

but if everyone would say that love doesn't exist, that it's simply a massive quandary in your mind where chemical unbalances cause you to feel nostalgic and empassioned when those feelings really shouldn't be there; if everyone says that love is nothing more than a mutually concentual hallucination - nothing more than a dream that two people create for each other, then i say forget it - forget this reality - i'd much rather just keep dreaming.

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You're like a sight for sore eyes, lyrical and gentle, borderlining sentimental...

i suppose love, as it is portrayed in fairy tales or romance movies - a merry-go-round feeling of happiness and etc. - only exists in those tales & movies. in real life, love can be as much depressing and painful as it is enjoyable and satisfying. it will make you cry and it will make you smile.

i don't trust the psychologists, because i think they go by the book too often, and you can't always do that, because some things, they just don't conform to the psychological stereotypes the books set up. sexual needs, physical beauty, the desire not to be lonely in life, the desire to have someone you can count on do exist, but aren't they all what a common notion of love is? a physical and emotional attraction between two people? just a bunch of chemical reactions that are based on individual needs?

what is that feeling, then, that makes you protect someone, do things for them just because you want to? love may not exist, but still, something is there, something that can't be quite explained.

p.s. thanks, maaz

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