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Originally posted by butterfly My bf recently broke up with me and I have been consoled by several other people in the same situation. And then someone said that it is very common this time of year. So who is in the same boat as me? It is so hard....

id agree that 'time is the healer' so to speak. i personally would just try to look at it as an experience to learn from. and i dont mean in the sense of how to avoid it in the future, but to learn something from your relationships in general. if there is nothing to take away after significant time spent with someone, then whats the point? everything (almost) is about progressing, developing, growing as a person, etc. and i find that most-present in relationships.

so just look back and capture the good things, and what they taught you. of course it doesn't hurt to think about how to avoid the low-points in the future, but we're focusing on positive here...

and also, post-breakup, or any lonely time really, is a chance to be with yourself and sort of 'work on' yourself - stupid as that sounds. i know i go through periods of loneliness (just like tomcraft) but you gotta try to use that time to focus on yourself, things that make you happy, or work, or whatever else you gotta do on your path.

key is (according to me, not everyone) : you gotta be happy with yourself and by yourself before you can truly and healthily get really close to other people and allow your happiness to come from them. cause when they're gone, you need to stay afloat.

good luck, i gotta get back to this mountain of work in 'my path'

--dannyB-- (temporary philosopher)

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Originally posted by jdat oh nooooo I'm so sorry to hear that melissa as for advice grrrr I'm in a hurry so I can't give none right this moment, but I will later when I come back grrr I still can't believe he dumped you what a loser

yeah, that post went great with the butterfly in your sig

Single is not that bad imo. Frankly it's less stressful imo and plus I find I have more money to spend on myself (not that I mind spending money on others)

cheer up melissa!

don't worry.. there are tons of guys out there.. right now you need to drink away your sorrows!

*hugs from chicago*

Porky

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Originally posted by butterfly i guess. i thoroughly enjoyed being single when i wanted to be. but right now that isn't what i really want. plus i have very strong feelings for me ex and i wish he wanted to be with me.

You always want what you cant have...................

Think yourself lucky that you had a relationship - its seems to be an impossibility for me.

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Originally posted by SportTrance yeah, that post went great with the butterfly in your sig

lmao I didn't even think about that

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Originally posted by Prototrance You always want what you cant have................... Think yourself lucky that you had a relationship - its seems to be an impossibility for me.

ARE you kidding me? i can't get out of them, i haven't been single since my sophmore year of high school...(i am 21 now) everytime i am single and i meet one girl in like 2 days and they're like "hi whats up, yeah, moved my stuff in while you were sleeping....... hope you don't mind"..... i try to break for the door and i noticed i am shackled to the floor and can only view the internet under supervision lol.... damn it! ha ha ha ha, no matter how hard i try i keep getting suckered into commitment..... i am such a softy

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being single isnt that bad...i broke up with my gf a month and a half ago...i really wanted her but at the same time i knew that there was no way for it to last for long...
keep urself busy, u want him? ignore him completely...IF hez worth it, he'll be back on his knees

looking for lucky number 11

breaking up, making up, it's all a learning experience that you carry over to the next relationship

time heals. i know.

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Originally posted by HardTrance81 ARE you kidding me? i can't get out of them, i haven't been single since my sophmore year of high school...(i am 21 now) everytime i am single and i meet one girl in like 2 days and they're like "hi whats up, yeah, moved my stuff in while you were sleeping....... hope you don't mind"..... i try to break for the door and i noticed i am shackled to the floor and can only view the internet under supervision lol.... damn it! ha ha ha ha, no matter how hard i try i keep getting suckered into commitment..... i am such a softy

WHERE do you live? All the women here are just BLAH. They mess with your head and then just it all goes to shit. Or it could just be my crappy circumstance? Always been single...dated a girl for a few months on and off but never had a g/f, ever. It seems for me as if it should be the opposite, instead of looking at being single as fun (which I'm sure it is) I just WANT to be in a relationship because I've never known what it's like to be in one. The loneliness sucks ass! And Mel if you were in a relationship before don't worry it'll happen again! Just don't think about it too much (something I tend to do lots) and party!

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Sorry to hear that

My mate got dumped by his fiance of 1 year yesterday, and I feel so bad that I cant console, coz I have no idea what to say.
Longest relationship I've had is 3 months, and he was engaged and everything.

Time does heal though, if it didn't, the world would be full of unhappy single people (which it kinda is, but you get my drift )

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