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Originally posted by Crazy Serb Now, before you go out and try and get some "hands on" experience ( good one ), you know how everyone says "Just be yourself"... well, that's the trick, just be yourself, BUT first, and I cannot stress this enough, first get to know yourself. Know what you want, what you like, what you hate, where you're going in life, how you're gonna get there, have something going on for you. That might be more attractive than all the good looks God might have (or not) given you. Then be yourself... much easier than having no clue and confusing the hell out of yourself and the girls you run into. I'll conclude this lesson with a poem... ...yeah, right!

Dude, you are so right! 'Know Thyself' was also in the matrix. It's an old proverb and means the world in life. It's sad how certain people can live over 80 and never know themselves completely.

Think of the world we live in as a constant flow of energy. You're in constant exchange with your universe, and will be surprised to realise that your environment reflects who YOU are almost literally. If you're a positive person, you attract positive people and positive things happen to you, if you're negative, the same goes but with negative things... That is why confidence is so important, because it can be 'felt' from everyone around you. It is a necessary tool in life to make things work for you a lil better, because you being certain of yourself, makes you certain!

But it can't be false confidence. You have to have enough self esteem to be able to love yourself and in turn truly love everyone around you. Appreciate the little things in life, and KNOW that you're worth it and deserve whatever it is that you seek. You know the saying 'you can accomplish anything as long as you put your mind to it?' Well it's true in everything. People these days don't realise the power the mind TRULY has, because we're too hung up on 'I can't' or 'It's impossible' to accomplish what we desire. Break down the barriers, and let yourself go...

Another thing that is important, is how you deal with things in life. One must always think of 'negatives' as a test, to see how well we deal with them, and 'positive' things should always be appreciated and never taken for granted. That being said, you need to 'not care' so much about the outcome of approaching a woman and talking to her, because everything happens for a reason, and if it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't meant to be...

And rememebr, treat the opposite sex with the same respect you'd treat another human being, and you should receive the same treatment in return. If you do not, then she isn't worth it and move the fuck on...

Sorry for the long post.
Thats it, im out.

you're so right! exactly what i believe in!
... check out the Celestine Prophecy ~ Nine Insights by James Redfield ... my bible!

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Originally posted by disko-kandi you're so right! exactly what i believe in! ... check out the Celestine Prophecy ~ Nine Insights by James Redfield ... my bible!

Already read it

You should try checking out some stuff from 'Deepak Chopra'. It's right up your alley and he tells you alot of facts as well, which is more concrete than the fictional Celestine

nice! thanks~! this is perfect i was actually planning on going book shopping tonite after work ... with the intention of looking for something along those lines ... it's been a while! it's that time of year for introspection!

hi jenna!!!!

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I think it's funny that everyone seems to say "be yourself" and I agree, if you don't know who you are, how can you know what you want? I mean, I've BEEN myself for as long as I can remember, I think, and I can honestly say I don't fully know myself. Keeping a positive outlook is absolutely essential, tho. I agree with Boy_Trance on that point. The mind is capable of MUCH more than we give it credit for. I think, however, that desire shapes what we are capable of achieving as well. If you want something badly enough, you will have it. It's that simple, and it's true of almost anything in life.

Good thread! I have to go back and read the middle bits. Very interesting!

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Originally posted by Prod haha that's sort of like the George Costanza's wedding band experiment, where wearing a wedding ring had more women asking him about it hahaha brilliant!

When you see someone else buying, you know it's in demand. They want what they can't have. Men aren't much different though, to be fair. Territorialism is part of our animal instincts buried underneath all the other wires.

In any event, it's the romanticized fantasy of life, love, and relationships that make all of them so shitty, because it's just not the way things are. Guys thinking they can win a girl (who's already told them she's not interested) over by buying her expensive gifts and telling her how wonderful she is every day. Girls thinking that they should reject every guy who has the slightest flaw because Mr. Right will come by one day sporting a tuxedo and an angelic orange glow and sweep them off their feet.

People think of soul mates, true love and all kinds of other junk. They think that when the time comes, God will suddenly take over and bring you together with your future life partner. As if there's going to be a big flashing neon sign telling them what to do and when to do it. And when they don't see that sign, they get frustrated. They start making signs up, pretending that there's some divine message in every mundane event that happens in their lives. Everything happens for a reason. Every event contains a lesson to be learned.

Here's the lesson I learned: life is not deterministic. When 10 billion things happen every day, "1 in a million" coincidences will occur. Someone has to win the lottery. Someone has to get killed in a car accident. Someone has to meet their high school crush that they haven't seen in 10 years. Someone has to forget their pants when they leave the house and walk around the office all day pantsless. These things happen every second of every day - sometimes, in the same place at the same time to the same person, and sometimes not.

The behaviour of the universe and of other human beings is completely unpredictable, and if you want to know what happens in your future, then create it yourself. We have that capability unlike any other species, so use it! Stop trying to find a message in life as if it's something that's just been handed down to you. It's a science experiment, where everything you do has a specific consequence, and to get the result you want, you only have to try a few hypotheses, and yes, that means you'll probably fail the first few times.

But don't forget that in order to get the result you want, you have to know the result you are looking for. When you know what you are looking for, you will have confidence. That is what it means to "know thyself."

/end rant

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Sierra's Guide To Getting a Girlfriend:

1) Stop dressing like a goof, get some nice clothes. Baggy jeans, jerseys and baseball hats aren't nice clothes.

2) Stop acting like a goof, and get a personality.

3) Get a life, don't spend over an hour a day on ta.com, get some friends, go to the mall, go to social events and stop believing the best place to meet a girl is at a club. It's not. 90% of guys meet girls through friends, school, work, or just being "out" somewhere. Girls like to shop, malls is where they obviously are.

4) Lower your standards. Not everyone can be a pimp like me and get all the hottest girls. Date the fat chicks, the fugly chicks if your that desperate for a girlfriend, Pamela Anderson or a girl like her isn't going to date you just 'because' you want a girlfriend, they're needs to be a connection, and if your a stupid kid with no life, you probably don't have anything in common with that hot blonde you stare at on the bus who won't even look at you. Words to live by "If your a fat slob, then don't try to date a slim, blonde, clean girl with D cups. The best you can do is a somewhat thinner and somewhat less sloppy girl". There is a "league" your in in terms of looks and personality.

5) Get a car or at least a drivers license. Trying to date someone who is 18+ without a way to go see her is extremely hard. It's NOT cool to be driven around by your girlfriend and to rely on her totally. Girls tell me this all the time. If your 18-21 and you don't have a ride around other than the TTC then you're probably not going to date someone for very long that lives across the city. Furthermore, cars allow you to date people who are in other communities. My past few gf's haven't been within walking distance of my house and public transit is too ghetto and too long to get there. Ifs a 20 minute drive to a girls house it's probably a 1 hr bus ride.

6) Learn to smile and go up to girls who you catch looking at you and quickly look away. They probably find your somewhat attractive. Smile at them when they look at you and try not to say something stupid, assinine or embarrassing. "line's" are the best way to get a girl to ignore you. The simplest conversation starter is "do you have the time?". It works, very very well, just make sure to stop wearing a watch.

7) Don't go "clubbing" every night of the weekend. Clubs aren't the best places to meet girls. The music is too loud to really talk to someone and honestly buddy, if your not good-looking you're probably not going to walk away with a number. Take clubs for what they are, loud, superficial collectives of people who just want to dance, get drunk or get laid. Girls don't go to clubs to meet guys, especially with all the creepy guys who sneak up behind them and jam there *ahem* into their butt.

8) If your THAT desperate for a GF then go on MSN chat and find a girl, chat her up for a while, get her msn, keep talking to her, swap photos, talk on the phone and meet up. It's a fucked up way to do it, but it works for hurt-bags who spend 24-7 on the net. P.S. any girl that meets and dates guys online is probably slutty, so go with it.

Good Luck

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Originally posted by Sierra P.S. any girl that meets and dates guys online is probably slutty, so go with it.

I don't think that's *quite* true. Consider the way guys are, especially in the chillout room. It's not that those girls (and guys) are all that slutty in general, it's just that the slutty ones get very slutty because their inhibitions are lowered - much like when they are pissed drunk. But one of my best friends did this 2 years ago - the guy is a total pimp and she's blindingly hot, but they both met on the 'net, are now living together, and I think each only slept with 1 other person in the past.

So just to clear that one up. I do not recommend "looking" on the internet, but people sometimes do "find" each other that way, and they aren't total losers.

Good advice in general though, agree with most of it...

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Originally posted by DigiNut Good advice in general though, agree with most of it...

Thank you.

I'm not too keen on meeting people online either... I mean, smileys are cool and everything, but there's something to be said for good old fashioned body language... and I can't shake the feeling that that person signed on as SeXyGurL_69 is actually some fat old dude sitting around in his underwear... maybe it's just me! I don't think clubs are a good place to meet girls either, let's face it, you're usually not in a very "balanced" frame of mind, shall we say... "OMG! Enraptured, what are you suggesting? Drug use?" and I don't think that's a good impression to leave someone who you want to spend a lot of time with... on the other hand I met Bubblegirl at a club... and she's awesome, not that we're going out, but I guess you just never know... we know some of the same people, so it all goes back to WHO YOU KNOW!!

Wow, I need to get my thoughts in order before my next post... this post is like a meandering stream!

Oh well, DEAL!

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Wow, I need to get my thoughts in order before my next post... this post is like a meandering stream!

You think you've got trouble keeping your mind straight? Just read any one of my essays and you'll see what I mean when I say "my train of thought just flew off a colapsed bridge and many died" hehe Although it's not all bad, some girls like it when this sorta absent-mindedness kicks in, they find it cute :P Not all girls of course

wow, if "absent-minded" ever becomes a successful angle... I am IN LIKE FREAKIN' FLYNN, dude... I have the worst memory ever. I'm good with names and faces, and phone numbers, which is good, but everything, and i mean EVERYTHING else is pretty sketchy...

I have to say, I kind of like where I am right now. It's very cliche to say it, but there's more to life than sex... I know, I know, that's what everyone who isn't getting any says... but seriously, I've done the loooong-relationship thing, and it had it's moments... good and bad. It is important to remember that being alone, and being lonely are completely different. It's easy to start freaking out about not "finding" someone, trust me, I've done it! You have to be able to take a step back and say,

"Hey! I have friends and I have time."

Trust me, those are the only two things you need. When you run out of either, that's when you should start worrying!

I hope all this drivel is actually helping someone!

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