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| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
obviously honesty is a good policy, and i wouldn't have a problem telling someone the truth if they were that curious about my past... but the point i was trying to make is how deep into someone's past do some of you need to dig before you can say "ok this person meets my moral standards, now i can fall fully in love with them!" |
If I ask someone if they have been in jail, and they reply "yea, I was thrown into the drunk tank when I was in college", I will probably laugh and be like... haha good times.
If they say "I beat someone nearly to death one time", I will likely re-evaluate my interest in them.
Maybe it's because I have trust issues, but I want to know about a persons history so that I can make an informed guess on how they will likely be in the future.
I have met my fair share of guys who seemed amazing on the surface, but when you found out about their history, turns out they weren't such great people after all. People can be very deceptive, and if they want you to think well of them, they may mislead you in order to do that.
If someone doesn't want to be open and honest with me from the beginning regarding their past, then it just makes me think that they have something to hide, and ultimately, I don't want to be with someone I don't think I can trust.
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