LOL.

I don't understand how people even find the time to cheat. Too much of an effort, in my opinion, to even bother. Just thinking about all the work that goes into it.

Putting that aside and all the back and forth in this thread. I think that it's pretty rare to find someone that has the same rules as yourself in terms of openness, and what happens when you want it to end but the other person doesn't or vice versa. That just spells trouble to me. But I think people learn throughout life and I am very easy going about what people choose to do.

My only opinion is that, if something in your relationship doesn't sit right with you (even if you agreed with something at one point and then change your mind as you get older), you have to do what's right for you in the end. No point sitting around and being unhappy with a situation. It's not a loss if you experience something in your life and your view change and you want something different.

I also think that love is not enough for a relationship. So no matter how much you love a person, and want to stay with them forever, you don't have to live unhappily.

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess I don't understand how people even find the time to cheat. Too much of an effort, in my opinion, to even bother. Just thinking about all the work that goes into it.

are you serious?

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Originally posted by basilisk Yeah, because developing a deep and meaningful connection with someone is for suckers!

you said it!

i rather develop a pointless relationship with everyone then have a deep one with one single lady

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Originally posted by English Rachel You really, really upset me by insinuating that I think that Kelly is morally wrong. I think the world of her, she is kind and considerate, has a great sense of humour and is beautiful - for you to hurt me AND potentially hurt her by suggesting I think she is morally wrong is not fair or right.

NO worries love, I wouldnt think that YOU would imply any sort of thing. I find this thread as more of an informative thread.

If people have questions, then I will answer them to the best of my ability. Besides, if I am OFFENDED or embarassed to answer questions about something that I am practicing in my own life, then there would be something wrong with that. Thus, trying to be as open as possible to those who wish to understand more.

And I dont find anything wrong with the way you are responding. You are respecting my own decisions in life, because they are MY OWN, and choosing to live your life otherwise while still being open to understanding.


<3<3 thanks for the lovely words

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Originally posted by DigiNut When you say this: It really doesn't sound like you're trying to understand anything. It sounds a lot more like open hostility. Not directed toward Kelly, I'm sure, but hostility nevertheless. Maybe in some particular tone of voice with particular body language it all makes a lot more sense - but I'm just not getting it in here.

Yes, tone and body language would change the perception fully - that was a rhetorical question meant to be thought-provoking. My tone is very 'English' - I guess that's why people who know me have a lot more comprehension of what I am saying than you or other people on here that don't (remember the paedophile thread?).

What I meant by that sentence was not that people are 'shit', rather that a lot of people are not very good at being single and would prefer to be in a half-assed relationship than on their own (especially people in their early twenties) - no hostility AT ALL meant by that, I am surprised that you thought otherwise.

I would hazard a guess that the majority of relationships are two people that get along well and prefer to be in a partnership than single but don't have the knee-buckling adoration that can cripple as much as elate (the 'one'). I think this leads to 'cheating' or 'swinging' depending on the level of communication. As I have said before in this thread, when you have been with someone for a very long time, I can understand rules changing. My point was that people don't spend enough time on their own (single) IMO - therefore always wondering what 'else' is out there.

That paragraph above was clumsy, I hope it makes sense.




Kelly - thank you. As long as you know that, I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks xxx

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby ... but can not stay with one woman for sexual purposes. LOL ...

Sounds like a condition(sickness) rather then an attribute of every men

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Originally posted by English Rachel My point was that people don't spend enough time on their own (single) IMO - therefore always wondering what 'else' is out there.

So true.

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Originally posted by English Rachel My point was that people don't spend enough time on their own (single) IMO - therefore always wondering what 'else' is out there.

That's interesting. Probably true if I think about a lot of the people I know. Perhaps there's a similarity here to extremely clingy relationships in the sense that some people just have a constant need for attention. For some people it's attention from one person, for others it's attention from anyone and everyone.

Personally, I've always had a huge need for "me time" and don't like being the center of attention (unless I'm premium grade A shitfacfed), so it's not something I think about much. And posting on TA doesn't count because you're all just figments of my imagination, not real people.

Well, if you say that was your original point then I'll take you at your word. No hard feelings.

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I'd never cheat on anyone. I've been cheated on before. It's not the greatest feeling in the world. I know the pain of being cheated on so I know how someone else would feel if I did it. if you're attracted to someone else while with another person why not just break up instead of hurting them even more.......?

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