well i am back and i must say it was really nice to read all of the responses to my post yesterday. it's nice to know that i am not the only one that feels at times that finding the right person can seem hopeless.

besides the supportive responses i figured i'd get from here, the other reason i posted in this forum was because clubbing and trance is my biggest passion in life, as it seems to be with many of you. after all we are all tranceaddicts...

if i was younger i dont think i would let this bother me so much. my problem is that i am 25 going on 26 soon. time feels like it is passing me by ever so quickly. college was fun, but i was in a relationship (my last one) for 2 years of it and that didnt work out. i was glad for what i had, but at the same time it feels like i did waste some time that i could have been meeting a lot of people instead of being in a semi long distance relationship.

i tell myself the "be content and love will find you" quote all the time. it's just been a really, really long time. 1 person has shown interest in almost 2 years. it's hard not to feel lonely.

i think what bothers me the most is that i am constantly hearing from girls is what they want in a guy. someone who will cuddle (probably the #1 thing), someone who is into all the lovey dovey stuff. to tell you the truth, that's what i miss the most from my last relationship. getting ass is nice, but i think it's better to have someone.

on a side note about the approaching thing at the club. when i go out, i go out to dance and have a good time, first and foremost. well needless to say i work up a sweat. i know it's silly but i feel like if i was a girl i wouldnt want some sweaty guy trying to dance with me. i dunno.

anyways thanks for your responses. things didnt exactly look any brigher today but it did feel good to know that there is support here when i need it. i havent been posting for too long on here but i have enjoyed my time here. i will have to make it to one of the meetups in the near future. you guys seem like a great bunch of people.

-colin

Anytime man,

thats what we're here for. We argue, bitch, complain..and sometimes even provide a half-decent heart-warming post here and there.

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Originally posted by intelligent77 Okay so maybe i'm from the DC area.. .. just one of the highest cost of living places in America.. so we're up there with you on money dude...... but don't be so bummed on money... I LOVED my husband.. i bought the house and the cars and everything.... I bared our children.. i've been raising our children... he now realizes how much he lost when he decided to choose being single over us... i'm sorry to come from a bitter point of view.. i believe in love.. just been hurt way too hard that now i don't care too much about guys i date.. i'm scared to have feelings for someone else...even semi recently when i actually began to care about a guy i was seeing and he for no reason or explaination decided to completely kick me out of his life..ack i'm not helping this subject am i? Umm... sometimes the person you love is right underneath your nose.. and its a real friend that you never thought you'd be with!.. and i've found that you can't look for love because it just happens and that real someone will love you through thick and thin.. even after you think they can't... and that person won't always be obvious.. but definitely a friend.. cuz lust isn't a marriage builder!

Your ex-husband is a grade A jackass than. Im sorry but thats just STUPID.

Im a very committed person with morals and goals - I want to be a doctor, in what exact field is still undecided but Im leaning towards Nuclear Medicine Physician. Get ready to cry girls... Sometimes I feel so alone that it keeps me from sleeping - it really does bother me that for 20yrs. girls have just shrugged me off not even giving me a chance. I always questioned what was wrong with me, but how can I come up with an answer when I feel I have the qualities most girls really do what. I always thought girls wanted a man that would open the door for them, pull out the chair for them, take care of them, appreciate them, love them, care for them, try to make life as easy as possible for them - basically treat your girl like a queen. I always told my friends I would spoil my fiance/wife to the point of no return because what she can offer me is worth so much more that what I spend on her, but that is my way of showing my appreciation.

I do have a picky quality about myself, but its only human - I want a fun/spontaneous girl, who likes to go out every so often and dine or party, but I also want a girl thats cool with staying home and just watching a movie. Looks wise, just like any person male or female, I want her to be attractive w/ a cute face and nice eyes (Im obsessed with eyes), and Im not asking for big tits or a nice round ass, just give me something to look at and smile. I dont want a supermodel, just give me some love.

Blah, this has gotten too sensative...

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by Vlad I always questioned what was wrong with me, but how can I come up with an answer when I feel I have the qualities most girls really do what. I always thought girls wanted a man that would open the door for them, pull out the chair for them, take care of them, appreciate them, love them, care for them, try to make life as easy as possible for them - basically treat your girl like a queen. I do have a picky quality about myself, but its only human - I want a fun/spontaneous girl, who likes to go out every so often and dine or party, but I also want a girl thats cool with staying home and just watching a movie. Looks wise, just like any person male or female, I want her to be attractive w/ a cute face and nice eyes (Im obsessed with eyes), and Im not asking for big tits or a nice round ass, just give me something to look at and smile. I dont want a supermodel, just give me some love.

isn't it sad how the girls always go for the assholes and the nice guys who are all about the stuff girls really want get shit? i feel exactly the same way you do. hopefully both of us will find the right person eventually. till then all we can do is wonder...

Remember guys women love you just as much as you love them, its all a matter of confidence in approaching and talking to women, I treat them with respect and expect the same in return, any different and I am on my way. I am what girls refer to as that "sensitive yet manly guy", okay so I put in a plug for myself sue me. Women are just as nervous to speak to you as you are to them at first. Just be confident and the rest will follow. Ciao

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by pvd420 on a side note about the approaching thing at the club. when i go out, i go out to dance and have a good time, first and foremost. well needless to say i work up a sweat. i know it's silly but i feel like if i was a girl i wouldnt want some sweaty guy trying to dance with me. i dunno.

I _SO_ hear you on that one

muhahaha... *big fat grin*

I never even bothered anymore really. Heck, you said it yourself, you go out for DANCING and having a good time, so do that and be happy.

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Originally posted by vtec junkie if you make eye contact with them and they smile at you....then they are pretty approachable. it also helps if your a good dancer

amen

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Originally posted by Tranz Yea... they are always running away from you, eh?

AHHAHHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH-- NO.

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thats why you go clubbing with a right hand woman. . . .ok that sounds kinda weird but really, shes basically wat a Right hand man is. . . . ok that sounds worse. . .I GIVE UP!

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Originally posted by Vlad Confidence is hard to build when for 20 yrs., 99.9% of the time all you hear is rejection.

lol So true man.
I have the same problem its hard for me to approach some one especially when ur a lil chubby. I am convinced girls dont even look at anyone with chub It just makes it harder for me to try, and when i do go ahead and approach they just think i want ass and i dont have high standards at all cuz i know it aint possible.Idk about that, love will find u stuff u just gotta wait, well ive been waiting..and waiting and it sux. I'am about to just go gay

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I had my best luck to meet girls via friends.. I had this co-worker girl, she was married, but I always pitched to her if she has any single girlfirends, send them my way. Through her I had 3 dates, one of those became my girl...
Dont be afraid to come up to a girl in clubs.. Guys afraid rejections (just like premature ejaculations).. Dont be.. Come to a girl, but be YOURSELF and just say hi, what is your name, etc... Don't try to grab her waistline the first second, but at the same time, dont be shy to make moves and show her your interest.. I had luck frenching club girls back in the dayz... My friends been as lucky as handjobs in Roxy (very recently) and of course, once u get older & your dates, u will take most of those dates for a good fcuk to your house...
Try yahoo dating or dating.com or local papers..
Try ICQ also.. install ICQ and search for girls 17-30 (or whatever age u prefer) in your state, zip code, city, etc...
I did my city, russian and came up with 23 names, actually met up with a few... So, try your luck there..
Many hook up via AOL chat rooms.. go to dating room or your state room or something....
I used to hook up with many message board chicks, I found out most of them r fake though and only good for a ride or few, but u might have different luck...
And ye, most russian chicks in NYC area are mad material.. And so r most american girls.. But it ain't matter.. It's all about how u handle yourself... If ya got the skillz u don't need a bmw to pick up chicks.. Also, as u get older u will suddenly gain a LOT more sex appeal.. Don't ask why, but u will.. Actually @ 25, u should be up there already...
btw, I am recently married dude....

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Originally posted by pvd420 I was going to put this in the rant thread but changed my mind... I have read on here that some of you have found that special person in another forum member. I was wondering how this worked out for those of you that did. My problem is that a lot of stuff takes up my time (school, teaching, my other job, etc) and I have found it impossible to meet anyone in quite sometime. I've looked at all those online ads and such cause they worked once for me, but at this point in my life I need to find someone who likes to go out clubbing. Most of the people in those adds say they arent into the club scene, or dont care for electronic music, so no luck there. When I do get a chance to go out (like to Armin on wed), even though I am in an environment surrounded by lots of girls, I just dont want to come off like one of those assholes in the club that girls always complain about. I have the hardest time approaching anyone. Working with kids constantly I am not really surrounded by that many prospects. Time feels like it's passing by ever so quickly and there's no one in my life to share it with. Maybe I'm just venting but I keep telling myself all of those tired cliches (the right person is out there, etc etc). I see all these couples together when I am at the club, I just want to be one of those people. I dont even know why I wrote this post but it made me feel a little better to type out my frustrations. Can anyone relate to this? I read this message board the most so I figured this was a good a place as any to vent. The ironic part is that the person I am looking for is someone I've probably seen when I go out clubbing. I just think that it's hard to be a nice guy and find the type of girl I want to be with. I'm sure things will seem brighter in the morning. Thanks for listening....

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