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sohaness
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Registered: Oct 2000
Location: Toronto / S. Korea

quote:
Originally posted by rabbitjoker
One thing that I've learned over my years:

The best things happen when you don't expect them.

Bottom line - you can't force life. Life happens.

Things might be hard the next little while - but try to just sit back, observe, don't freak out and remain calm.

Trust me on one thing - the woman of your dreams (and the woman you'll spend the rest of your life with) will be the woman that you tried the -least- to get. You and her will be so perfect together - that your meeting and being will be natural and effortless.

Not to say you and her won't have trials and tribulations (ask my GF - I've not been an easy person to love), but the magic of a relationship is explosive - it's the nitty-gritty that requires the work... But the big picture will just happen - without thought, without effort - it will just happen (becuase you and the love of your life's destiny will be intertwined)

(I probably just made no sense. Sorry.... love is impossible to explain..)

Sorry to get sappy - but trust me. That is how it is.. Honest..

Keep cool, stay as collected as you can - this might not mean the end - it might just be a part of those nitty-gritties that need to be settled - and at this current point in time a little speration (official or otherwise) may be what is required.

Good luck, be well, stay sane.. We're here for you.

This is speaking from 93 months under my belt.....


wow...well said man!

muff2k, sorry about your gf

steve.


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Old Post Oct-20-2003 11:54  Armenia
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loca
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Registered: Apr 2003
Location: Oz

Sorry to hear about that Muff2k
Hope everything works out for you (and it will in the end!)


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Skipper
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Registered: May 2002
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Sorry to hear about your situation - it's never fun. Trust when people say these things happen for a reason.

And RabbitJoker is right - if it's too difficult making the relationship work, it's not meant to be. Some things like true love just come naturally.

Old Post Oct-20-2003 16:14  Canada
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TheDemon
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Registered: Aug 2002
Location: Dark Sector World!

quote:
Originally posted by Muff2K
thanks for the support guys, i was kinda fucked up when i posted that b4, i didnt really expect any replies. thanks for all opinions. i kinda freaked out because anyone who knows the way we are together will be in shock to hear this.

here's why:

1. apparently i'm not affectionate enough, i believe i'm as affectionate as i can be, and i was trying harder - but it's gotta be natural

2. we don't see each other enough, i work mon - fri installing windows & doors, every evening and weekend i work in a factory, tuesday & thursdays i have night classes. then i go to work after.
i work till 12:30 and she has a curfew for 1 am. i dedicate every saturday and sunday evening to her. and we talked every day on the phone at least 3 times.

3. i don't tell her she's pretty or beautiful frequently enough. i fell if i tell her every day it's routine and loses the meanng, so if i dont tell her one day, she gets thinking i'm not attracted to her.


i don't know what else i can do, i guess i'm ust not meant to have a gf now


You know what man, you lead a busy life. I your ex didn't seem to realize that then its her problem. And calling her beautiful everyday does eventually become routine. Move on man. Find a new girl and start a new relationship. The best thing do to do is to learn from this relationship and move on. If your girl really did love you, then she would have understood your life style and would have helped you out. If you feel that you weren't conrtibuting, then atleast you're being honest to yourself. Final words: Move on.


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djeso
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Registered: Jan 2002
Location: Toronto, Canada

I'm sorry to hear what happen

one thing for sure, don't ever blame yourself for anything, and try
not too take it too personally, I know it hard, been there myself before. Like someone mentioned here, things happen for a reason, and
whatever happens it'll be for the best.

Good luck hope everything works out for you

Peace


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Old Post Oct-20-2003 19:04  Poland
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DigiNut
You kids get off my lawn!



Registered: Dec 2002
Location: Toronto, Self-proclaimed Centre of the Universe

quote:
Originally posted by Muff2K
thanks for the support guys, i was kinda fucked up when i posted that b4, i didnt really expect any replies. thanks for all opinions. i kinda freaked out because anyone who knows the way we are together will be in shock to hear this.

here's why:

1. apparently i'm not affectionate enough, i believe i'm as affectionate as i can be, and i was trying harder - but it's gotta be natural

2. we don't see each other enough, i work mon - fri installing windows & doors, every evening and weekend i work in a factory, tuesday & thursdays i have night classes. then i go to work after.
i work till 12:30 and she has a curfew for 1 am. i dedicate every saturday and sunday evening to her. and we talked every day on the phone at least 3 times.

3. i don't tell her she's pretty or beautiful frequently enough. i fell if i tell her every day it's routine and loses the meanng, so if i dont tell her one day, she gets thinking i'm not attracted to her.


i don't know what else i can do, i guess i'm ust not meant to have a gf now

Think of it this way, J... if you tried to do all those things she wanted, you'd have to slack on your other priorities. So really, you're better off this way.

Incidentally, yeah, I guess you've gotta do that stuff a bit, but too much is worse than too little, so I hope you don't take her "advice" too seriously with the next one...

Seriously dude, I'm not sure if I know anyone who seems to have the 'system' down better than you. Some things just aren't meant to be, don't go thinking it was your fault.


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Old Post Oct-20-2003 20:47  Canada
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Muff2K
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Registered: Nov 2000
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man, my biggest problem now is what to do, do i go and start hittin it up style? or should i wait around and see if she'll come to her senses


i'm so fucked i dont even know if i'll be going out much anymore, to anything. no matter who's there.


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Crazy Serb
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Registered: Jun 2001
Location: Sin City

quote:
Originally posted by Muff2K
man, my biggest problem now is what to do, do i go and start hittin it up style? or should i wait around and see if she'll come to her senses


Hahhaaa! The answer to this one is too easy... come on, you know it too.

Go out there, meet some girls... don't waste your time waiting! By waiting and thinking so much about her you're just gonna be digging yourself a deeper hole!


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rabbitjoker
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Registered: Aug 2002
Location: Toronto, ON, CANADA

quote:
Originally posted by Muff2K
man, my biggest problem now is what to do, do i go and start hittin it up style? or should i wait around and see if she'll come to her senses.


I say that you just "be"... (I know very zen and shit..)

But seriously - don't start "hittin it up style" and don't wait for her to wake up.

Just be yourself, enjoy life, stay true.

Hunting analogy: Many a hunter has spent many days hunting for hours, focused only on finding the big game - only to come home with nothing. But ask any hunter what the most memorable time they had and it will be when they were just enjoying the moment - not focused on hunting but enjoying life - when a buck just appeared out of nowhere and then they took home the big prize.

Maybe that doesn't ring for some - but it's the truth. Same for fishing.

Suck every last bit of enjoyment out of every single moment - and things will just fall in place. Shit (both good and bad) truly just does happen (when you least expect it, and aren't looking for it).


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Old Post Oct-21-2003 01:15  Canada
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Matt
Supreme tranceaddict



Registered: Nov 2001
Location: Toronto, Canada

kick back, enjoy trance.

I went thru a shitty breakup back in April, so I feel your pain. Dunno why I got so upset. Now I just don't take high school relationships seriously. Collingwood + Wasaga Beach girls are kinda stuckup and narrow-minded.

Like Moff in Human Traffic: "I wouldn't say no to a girlfriend ya know...I can't be bothered with the whole dating game, ya know?! I am having sex with music, mate. And I can go all night."

Just chill out. Don't let emotions take over logic.


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DigiNut
You kids get off my lawn!



Registered: Dec 2002
Location: Toronto, Self-proclaimed Centre of the Universe

quote:
Originally posted by Muff2K
man, my biggest problem now is what to do, do i go and start hittin it up style? or should i wait around and see if she'll come to her senses

You know the answer to that bud... you come and PARTY HEARTY IN THE T DOT! And maybe pick up some goodies in the process, ya'know?

But seriously, getting out is the first thing you want to do right now! DON'T SULK!


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Old Post Oct-21-2003 02:40  Canada
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rabbitjoker
aural sadist



Registered: Aug 2002
Location: Toronto, ON, CANADA

quote:
Originally posted by DigiNut
getting out is the first thing you want to do right now!


Huh?!?!? The first thing he should do is come out???

.. Sure.. That's an ok option as well..


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