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| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
I thought that this is what you meant: 20 percent of the male population gets all the girls while 80 percent get squat. If friendship counts as well as constant interaction with girls, I doubt only 20 percent of the male population gets that.
You know, I was reading this old article where it was saying how there are like 30 or 40 million more woman in thie world than men (maybe 20, I have to look it up again). In most species, the dominate sex usually is the one who initiates a relationship with the other sex. We are part of a very few species that do the reverse, in where the less dominate species is required to make the initiation for the relationship.
Also, that we are also part of a few species that believe in monogamy. Once again proving that marraige and monogamy was a way for the church to deal with women's insecurities, as well as to destroy oral sex as we know it.  (Bill Maher, its paraphrased tho)
Where was my point again? oh yeah, wouldnt it be nice if guys didnt always have to always initiate conversation and pick up women everytime. I swear, sometimes I feel as though I cant come up with enough creative and interesting shit, anyone ever just lie blatantly just to make conversation and try to score with a girl? |
You bring up a rather interesting observation that men are usually the ones to make more of an effort in the dating process, initiate sexual and general phsyical contact more often and generally take more risks in attracting a member of the opposite sex.
There are many theories for this but I think it comes down to women holding more power in the dating scene than men, for a variety of reasons. It takes a particularly confident man to display the confidence an average woman has in interactions with the opposite sex. One main problem is that most men try very hard to attract female attention and go rediculous lengths often to get girls to like them. And each time they suffer rejection it often motivates them to try to harder, whereas the opposite approach would be far more effective.
I think that for many years, and probably centuries, preceding the current few decades men have held much of the power in relationships and dating, and still do in some countries and cultures, but the power has well and truly shifted in our day and age.
For the solution you have to look at John Nash's competition theory. Quite simply, if all the men in the world joined together and agreed that they would play hard to get and give females no attention in order to win them over, men would once again become the dominate player. But the theory shows that people will further their own personal interests for gain, so men joining together will never work.
I personally am a believer in the "less is more" approach. ie the less you give, the more you get.
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TA all round nice guy.
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