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Originally posted by tribu That might be it, but this girl was pretty hot, and I just dont see what shed want with me. Plus, after class, everyone is around and I just feel odd striking up a conversation in front of my classmates. Id guess it was a good sign, but she seems like a nice person, and I can't imagine she wouldnt have a boyfriends... Bah, these are the type of rationale I go through when Im thinking about making a move at all. I just think that I should put relationships out of mind for awhile and just let things fall where they do. Do the important things like graduate, get a job, work out, and have some nice things, then start looking.... Alcohol and drugs are only a semi answer for me. I hate drinking, so that almost surely kills that. I dont mind rolling but Im pretty poor at the moment, and that really isnt an option either. I dont really know.

Oh man...you only live once. Fuckin just GO FOR IT.

Please...do it for teh horny fucks in the COR.

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Originally posted by ******** Seplling don't demonstrate intelligence and educatoin - knowing does.

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Originally posted by tribu That might be it, but this girl was pretty hot, and I just dont see what shed want with me. Plus, after class, everyone is around and I just feel odd striking up a conversation in front of my classmates. Id guess it was a good sign, but she seems like a nice person, and I can't imagine she wouldnt have a boyfriends... Bah, these are the type of rationale I go through when Im thinking about making a move at all. I just think that I should put relationships out of mind for awhile and just let things fall where they do. Do the important things like graduate, get a job, work out, and have some nice things, then start looking.... Alcohol and drugs are only a semi answer for me. I hate drinking, so that almost surely kills that. I don t mind rolling but Im pretty poor at the moment, and that really isnt an option either. I dont really know.

alright...listen...


next time you see her just be like "hey _________ .... what's up? hey what are you doing this weekend? j00 want to have buttseckz??"

ok say that but not the buttsecks part...


or if she says hello to you or something...just ask her if she's hungry or something... you don't have to be all "would you like to go on a date with me?"... just try to keep it casual. if you ask her to lunch or something and she says yes...i'd say she interested. and if not...it really wasn't that big a deal to ask was it? and no one is gonna think "omg tribu asked you out? what a loser!!"

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Originally posted by Clovis86 Oh man...you only live once. Fuckin just GO FOR IT. Please...do it for teh horny fucks in the COR.

heh, Im not sure you guys are the type of motivation I need here

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Originally posted by tribu heh, Im not sure you guys are the type of motivation I need here

Ok seriously. I think...you should wait and see if she strikes up conversation next time. If she does. ASK.

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Originally posted by ******** Seplling don't demonstrate intelligence and educatoin - knowing does.

What you really need to do is ask a girl out and get rejected. Then you'll realize getting rejected isn't nearly as bad as our inner demons make it out to be. This will give you much more confidence.

What helps me when asking girls out is I try not to think of it as putting myself out on a limb, but more of just me giving her a compliment by asking her out. That way I feel good about asking, b/c even if they say no it becomes nothing more than a nice, harmless thing to do.

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Originally posted by Floorfiller or if she says hello to you or something...just ask her if she's hungry or something... you don't have to be all "would you like to go on a date with me?"... just try to keep it casual. if you ask her to lunch or something and she says yes...i'd say she interested. and if not...it really wasn't that big a deal to ask was it? and no one is gonna think "omg tribu asked you out? what a loser!!"

I know it doesn't have to be formal. I dont act or talk like I do on here. I understand how the system works. But I just find myself unable to do or say anything when crunch time comes up. It's like something kicks on in my brain that rationalizes myself into believing that not doing anything is the better course of action, and I act accordingly. This is what I'm most worried about, and the thing that I can't seem to control.

Knowing what the problem is is supposed to be half the battle, but I have a hard time convincing myself, despite the fact that I feel like I've identified the root problem.

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Originally posted by e*motion I've also noticed I have big balls when im rolling.

pulse won!

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It took me ages to realise that girls like picking up too.

You are just scared of rejection.

Its easy to fall out of the groove, the best way to overcome is to get some new female friends, just friends, and then treat all girls like you do them, and hopefully they will introduce you to some girls along the way...

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Originally posted by töbias It took me ages to realise that girls like picking up too. You are just scared of rejection. Its easy to fall out of the groove, the best way to overcome is to get some new female friends, just friends, and then treat all girls like you do them, and hopefully they will introduce you to some girls along the way...

female friends, with friends...


Excellent advice.

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Originally posted by ******** Seplling don't demonstrate intelligence and educatoin - knowing does.

nothin wrong with bein in the V club. but u do have a problem when u cant even get with a girl to just have an innocent little drink at the coffee house. just do it, whats the worst that can happen? she says no? big DEAL move on, she's not interested, if she says yes, boom, youve got it, she interested, and either, she wont be offended. she should feel flattered either way. ive had to say no before, but i wasnt mad, i was very flattered though.

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Originally posted by tribu One, two, three....Thats the total amount of times Ive pussied out of asking a girl out in the last 24 hours. Last night, I went to see a girl I used to work with whom I had a bit of a crush on (you may remember the thread). After talking to her for a few minutes I gave her my cell, but I felt like a bit of a knob asking for hers, so I just decided to go. Today in class, I was sitting behind this cute girl, and she turned around to talk and smile at me a few times. During class, I thought, 'ok, I can ask this girl out'. Class ends and Im a bit nervous. I grab my things, and look to her, but she isn't quite ready to go. My plan was to walk out of the building with her, and maybe ask her for a coffee as we got outside, but I deicded to just say fuck it, and left. Just now at work, this cute girl was here. When she came in, we talked a bit about her writing and then I let her get to work. Knowing she would only be in for a half an hour, I thought, maybe I could invite her out after her seminar (the reason her stay in the lab was only 30 minutes). She got up to leave, and I just felt like I couldn't say anything. So what's my deal? I'm not gay (or if I am, I've never met a male I'm attracted to), and I really want to ask these girls out. But I just feel akward doing it. I feel unable to do it in front of ANY people, and often I feel like I'm imposing on them, or making unwanted advances. Is it lack of self-confidence? I dont quite feel datable, as I dont really have any nice none music/computer related things and Im rather poor. Im starting to think I should just jump aboard the asexuality bandwagon, if only to avoid the self-loathing and shame I feel after events like the 3 described here.

Can I introduce you to my bald headed friend Nou?

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Originally posted by whiskers pulp is gross, it feels like i'm swallowing someone's load

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Originally posted by tribu One, two, three....Thats the total amount of times Ive pussied out of asking a girl out in the last 24 hours. Last night, I went to see a girl I used to work with whom I had a bit of a crush on (you may remember the thread). After talking to her for a few minutes I gave her my cell, but I felt like a bit of a knob asking for hers, so I just decided to go. Today in class, I was sitting behind this cute girl, and she turned around to talk and smile at me a few times. During class, I thought, 'ok, I can ask this girl out'. Class ends and Im a bit nervous. I grab my things, and look to her, but she isn't quite ready to go. My plan was to walk out of the building with her, and maybe ask her for a coffee as we got outside, but I deicded to just say fuck it, and left. Just now at work, this cute girl was here. When she came in, we talked a bit about her writing and then I let her get to work. Knowing she would only be in for a half an hour, I thought, maybe I could invite her out after her seminar (the reason her stay in the lab was only 30 minutes). She got up to leave, and I just felt like I couldn't say anything. So what's my deal? I'm not gay (or if I am, I've never met a male I'm attracted to), and I really want to ask these girls out. But I just feel akward doing it. I feel unable to do it in front of ANY people, and often I feel like I'm imposing on them, or making unwanted advances. Is it lack of self-confidence? I dont quite feel datable, as I dont really have any nice none music/computer related things and Im rather poor. Im starting to think I should just jump aboard the asexuality bandwagon, if only to avoid the self-loathing and shame I feel after events like the 3 described here.

dude we could be twins brothers....i am the same fucking way..i hate myself for that...

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