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Originally posted by Floorfiller being the married man that you are hehehe...how can you tell what your wife wants? how can i get better at reading women?

Honestly, it's just because I've been around her for so long; you run into similar types of situations over and over again and remember how things happened in the past. Alot of 'Note To Self' type things when she tells me about her girlfriends relationships - I know that any time she complains about something her friends boyfriends/husbands did, it's a big red flag for me to NOT DO THAT SHIT. Other than that I'm just winging it and I play the 'Dumb Guy' card when things go bad.....hehehe If all else fails, I just say 'Look, you need to tell me what you want.....etc'

I guess in short, it's just listening to them all the time (very difficult). I think they are always giving clues as to how they want to be treated.

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Originally posted by Estella hahahhh Floor. I just think you need to find a ripened woman. Your past the mentality of most girls your age. The blacker the berry the sweeter the juice? Does that work here. The wrinklier the berry.. Find a mature fruit! Sweet, sweet juice. hahaaah.

well i'd agree with you, but i have my immaturities. i know you probably have a good idea of my type hahaha...and you're right that usually probably translate into a little bit older women i dunno...but really what are they gonna see in a 22 yr old? the fact that i'm still in school really pisses me off...i feel like everything is on hold until i graduate...

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Originally posted by Floorfiller well what's my problem then? do i try too hard? i feel like when i start dating me everything's great, but then it wears off. is it that i'm just someone their attracted to, but the personalities don't blend? i just want to be the perfect guy the next time i find someone i wanna be with...

if it seems to wear off pretty quickly it usually just means that the connection isn't as strong as it needs to be to keep things going. from what i've read in your posts here on TA (and this is just me assuming), you seem to go about dating in a pretty "normal" way... meet a cute girl, ask her out on a few dates, do things the way we were all taught in magazines. maybe you should do things differently in your next relationship? maybe don't even look for a relationship, since that's how i seem to find the best relationships in my life. i mean keep meeting girls, but don't do all the "normal" things that guys do to get a girlfriend... be spontaneous, be yourself, don't hold back, and if the connection is strong enough from both sides... BAM! you'll be looking around wondering "whoa where the fuck did this come from?!"

this is all just coming from personal experience. the things that work for me probably don't work for most people...

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Originally posted by lücid if it seems to wear off pretty quickly it usually just means that the connection isn't as strong as it needs to be to keep things going. from what i've read in your posts here on TA (and this is just me assuming), you seem to go about dating in a pretty "normal" way... meet a cute girl, ask her out on a few dates, do things the way we were all taught in magazines. maybe you should do things differently in your next relationship? maybe don't even look for a relationship, since that's how i seem to find the best relationships in my life. i mean keep meeting girls, but don't do all the "normal" things that guys do to get a girlfriend... be spontaneous, be yourself, don't hold back, and if the connection is strong enough from both sides... BAM! you'll be looking around wondering "whoa where the fuck did this come from?!" this is all just coming from personal experience. the things that work for me probably don't work for most people...

i actually don't usually look for girls...they usually find me and that's how things start. i guess i just always seem to feel like the connection i feel is really strong, but then the girl gets over it and well...bla.

i guess i just want to be on the other side of that. maybe i'm bad at keeping girls interested in me...so how do i fix that? i could be boring maybe i dunno hahaha...

what keeps you girls intereseted in the guys that you see...and what causes you to kinda forget about those initial crazy excited feelings...

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Originally posted by JenniferRene someone that bothers to ask me how my day is someone that surprises me constantly (and not with physical things) someone that understands i make mistakes someone that realizes i'm protective of my heart someone that loves music as much as i do someone that goes out of their way for me

i'd say i'm usually concious of those kinda things, but it ends up not being enough...same question to you jenn...how do guys keep you interested in them without, as you mentioned, going too far out of the way for you if you know what i mean...

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Originally posted by butterfly i like boys with blue eyes.

i have blue eyes...yes!!! hhaha

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Originally posted by Floorfiller i actually don't usually look for girls...they usually find me and that's how things start. i guess i just always seem to feel like the connection i feel is really strong, but then the girl gets over it and well...bla. i guess i just want to be on the other side of that. maybe i'm bad at keeping girls interested in me...so how do i fix that? i could be boring maybe i dunno hahaha... what keeps you girls intereseted in the guys that you see...and what causes you to kinda forget about those initial crazy excited feelings...

not that i have the most luck with girls but in terms of keeping them interested it depends alot on the girl, there are girls that find it fun to just hang out with you and watch tv, and than there are girls where you should just do the craziest things you can to keep them excited and interested. every person is different and there is no recipe to keeping a girl. so you can either be yourself and find a girl that really fits your personality, or you can look at her personality and go out of your way to do things that interest her and everything.

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