^^^^

let's just say my best friend since kindergarden found the "love" of her life...

and now she is pretty much not in my life anymore.

it sucks...but it happens.

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Originally posted by milos heh.. emasculation, thats a good way to describe it. i agree with you too. as far as the topic goes, i say the same things all the time with regards to the original point of making time for your friends if you're in a relationship. HOWEVER, if i was in your friends place and "madly in love", i wouldn't be able to say for sure how that would affect my friendships. ideally i wouldn't want it to affect them at all, but you never know when you're head over heels. on top of that, i've never been in that position to speak from experience either. how many of you that commented have?

even if you are madly in love, you cant possibly spend every waking moment with that person. If you do thats very unhealthy. Sure u will have a little bit less time for your friends. But the ideal relationship means that there are 3 parts to your life..

1) time for just you and her
2) time for just you
3) time for you, her, her friends or your friends

a good realtionship means your girlfriend is also your best friend which means that shes comfortable doing most things you like to do and vice versa.

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Originally posted by jester Everything in this country is illegal.

"Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery…" Winston Churchill

‎"If you have ten thousand regulations you destroy all respect for the law" - Winston Churchill

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Originally posted by zokissima How can you say that? Your own refusal to accept their choices in life does no more to show what kind of a friend you are, than their choices do to you, if you chose the stance you have. ANd who are we to say someone else is whipped? Maybe they are, but love/lust/infatuation has that effect on people. Maybe they'll see the truth of the matter on their own, but you do them no favours by claiming to see the truth for them.

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100% life reversal on the turn of a dime is nothing more than whipped. especially when given the impression that "id love to come out but my girlfriend wants to go to such and such place" pretty much every single time.

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Originally posted by jester Everything in this country is illegal.

"Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery…" Winston Churchill

‎"If you have ten thousand regulations you destroy all respect for the law" - Winston Churchill

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Originally posted by Jayx1 a good realtionship means your girlfriend is also your best friend which means that shes comfortable doing most things you like to do and vice versa.

EXACTLY!! if your relationship isn't like this....than you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.....because ultimately, you are going to hit a brick wall sooner or later.

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Originally posted by mindspin EXACTLY!! if your relationship isn't like this....than you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.....because ultimately, you are going to hit a brick wall sooner or later.

yeah but most guys around here are too whipped to accept this as being normal.

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Originally posted by jester Everything in this country is illegal.

"Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery…" Winston Churchill

‎"If you have ten thousand regulations you destroy all respect for the law" - Winston Churchill

it's really quite pathetic.

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there has to be a balance.

liking and doing things always together leads to problems too.

you must balance in four ways.

time alone/time together/time together with friends/time apart with friends.

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess there has to be a balance. liking and doing things always together leads to problems too. you must balance in four ways. time alone/time together/time together with friends/time apart with friends.

Wise words

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess there has to be a balance. liking and doing things always together leads to problems too. you must balance in four ways. time alone/time together/time together with friends/time apart with friends.

Best thing I've heard in a while.
Also I agree w mr furious. It's cool if you're in love with the person etc but why do certain people feel they have the need to constantly rag on about it? Man...

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very wise words....margs knows what's up.

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didnt i just say pretty much the same thing before her?

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Originally posted by jester Everything in this country is illegal.

"Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery…" Winston Churchill

‎"If you have ten thousand regulations you destroy all respect for the law" - Winston Churchill

i think everyones been saying the same thing, just wording it differently.

what we really need are longer days, that would solve a lot of these issues.