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hmm i guess. but aren't you happy people like me exist? otherwise, what model would you base your dating life around?

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Originally posted by Caela hm..honestly-is she beautiful to JUST you?

No. Shes pretty and everyone knows it. She's pretty in the classical sense - a fit figure (not anorexically slim), a beautiful face and a great sense of style. And yeah, it sort of seems like she's always felt this way.

And allcentury18, I appreciate it, but your advice I know is already sort of off the mark for this sort of situation. I really do appreciate your input, but I know my girlfriend, and I can tell this is not a test of my force of will. And you're missing the point anyway - I don't find these thoughts unattractive, I'd be neutral towards it if it wasn't something that makes her unhappy from time to time. And this is not affecting my feelings for her at all. I still love her the same. She's told me she has had alot of image and comfort problems - she doesn't like going to the beach, for example, because she's so uncomfortable in a bathing suit.

I do think I am communicating to her, our relationship is very close and very personal, that's why it's a cause of concern for me because I care alot about her happiness and would like to help her find a way to overcome this lack of confidence.

edit- and i can kind of already tell where the advice in this thread is going to lead..whatev. Toss in all opinions!! I'm open for them

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Originally posted by Caela has she thought this way for a long time? cuz sometimes girls go through phases...like "oh i look great" and then "oh i look like crap". if not, then it'll prob pass soon. maybe she just needs something new, to spice up her appearance, just like a haircut or new haircolor...but just make sure u don't tell her to do something new. go out and buy her a new shirt or something, it's always nice to get something new esp when your bf thinks it would look hot

More like this. This is advice I guess I could use. Advice, rather, from someone who is a girl and may be able to relate to the problem more

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hm....was she kind of an ugly duckling turned into swan type thing? sorta like those girls that aren't the best looking when they're younger but then grow up to really be gorgeous. maybe she has poor self esteem from when she was younger, and has never really believed that she grew to be better looking. i guess all you can do, is to keep telling her that she's beautiful, and hopefully it'll click someday. if not, then just sit down with her and tell her what you're feeling and why you're frusturated.

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Originally posted by allcentury18 hmm i guess. but aren't you happy people like me exist? otherwise, what model would you base your dating life around?

uhh... lol

i was being sarcastic. you're coming off trying to sound like hitch. sorry man, i dont need relationship advice. i'm happily giving up a lot of potential college pussy because of the relationship i'm in. nice to know you think so highly of yourself though...

hmmm r u sure ur gf even thinks she's ugly,, most likely she d0es it to get a rise out of you and c0p compliments like,, 'baby ur so0o sexii i l0ve you, ur the only one for me' etc.

buT if she really thinks shes ugly just make sure y0u dont look @ other girls aNd d0nt give her compliments like 'oh you look good today' c0z its pretty much saying that she d0esnt ne other day

My ex had a similar deal, she was beautiful, but didn't think so, and for some reason never photographed well.

I think she told me the most beautiful she ever felt was when she woke up one morning and I was lying there, just looking into her eyes (she has the most amazing eyes, I'd get lost in the all the time), and I just lay there for about 5 mins looking into her eyes and smiling softly, neither of us said a word.

Ahhhh... happy days

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Originally posted by kr00t0n My ex had a similar deal, she was beautiful, but didn't think so, and for some reason never photographed well. I think she told me the most beautiful she ever felt was when she woke up one morning and I was lying there, just looking into her eyes (she has the most amazing eyes, I'd get lost in the all the time), and I just lay there for about 5 mins looking into her eyes and smiling softly, neither of us said a word. Ahhhh... happy days

how does thy melt my heart so?

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Originally posted by dinoXpress how does thy melt my heart so?

The popular opinion is because I have a big glowing knob

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Originally posted by kr00t0n I think she told me the most beautiful she ever felt was when she woke up one morning and I was lying there, just looking into her eyes (she has the most amazing eyes, I'd get lost in the all the time), and I just lay there for about 5 mins looking into her eyes and smiling softly, neither of us said a word. Ahhhh... happy days

Thanks for the reminder of the things I'm missing out on while stuck here.

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Just play it cool and be all like...

Uhhh uhm...um...y...y ....y....you're pretty...

Smooooooooth.

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