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Originally posted by Frenchie answer me this: When your kid acts out, you'll tell them not to do it again ...what happends when they don't take it seriously and turn around and do what they did the first time? Tell them again?

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Originally posted by RickyM Aye and look how you turned out, a fuckin' tearaway!

Meaning?

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Originally posted by luisjb82 Exactly. I believe in rewarding good actions and that will always be far more positive and will get better results, than punishing bad behaviour with any kind of violence or destructive criticism.

I was raised on the, "Good behavior gets rewarded, bad behavior gets punished," systems. Every time I did something good I was rewarded in some way, shape or form. Every time I was bad, I was denied something I was looking forward to.

Grooviebeats:

It doesn't have to be just taking away their favorite play toy. Say you're at the grocery store, and you promised your child a toy today. If they misbehave and don't listen to you, then don't buy them the toy. If you promised to take them to a movie but they act up, don't take them to the movie.

It's not just about taking away toys, it's denying them something they love, in general.

Edit: Okay, this is it, I really need to get back to my test.

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Originally posted by Frenchie That's how my mother raised me. Never once did she place her hands on me. I pulled a fit once in a grocery store and she look me in the eye and said, " Don't you EVER do that again, ever" and I stopped. Never again did I talk back, pull a ft, act out ( aside from the teenager phase I went though) IMO, and what I and my friends have been though with parents, getting yelled at or talked to aggressively, works better than hitting your kids. answer me this: When your kid acts out, you'll spank them....what appends when they don't take it seriously and turn around and do what they did the first time? Spank them again? You'll only end up spanking and spanking them which is how some parents start abusing their kids. ( I doubt you'll ever do that, I'm just saying as an example and what I've heard happened to kids before.

No i would never abuse my child.. but i would spakn them again if they kept acting up. Spanking worked for me.. heck on time.. we (mom and I) were at a food store.. cart slap full me pushing it. I get the wild idea i was gonna run and jump put my feet in the bar in the back and well skat across the floor. Well i jumped and flipped the cart. My mom had to pay for all the broken stuff and buy all new stuff that wasnt all messed up..I got my ass tore the fuck up in the middle of the store.. but did i do it again.. hell no...

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Originally posted by idoru I was raised on the, "Good behavior gets rewarded, bad behavior gets punished," systems. Every time I did something good I was rewarded in some way, shape or form. Every time I was bad, I was denied something I was looking forward to. Grooviebeats: It doesn't have to be just taking away their favorite play toy. Say you're at the grocery store, and you promised your child a toy today. If they misbehave and don't listen to you, then don't buy them the toy. If you promised to take them to a movie but they act up, don't take them to the movie. It's not just about taking away toys, it's denying them something they love, in general. Edit: Okay, this is it, I really need to get back to my test.

the answers are

a b a c d e b true, false, false, true, true.

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On OOKA-OOKA ME NACHOS ME PRESS KEYS ON COMPUTER GOOD

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Originally posted by nchs09 the answers are a b a c d e b true, false, false, true, true.

hmm, on the majority of my tests the true/false questions are first.

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Originally posted by Frenchie Meaning?

I was only messin' with you, I thought the smilie would have given it away

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Originally posted by idoru I was raised on the, "Good behavior gets rewarded, bad behavior gets punished," systems. Every time I did something good I was rewarded in some way, shape or form. Every time I was bad, I was denied something I was looking forward to. Grooviebeats: It doesn't have to be just taking away their favorite play toy. Say you're at the grocery store, and you promised your child a toy today. If they misbehave and don't listen to you, then don't buy them the toy. If you promised to take them to a movie but they act up, don't take them to the movie. It's not just about taking away toys, it's denying them something they love, in general. Edit: Okay, this is it, I really need to get back to my test.

beleive me i see you point but i was also raised on if you are good you got things but i was raised that if you were bad you got ya ass beat.

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I don't believe that you should place your hands on a child in any form of punishment at all. I find it wrong, harsh and it could potentially screw up or scar your kid for life. I don't know why parents just can't talk to their kids, and have the kid listen and do right. It's not the parents fault nor the kid, but I just think that with time your kid will listen, without physical action taken.

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Originally posted by RickyM I was only messin' with you, I thought the smilie would have given it away

ok. lol

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Originally posted by Sunsnail hmm, on the majority of my tests the true/false questions are first.

really?... trying to think back, i thikn all my college exams that include a true or false section are always in the middle.... i might be wroing though. ill tell you in 2 weeks when i have anotherone

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On OOKA-OOKA ME NACHOS ME PRESS KEYS ON COMPUTER GOOD

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Originally posted by grooviebeats stupid peopele ...if you go kids if they act up you beat that ass that is that..

Hey, guess what...

...that's right - NOT IN FLORIDA...

Only in the Wild Wild West...

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When I was a kid, I was spanked, and a few times was given the belt!

Coming from someone who experienced this kind of punishment, I will firmly say that I do not think it is effective.

Why?

Well, it made me *fear* my mother, which lodged a wedge between her and I. I cannot say for sure if this is true, but my mother and I don't have a wonderful relationship now, and I wonder if perhaps she didn't choose to use physical punishment, if that would be a little different?

It also made me lose respect for her. She would spank me, and I would be angry and resentful. When I got older I started to look down on her for not being able to rationally discuss the issue with me.

One time when I was 14-15, my mother slapped my leg really hard for something, I looked at her and I said with the fiercest resolve "if you EVER hit me again, I will not think twice about hitting you back". She never touched me again.

I mean, don't get me wrong... I wasn't beaten or anything. I was spanked or whatever when I did something my mom deemed as wrong. However, I don't think it EVER taught me a lesson. Instead, I would leave the experience pissed off, angry, upset, resentful, but NEVER did I consider my wrong doing and put together the fact that what I did wrong warranted my whack. Looking back, I only remember the reason of why I got the belt ONCE, and I can assure you it did NOT NOT NOT teach me a lesson. In fact, it made me realize how corrupt and evil adults are.

The ONLY time I would ever say physical punishment would be warranted is if the child used it first. For example, my kid pulls another kids hair and makes that kid cry. I would pull my kids hair and ask him how he liked it. Obviously he wouldn't, and I would then explain that if he didn't like it, then he shouldn't do it to other people either.