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| quote: | Originally posted by TheVrk
you're just not defining what u feel towards that person properly.
Anger, disappointment, or hating what the person did to you - ya
Hating the person - NO |
| quote: | Originally posted by TheVrk
If you're hating someone at times either you :
a) don't really love the person
b) genuinely care about them but don't actually love them...you may just think you do
b) don't love them at all and are infatuated with them or just physically attracted to them
Loving someone means you CAN'T hate them |
Very interesting way to look at it; though I believe we are just discussing the semantics, although the emotional element is the same. Sometimes the negativity and frustration I feel towards the person, if it's not managed properly (by myself or lack of proactivity or care from my partner) would result in temporary hatred, like I don't even want to see the person. But that's only a short moment, and even feeling that heart-wrenching hate for one millisecond means you've felt it (which I have) so that's why I agreed with the above post.
I can't say I'm fully convinced about the "purity" you're describing; again, I think that's all semantics and the degree of emotions that people feel when they are "in love" is relative.
| quote: | Originally posted by zokissima
Its not that you hate them as a person, but hate a specific part of their behaiviour, or some of their actions, or whatever, and your love is what is supposed to give you incentive to get through your problems. |
You're saying the same thing as Vrk but for some reason I connect with this description a little more (probably because you're not defining love as much, and your description of what love is supposed to do is BANG ON imho!! We def see eye to eye on a lot of things, zoki!  But I still don't think the hate I feel like when I've said before, "I HATE IT when you did that" I know I felt in my heart that I wanted to say I HATE YOU RIGHT NOW FOR MAKING ME FEEL THIS WAY, but of course I don't. But that's my point.
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