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I think on average people want to find love, and that is of course part of life's dreams.
However, there are other dreams too... or I would assume that most peoples dreams involve more than just love.
The directions in which you choose to take your life need to coincide with your partner if your relationship is to work.
Therefore, person A and person B need to find a compromise that will make both of them happy, right?
But what if person B is not willing to travel at all. Doesn't want anything to do with living in another country, and has no interest in partaking in person A's adventuring. However, person A really feels they need that in their life in order to feel content.
On the other hand, person A is willing to compromise and once traveled for a few years will be more than happy to settle down, buy a house, have kids etc. etc. They just need to travel for a few years first and get it out of their system.
Does person A give up their dreams to travel and just stay with person B because they love them and want to be with them? Or should they follow their dreams and take the chance of losing person B??
Jenny - I was thinking that too... I mean, if one person chooses not to follow their dreams for the sake of staying with the other, I would guess that resentment would be developed and thus later cause relationship issues.
Cetra³ - person B wants a house, kids, a stable job, etc. All of which is nice, and person A wants too, but only after person A has had the chance to be free and wander the world for a while. Person A has considered what person B wants, and appreciates it for what it is. However, that does not erase the fact the ultimately, person A wants more than that.
kadomony - I don't see how being monogamous is an issue for person A. Being adventurous and wanting excitement does not necessarily mean that person A is unable to commit.
Fibonacci - person A wants to teach overseas for a year or so. Person B may compromise far enough to go to an all-inclusive resort for a couple of weeks a year. However, they have no qualms finding common ground in other areas of the relationship.
Now, I understand and will completely agree that people are not rocks, and things can most certainly change, however, is it wise to stay together based simply on the hope that one or the other will change? I don't really think so.
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