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Originally posted by Slylee you know i was thinking the other night about cheating...i was having a random psychotic moment in my mind asking myself if i would ever cheat on my bf...like trying to picture me doing the actual act, and the thought of it made me sick. i was like, "oh HELL no i couldn't cheat on him". but i've cheated before.

So you have never told yourself that before...that you couldnt cheat on them? Was it only now you have come to this conclusion after the actual fact?

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Originally posted by love_child So you have never told yourself that before...that you couldnt cheat on them? Was it only now you have come to this conclusion after the actual fact?

no i just have little random thoughts sometimes that's all. and i like to be self aware and sort of think about my thoughts. lol

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Let's say once upon a time I had a bf who was a TA... And I cheated on him...for whatever reason, who the **** cares why. No one cares why I do the shit I do. I'm selfish. I'm a bitch. That's all that matters. But I know and others know that I hurt him. When he found out I cheated, I hurt him. If I knew that he still read TA now and again... Why would I make a thread like this? Seriously, why would I make a thread like this? Just to remind everyone that I'm really shallow and self centered? Nah...

sounds like you're trying to tell some one something?

Well, Slylee. Me recently having the privilege of joining the ranks of "taken"; highly disregard any cheating of the sort. Cheating is uncouth and morally wrong. Once you have declared your affection for someone you should never deviate from that path. Dont be a ditch-digger or a curb-hugger.

eating isn't cheating

i knew this would be pointless and everyone would just focus on the cheating factor rather than the actual point of the thread which is to question whether or not you think someone who once cheated would be faithful if, say... they grew into a more mature person and met the right person at a better time in their life sort of thing.

i wasn't really trying to make this thread entirely about me and my incidents, i was trying to just be the first one to start off and admit that i've done some stupid shit, that way anyone who has done something similar wouldn't be scared to say "yea i did too". cuz i aint scurred like that and don't really fear judgment from you guys. i mean i don't lose sleep over it.

anyway goin to bed

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Nobody can do anything more than 100%, and people who justify themselves as putting forth anything more are actually insecure with themselves and trying to overcmpensate for their shortcomings.

i like the term 110% !

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

I think you have the ability to be faithful if you've cheated but I believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's not something you can erase and say " well I only did it once, so it doesn't count or I won't or couldn't do it again '. The fact remains you cheated and you'll always have the mentality to cheat even if it's far behind in the back of your head and you haven't done it in 5,10 or 15 years. the thought to do it is buried somewhere in there.

u know i just realized the meaning of "once a cheater always a cheater". lol i was thinking it means that once you cheat, u will always cheat no matter what. not so much "once u cheat, u can be labeled a cheater".

lol
/blonde

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Once you've done something you're not always labeled as that thing you've done. If you've skydived once you're not automatically categorized as a skydiver. I think it depends on what you've done, the context and what last impressions you've left. Cheating is one of those things that I think the label sticks with you whether you're going to do it again or not. Maybe it's societies fault or I just don't know how to let go? Either way, that's just my opinion.

cheating = you don't love the person you're with

simple as that...
can someone change? Of course they can