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Domesticated
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| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Oh, wait, culture may influence... but you're on a slippery slope when you claim "women from that country/region" are (all) like that. Some Asian girls may be subservient, but that's nothing but a rule of thumb: there are quite many Asian girls that are nothing like that (I hope you're counting Japan as a Western country here, because the girls I met that were both born and raised there are nothing like you'd expect). |
In truth, I was thinking almost exclusively of Thailand, though I would expand that to include Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos and China.
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
My point is that differences within any society are as significant as the differences between societies. There are plenty of good girls along with the bitchy skanks anywhere you go. |
Certainly. We can agree on that.
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Arbiter
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| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
stop rejecting love arbiter. you're going to be a lonely old man with no grandkids if you keep this up |
I have no quarrel with love, it's marriage that I'm hostile to.
The way I see it, I'm a valuable commodity. It would be unethical for me to deny women the opportunity to freely compete for me on the open market.
Moreover, I have no economic incentive to do so. If I commit to an exclusive dealing arrangement, then I'm no longer on the market, and thus I do not benefit from the threat of competition. My partner's incentive to provide me with value is decreased proportionately to the marginal increase in the cost of my terminating the relationship (which is likely to be particularly high in my case, due to my financial situation). My partner assumes a reciprocal risk (though not necessarily an equivalent risk, since the cost of terminating the relationship is likely to vary between married partners). Consequently, it becomes a modified prisoner's dilemma. This kind of situation produces high transaction costs and is likely to lead to economically inefficient outcomes, which is one reason why such exclusive dealing arrangements are often (rightfully) prohibited or at least tightly regulated in other business contexts.
Additionally, even if were to I decide to change my mind later, game theory suggests I may be advantaged by postponing marriage (see, e.g., http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/). That said, my strong personal preference for preserving the opportunity to change my mind is one of the reasons I'd likely opt not to make such a commitment as marriage even if it weren't for all of the reasons discussed previously.
Finally, even if the result of my choices do eventually lead to my living a solitary life when elderly, that's something I'm quite comfortable with. I don't really get lonely in the sense that I have some abstract desire for more human contact. For me, loneliness is always tied to missing some specific individual. As a result, the risk of loneliness may actually be higher if I were to marry, since I might well experience considerable loneliness associated with that person's absence if I were to outlive them. Granted, that's a risk with any long-term relationship, marriage or no marriage. I've already been down that road, and I'm not in any particular hurry to go there again.
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saluyamo
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Location: Newcastle, Australia
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| quote: | Originally posted by Domesticated
if something goes wrong between them they don't have to ruin their lives with a legal battle. |
Actually after 3 years I believe it would be considered as a De Facto relationship and a divorce type legal battle could happen
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Nov-25-2009 04:50
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Capitalizt
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Location: USA
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Nov-25-2009 04:58
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Domesticated
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| quote: | Originally posted by saluyamo
Actually after 3 years I believe it would be considered as a De Facto relationship and a divorce type legal battle could happen |
I see. Oh well, the result is the same. The point remains: why bother wasting money on a marriage?
The usual answer here is "to celebrate our relationship and cement it in the eyes of our friends and family" or "for tradition". I'd be happy if I could find a woman with enough rationality and strength to flout those notions. If I can't, then I suppose I'm paying for a marriage.
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