work keeps me away for 55 hours a week and my girlfriend balances work, college and homework, so I see her maybe once a week if I'm lucky. I'm the same as you, I keep myself busy and generally don't sit around getting upset that I can't see her more. If I could I would, but I can't, so what am I supposed to do about it?

I just sat her down and said listen, we've got a great thing going and it's the highlight of my week when I get to see you. don't live through our relationship and don't hinge your happiness on it, if you're in this for the long run you need to accept that what we have isn't going to be a daily thing. we need to live our own lives and be able to be happy on our own, otherwise the resentment and frustration will just build until what we do have no longer seems worth it. don't sit around thinking "I wish I could be with him", think "I had a great time last time I saw him, and I can't wait to see him soon". and then go have fun or something.

dunno if they're similar situations though. I mean she literally cries herself to sleep if she misses me, when I just saw her 3 or 4 days ago. to me it seems a bit much considering our age, but we're trying to make it work.

hope it works out for you either way. this relationship nonsense is difficult.

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Originally posted by Looney4Clooney naw i really would say i am quite the opposite. I rarely think about myself. As if my soft golden middle is obvious under the silly badboy rhetoric that is obviously not real. But ya, if i don't like you, i won't do a think for you, but if i do, I will go out of my way to help you out. Like shit , you said you needed hardrives, i was ready to mail a bunch to you for free. Naw you have my douchery all wrong. I mean i bet you wouldn't think i am a strong proponent for women's rights. I give alot of money to organizations that help the mentally ill, my character is i don't know, lets just say , I probably think about what i do and how that makes people feel more than most. I mean i'm the kinda guy that if i were to rape someone, you can guarantee that i will use lots of lube, a condom and tell her she is gorgeous. So fuck you .

Don't take what I said as a jibe or anything, it wasn't like that.

You're a generous douche for sure, but perhaps that's because you like the attention that gives you as well? I dunno. It's impossible to really tell from an internet persona.

The way I see it is that anybody that explains themselves, their actions and their skills as much as you do thinks about themselves a lot, which again isn't a jibe.

It's hard to put my finger on it, but it's like you were 13, and then you were 30 and wondering what everything's about and how did you get there.

I'm sure in 'real' life you and I would get on very well as i've said before, you are basically me a decade ago. Either that or we'd Vader and Kinobi ourselves to Oblivion.

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Originally posted by tehlord The way I see it is that anybody that explains themselves, their actions and their skills as much as you do thinks about themselves a lot, which again isn't a jibe.

he only really does it when people call him out and he has to go on the defensive. which happens about three times a day.

You don't need a GF, you need a 6 foot German dominatrix with a strap on collection

Seriously, if you even question the need for giving a GF more time, you don't have time for a GF. Decide what's 'really' important to you and do it. It's that simple. But before you do, think it through FULLY.

There is a lot more to life than what you may think you want at this moment. Plan ahead.

Normie - Advisor to the lovelorn.

Richie, what you're talking about has happened to VERY single composer I know.

There's a reason the unofficial nickname for where I used to work was "widow-maker studios". I don't know a single person there that hasn't either split up from their significant other, or is going through major hell. I left for two reasons; one being that there were a bunch of non studio skills I felt I had that were not being utilized and the second was that I was going to have to make a choice - either her or the career, and yes, I chose love.

Jobs come and go, the right person is once in a lifetime, if you're lucky. I was taught a long time ago that you can change your career and even bend it to your will, even though we're conditioned to be scared not to change jobs or put it first so they can control you.

Te one constant I've had in my life for the last decade has been my missus, and I've had 4 career changes in that time.

I know at least part of this thread is just for lols, but that's the way you present things when they are close to home, so you may feel like there's some problem, but don't listen to anyone that tells you it;s dead in the water, because it's not, not unless you want it to be. Sometimes women need to feel you're willing to fight for them (no not bottling some guy at the pub then coming home to barf out his hlaf digested gall bladder as a show of dedication to the lady). They start thinking "it might be him for the rest of my life. No strange ever again. Better make sure he can make fire, shelter and hunt". So prove it to her, as that's what she's secretly signaling to you.


















That or she's banging someone else?

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Originally posted by DJ RANN the right person is once in a lifetime

That sounds like Hollywood talking.

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Originally posted by dj_alfi change your avatar for fucks sake.

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Originally posted by Beatflux That sounds like Hollywood talking.

Why, thank you

Post a pic at least, so we can see if it's worth it.

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Originally posted by TranceElevation Post a pic at least, so we can see if it's worth it.

Search his Mad4Brad posts. He has posted pics before. She is worth it.

If she loves you then she would understand

Can't you get her hooked on pain killers or something? Yeah your meals will be burnt alot more but at least it will chill her out about the whole situation.


Its your girlfriend you really need to be talking to, but ultimately its about what you want to do with your life. Sadly I don't think you can have it all your way. It will only get worse if you marry and have kids (well I say worse its actually a blessing in disguise)
Maybe thats what she's after, a commitment from you? Maybe it will come at a cost regarding your career but its possible you will be compensated in other ways, maybe you wont and it all goes tits up! Who knows? Its a choice only you can make.

Its your dilemma and you shouldn't let anyone but yourself influence your decision.

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Originally posted by jayxthekoolest She is worth it.

By which standard? By american?