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Originally posted by DeeDee ...ive used that "not now, maybe in the future" line before...poor guys that actually believe it

That's because blokes say what they mean: they get hopeful in such situation, you know?

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Originally posted by musicaddict ok pleas, I want true/honest/sense making answers...no bs..thanks(sorry if its long but please reply if you know of any good advice) ok this is how it started.. I met this girl about 2 months and something in school. I found her interesting to be around with. I feel very comfortable talking to her. Theres something special about her. The problem is that at first I didnt really think I have feelings for her but as time passes by and I talk to her more and more I thought about her more and more. I think about everyday for this past 2 weeks. So this means that I really like this girl but I don't think she has any interest in me. It seems like she likes talking to me except only as friends. There's no sign of her liking me. Then last week we talked for the longest time since we met and as we were talking I THOUGHT I that she's starting to like me or at least have somewhat feeling for me. I was a lil nervous and shy but I asked her out to dinner on Friday. She said yes and damn I was hella happy. So I was telling myself "damn, this is like one of the happiest moment of my life. A chick I like is going out with me on a date and I think she's starting to like me." So on Friday we went out on our date. I had a great time and I'm pretty sure she did too. So when I dropped her home I asked her for her #. She gave it to me so then I asked if we can go out sometime again and she agrees. I thought to myself, wow this is too good. I drove home one happy man. Then later that night I called her. I really wanted to tell her that I really have feelings and I really like her but I didn't think it was the right time (I mean 2 months and something is too early in the game) so I told myself "no, dont tell her how you feel yet...wait until you go out again". So my plan was to call and talk for a while but then after talking for a while I feel like I really have to tell her how I feel before it's too late. So then I started to tell her that I think she's a very nice/sweet/kind/special person and there's something thats bugging me for while and I have to let it out. So then I told her how i feel about her. She was all quiet and listening to me. AFter I told her how i feel for her I asked her if she feels the same way. What happens next made my happy day turned into a hell day. She told me that "I only see you as a friend. Nothing more." Then I asked her what about our date today, what do you see it as? Then she said "Just a friendly date. Friends going out with friends." After she said those words I got really depressed and sad but I had to act like I wasn't sad but I really was. I was also happy in a way because I got to find out the answer to my question. AFter all is said and done, I asked her "well do you think we have a chance?" She said "maybe" and I was like "NO! I want a Yes or a No answer. So then she said "yes" so that made me feel a lil better but still, I don't think I can see us as just friends. I mean I have to see her everyday in school. I don't think I can handle it. Now, I don't even know if i will have the guts to look at her when we go back to school on Monday. So anyways, what do you guys think? Do you think that I told her how I felt too early? Coz this is what I was thinking to myself..I told myself that we've know each other for 2 and something months and I think that it is the right time, but hell I was wrong. I was also telling myself that if I didn't tell her now, I might be too late. DAmn im sooo wrong..so please replies with some good comments/opinions.. this this lost soul out..thanks btw, sorry if its too long but I just gotta let all this feelings out.

Try this on for size: I've been speaking/associating with this lady I've known since 2001-05-24 at LEAST every few days and on 2002-07-01 at 16:05 US EDT, (a good THIRTEEN MONTHS LATER), I asked her about "moving the relationship to the next level" or something along those lines and here's what she says: "And as for what you said before. We already are in a relationship, Silly. We are friends "
I almost flipped! We're both SO alike and that statements didn't give me a positive reaction because I was expecting a different reply. When I told her how much I liked her, here's what she said, on 2002-07-04 at 11:26: "Ai'm sorry Ai didnot mention this earlier to you. Throughout mai life, Ai've had a rather bad history of relationships with people (Either based on friendsihp or based on romance). Alot of times Ai have ended up being really hurt by alot of people. It has made me kind of paranoid sometimes about other people's intentions. It is a totally new concept to me for instance that people would actually be interested in me "

Now, I know that this is going to be a 50-50 shot with this but, should I try to "win" her or what? I never was in this kind of situation before and I'd like to know what to do here.
If you read this and know, I GREATLY THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME KNOW!!!

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Originally posted by Essential1 "Maybe" could mean that she doesn't know how she feels yet and doesn't want to lie to u. Just give it time and see what happens. The only real advice I can give u is NEVER use the word LOVE. U can say u care about her, u have feelings for her, but don't say "I love you". Once u sau those 3 magical words, 2 things could happen: she'll either get scared or she'll get obsessed with you. I've made that mistake b4 and the outcome is not very pretty.

Same here! I said that before and she said "What do you mean?". So, I HIGHLY suggest that you NEVER say that statement until you actually live together, been together for a WHILE, and it's the God-honest 100% TRUTH (It's the truth about the person that I'm speaking about!). Read my other reply in this thread and see if you can figure out why she said "What do you mean?".

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Originally posted by musicaddict I cant think straight right now. It's just too hard to avoid this feeling I have inside right now. I think I'll be ending up doing something stupid. It's too hard for me to take her image off my mind. Even though were still friends no matter what but I cant seem to accept that reality. I need some soul searching.

"It's too hard for me to take her image off my mind. Even though were still friends no matter what but I cant seem to accept that reality." would be the SAME thing for me if this doesn't work out between me and "her".

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Originally posted by ali92 (...) I've been speaking/associating with this lady I've known since 2001-05-24 at LEAST every few days and on 2002-07-01 at 16:05 US EDT,(...) When I told her how much I liked her, here's what she said, on 2002-07-04 at 11:26

hhmm....first, I guess you should stop being so obsessed with time

Second: Be yourself, don't push it. If she likes you (not just as a friend), she'll change her mind. Otherwise, you're just one step closer to destroy your relationship (as friends) with her? Is that what you want?

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Originally posted by Maaz hhmm....first, I guess you should stop being so obsessed with time Second: Be yourself, don't push it. If she likes you (not just as a friend), she'll change her mind. Otherwise, you're just one step closer to destroy your relationship (as friends) with her? Is that what you want?

For the 1st sentence: I took those dates/times from my instant messenger log (Why do you care about me and time?).
For the 2nd sentence: I already am.
For the 4th and 5th sentences: Obviously, I don't want to destory the current relationship.

That's it and THANKS!

lemme tell what happened to me:
I was friends with this girl for a whole semester at school. Then during the summer we didnt' talk but as school started again we started conversing and whatnot and the next thing you know i make out with her. She feels weird and says she has a bf for a long time, etc. and now we hardly speak to each other. So...the moral?
Be careful how you approach girls, if you're good friends with them, it may not be worth risking your friendship by trying to kick it to them

...now i just confused myself a bit

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Originally posted by ali92 "It's too hard for me to take her image off my mind. Even though were still friends no matter what but I cant seem to accept that reality." would be the SAME thing for me if this doesn't work out between me and "her".

I feel you. Man I'm so down and I can't stop thinking about this since I heard the answer from her. So much stress..I was thinking of taking up smoking but one of my life moral is to be a nonsmoker. What do I do?

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why is life like this? words out to everyone that has the same problem as me. I guess we just gotta learn to move on (damn its so easy to say in words) yet so damn hard to do it.

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they judge you coz u aint rap (haha)
thas alota smacks u told and thats that
in the streets they nicknamed you fag
little wanna be mc that cant seem to see that you can never be who u think u gon be..see that? guess not? coz u dont fuckin rap!!

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Originally posted by pagoda Pretty much the same thing happened to me man. About 3 years ago I met this girl at work, over time we became pretty much best friends. I had feelings for her the whole time, and I finally had enough after about a year of seeing her bitch bf make her cry, so I told her how I felt, and she said she felt the same, but still wanted to give her bf a chance. A few months went by, and she finally broke up with her bf. It was V-Day, so I asked her out and she said she wasnt ready. I come out of work the next night to see her kissing this other douche bag. I just couldn't stand to see her after that, we haven't talked since, really... And even though it really hurt me, I still think about her. It sucks. She's still the coolest chick I've ever met, but it hurts to see her when she occasionaly strolls into my work.

ummmmmmmmmm she feels the same way my ASS. Then why the hell is she making out with some other fuck while she stiffs you?!?!?! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. I hate hearing stories like this...all of my girls friends are so sweet, they always go "Chris I can't believe you're still single". Why do women do shit like that for? I don't get it. Please can a woman explain it to me? Just sick of the BS,
Chris.

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Originally posted by musicaddict I feel you. Man I'm so down and I can't stop thinking about this since I heard the answer from her. So much stress..I was thinking of taking up smoking but one of my life moral is to be a nonsmoker. What do I do?

Don't smoke and stay a non-smoker. Smoking slowly kills you because your lungs weren't made to process smoke and you can get Cancer from it (and die afterwards).