People who have had real problems don't whine about the stupid shit you always do.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson People who have had real problems don't whine about the stupid shit you always do.

What do I whine about? I am not saying my life is shit lmao, it's actually pretty fucking fantastic in most regards, I am extremely lucky, but everyone can get depressed.

Seriously, actual clinical depression runs in both my parents family, also diagnosed OCD that manifests in the form of hypochondria is prevalent, all of my cousins on my dad's side have it to varying degrees, and my grandfather actually died of it (combined with quick onset Parkinsons, probably as a result of electroshock therapy he had to treat his delusions that everyone had AIDS and he'd given AIDS to everyone in the family).

So like I said, sometimes you can't help it, you just feel in a funk despite everything looking up or being fine. If you haven't experienced this you're lucky, but if you know anyone that has legitimate clinical depression, especially untreated then you know it sucks and it isn't something they can just get all bootstrappy about and fix on their own.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson Have you had real problems? Have you ever been homeless, starving, or life-threateningly ill? Ever been in any situation that jeopardized your Well-being, that you had to rely solely on yourself, with NO support to help you through it?

To be fair, by that definition hardly anyone on this forum could say they've had "real problems".

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby The one I'm talkingabout is rather ppetty in the grand scheme of things, but it doesn't negate the fact that it actually affects my well being despite all rational logic telling me it shouldn't. The fact that external factors plus an inability to voluntarily exclude myself from the situation makes me rather angry at myself.

We all know you're talking about women, there's no need to be vague.

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Not women, woman.

And how is that not a legitimate cause for an emotional funk?

Nou is a sub. No doubt his parents have enabled him. Hard to say if given a chance whether he'd sink or swim. The lack of strength and courage to lead an independent life is the root of his depression. I'm sure he has painstakingly constructed a house of cards in his head to deny the terrible reality of it all. Reminds me of if you incarcerate someone too long they can't function in the real world. Very sad.

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby This isn't what this thread is about, people can get in emotional funks from the entirely mundane. It's not really a choice for some people either. I am not sure what point you are trying to make. Furthermore your problems don't have to be a defining factor in every facet of your life. The stupid shit I am talking about affects one part, it does affect my over all happiness, but it is not entirely defining. I still have a life outside of the problems, it's just something that every once and a while takes focus, is frustrating as fuck, and then annoys me in that arena for some time to come.

As I've grown up I've come to love the built-in improvements in emotional stability. I like how easy it is to stay on top of everything even if one part of your life to turns to shit for a while.

Also I've noticed just by getting older my drawing and sand castle building skills have just magically improved.

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Originally posted by FuzzQi As I've grown up I've come to love the built-in improvements in emotional stability. I like how easy it is to stay on top of everything even if one part of your life to turns to shit for a while. Also I've noticed just by getting older my drawing and sand castle building skills have just magically improved.

Yea, it definitely gets easier as you get older, though in some ways when the situations you get into are partly your fault you tend to get a bit more angry at yourself for still doing the same shit.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J To be fair, by that definition hardly anyone on this forum could say they've had "real problems".

Exactly. That's the perspective bit I was talking about. And no, I'm not saying that if a person hasn't experienced those things then they haven't dealt with tough shit. But it's very easy to wallow in your problems and get caught up in end of the world "poor me" type thinking if you don't remind yourself that it could be much, much worse.

Btw Nou pm'ed me, the "problem" he's talking about is his up and down relationship with citric acid. LOL POOR NOU LIFE MUST BE HARD.

"emotional funks" are western, middle class diseases. who has the time to be miserable when they're scratching around in the dirt for food?

you know what im miserable about now? that wine only comes in 750ml containers. that's fucking bullshit. might have to cry.

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby Not women, woman. And how is that not a legitimate cause for an emotional funk?

I didn't say anything about legitimacy, I just don't get why you are beating about the bush so much, instead of just saying "Women can get you down no matter how much life experience you've had."

Although I imagine your problem is simply pining over some girl who doesn't want you and being unable to move on. The best way to avoid that kind of thing is to quick and decisive - if you like a girl, make a move quickly. If you can't, put out of your mind immediately. If she starts messing you about, bin her off and block her out of your life. That's how most people work - have a shot and if it doesn't work, shrug and move on before you pointlessly develop emotional attachment with a non-starter and end up pining. But because you're starved of female attention, any time you sense the possibility of something romantic happening you'll build it up too much in your head and you won't dare act quickly in case it evaporates and you're back to nothing. This is basically what I did for all my teenage years, and eventually you need to learn your lessons and snap the fuck out of it.

EDIT: Didn't even see Jenny's post before writing this.

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