Everyone... thank u soooooo much for your advice. I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens. and if things don't shape up within the next couple weeks, i might go my seperate ways.

It's sad but it comes down to money alot of times. I think part of the reason me & my ex seperated is because we never spent time together & slowly faded apart. I was 17 when I moved out with her & we both worked alot to pay the bills. I should've known better and not have gotten myself into the mess when I wasn't ready, just like him & that car. I also know how girls need attention constantly so you probably wouldn't be so happy with him. This is why girls go for the older more mature guys many times. They're secure & have all the time in the world. Makes me jealous, but oh well. Good luck & don't beat around the bush when you break his heart. Just be honest, I wish my ex was with me.

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Originally posted by sExY pErSiAn 2003, fully loaded Subarban. He didn't put a down payment, so thats why he pays so much each month... and including insurance... it comes out to $900/month.

dump him NOW

what kind of idiot guy buys a surburban...
*SIGH*

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you can sacrifice a lot to make it work but you have to decide if that is really worth it. if your relationship develops with you always conceeding around his schedule he will be able to walk all over you. everyone needs to be able to support themselves but you have to take his lifestyle and committments to work into consideration when deciding whether the relationship is worth it. sadly, it's not just about emotions, compatiblity, and interest.

the drama...THE DRAMA...NEVER ENDS!!!!!!!!!!

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Originally posted by cammie oh, and sexypersian, never, and i mean NEVER, try to come between a man and his ride!! i know, i learned that a long time ago!

Come between a man and his ride? That is the most stupid thing I've heard in my entire life. Perhaps a man that puts material items BEFORE HIS VERY OWN LOVE. Geez, what bullshit. I'd sell my car and ride a friggin "Dumb & Dumber" moped before I ever lost the love of my life.

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Originally posted by sExY pErSiAn Everyone... thank u soooooo much for your advice. I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens. and if things don't shape up within the next couple weeks, i might go my seperate ways.

Alright, here's my 2 cents, I've been in lots of relationships. The single most killer of all relationships is lack of communication.

Say he has a suprise, that they're hiring someone new, and suddenly he has more time for you, and he wanted to suprise you...so he takes you out to dinner, or something else, and you decide he's been not paying much attention, and that you're going to break up with him that night.

See what I mean? You can't assume shit. What you really need to do, is forget about everything else, tell him you need to talk to him, and tell him how you feel, straight up! If you still like him, that you want to make things work out.

Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication.

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Originally posted by eXo Come between a man and his ride? That is the most stupid thing I've heard in my entire life. Perhaps a man that puts material items BEFORE HIS VERY OWN LOVE. Geez, what bullshit. I'd sell my car and ride a friggin "Dumb & Dumber" moped before I ever lost the love of my life.

Well ... they've only been dating a month hehe. I don't think they're in love yet.

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i think that its admirable for him to be working so hard to pay off whatever expenses he has, but at the same time, maybe its not wise to start a relationship with him at this stage in his life. he seemed 100% focused on his work, with little time for even leisure for himself, no less you. if you are the type of person who can handle not seeing him everyday, then i say go for it. some people just need that attention/affection every day. i can relate tho- my bf doesnt work a lot, but he lives about 11 hours away from me (he's in the army)....its def hard but i have my space and he has his and i always have something to look forward to- the next time i see him...

so good luck! i hope you two figure something out. he does seem to really care, but you just cant take his overworking personally.

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Originally posted by occrider Well ... they've only been dating a month hehe. I don't think they're in love yet.

A month is longer than a week though, just cus you've only been with a person for a month does not mean you aren't in love with them.

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Originally posted by eXo A month is longer than a week though, just cus you've only been with a person for a month does not mean you aren't in love with them.

Well, considering she's been seeing him a month, for only 1 to 2 times a week for a few hours ... say 5 hours a week total. Then that would mean they fell in love in a record breaking 25 hours of seeing each other

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Originally posted by occrider Well, considering she's been seeing him a month, for only 1 to 2 times a week for a few hours ... say 5 hours a week total. Then that would mean they fell in love in a record breaking 25 hours of seeing each other

Arrrgghhhh, quit making good points! You would be fun to have a debate with.

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