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| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Interesting responses. So no guys are in favour of the booty call relationship? Having a girl who you can just call up, have a good time, and forget about later? I'm surprised! I never said it had to be a long-term or intimate relationship, although whether or not you want a long-term one will obviously factor into whether you pick A or B.
Sluts turning into good girls is a contentious point to me. It may happen naturally over time, over a LONG time, but if I find out that the girl I'm going out with is a slut, I'd call her maybe 3 YEARS later not 3 days.  Bitches turning into good girls... maybe. Like Beh said, they have to really want this and that means they have to be able to empathize. It's something that I would again say takes years, not days. I am pretty damn assertive when it comes to these things, but it seems like some people you just can't reason with. You ask them to show a little more consideration and they basically walk off.
Personally I think I'd rather have the "A". As time goes by I've grown some balls and learned how to put my foot down when a girl acts whorish - and if I decide to cut her loose, I feel good about it, not remorseful. But fighting in private all the time really sucks, I think it wears you out and you get sick of it eventually, and if things finally hit rock bottom then the breakup can be very painful and when you see them a few days/weeks later it's like... oh god, why did she have to be here.
Just my thoughts though - everybody continue, please.  |
Hey aaron you make some great points but I have to say this.. and this is probably the most important thing of all.. it may sound quite jerkish but hear me out..
any girl you want ANY .... slut or bitch.. if she digs you but is either one of those, she's replacable. Now the jerkish thing is... you make it known that she IS replaceable. You are better then her PERIOD make that known, make it known that you can and or will get rid of her without a thought. If she knows this she will first have more respect for you, second chances are dig you more if you stand your ground. I'm not saying this to be mean, but dude you are smart, you have good ethics and so on, you can do better then a slut and or a bitch, you don't need them, they need you.. girls who are sluts and or bitchs need cosntant male attention CONSTANT.. then when they have it, they either resent it, or need more.
Don't fight, you simply make it known that its your way or the highway.. You don't need a girl like that. If she doesnt want to change for the better, then who cares .. there are SO many better girls out there, who are so much more intelligent, witty, fun.. who go just undiscovered. Let the bad ones walk off, there really is no sense in crying over worthless girls, when there are so many amazing ones out there.
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...heh, heh.
It's not related in any way to my personal dealings and it definitely wasn't a call for advice. The question of the extremes is a more direct way of asking people what they value more in a relationship - a good time, or a sense of security.
