Originally posted by Creamfields
Well do u always take this subway at the same time??? You might see her again. When you do, smile at her and work from there.
Yes i do always take that subway...but it's definitely the first time i see her I guess I'm kind of excited cause this hasn't happened to me in a long long time...kind of like a crush from the first sight lol...but I sure hope i'll see her again...
Registered: Mar 2002
Location: Vancouver-Toronto-Dubai-Mumbai
Well a normal hi doesnt hurt!
and there is no harm in trying is there?
I have been brushed off even when i ma not trying to hit on the girl
ask tha broad and several others
Jul-06-2004 15:28
tha_broad
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Registered: Apr 2003
Location: Toronto
Just pray you dont get stalker syndrome. I saw a short film on that once, absolutely hilarious!!!!
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Jul-06-2004 15:29
starsearcher
DigitalPunk on Flight643
Registered: Jan 2003
Location: Toronto
lol....
No no no...no stalker syndrome I'm not that crazy lol...I just honestly think she's the most beatiful girl that's all ...for all I know she can be a crazy bitch but she didn't seem like it
Here's a little tip a friend once told me. You know how you freeze and your head goes blank when you see that perfect girl? Well, you need practice my friend. The best places to practice are bars or clubs. I don't recommend picking up at clubs but you can sure as hell practice. Firstly, at clubs girls are always dressed nice so you feel more comfortable about throwing out compliments and they are more willing to accept them. Second, everyone’s usually in a good mood so you're less likely to get brushed off unless you have desperate loser written all over your face. Third, don't stick with one girl for too long, unless she's really cool and you like her. Keep moving on and have friendly chats with more girls while throwing in compliments etc. and watch their reactions. This way you can learn to tailor your responses on the fly and have smoother conversations in the future. Now you can apply this to your day-to-day life and you'll be less likely to freeze when that perfect girl comes along.
Originally posted by Skipper
Honestly, if some guy came up to me on the subway and was clearly hitting on me,I'd probably ignore him.
however, if I thought he was sweet and honest and HOT, then I'd probably smile and entertain him for as long as I could before we had to go our separate ways.
So what I'm saying is, chances are you will get the brush off if you approach someone like that. But there's a small chance she might respond. You never know - but be willing to get brushed off 99% of the time. Women are very defensive in this city - and for good reason.
I'm with you Skipper. If the compliment is sweet and not creepy who doesn't want to be told they are beautiful.
As for your comment on being out of her league, starsearcher..how can you say that when you don't know her and don't know what her league or type is. What is the worst she can do? Ignore you or tell you to back off. Passing up an opportunity that might go the way you want it is far worse than a dirtly look from an absolute stranger. I say follow Firerstarter's advise and just say hi.
Also, people tend to assume that really good looking people get so many compliments in their life that they just brush off compliments or anyone who is not supermodel gorgeous. however, I bet many of these beautiful people don't get alot of people approaching them because everyone thinks they aren't good enough for them.
I say next time you see her you atleast say hi or give her a sweet compliment. You don't need to do it hovering over her or standing too close...just a casual comment in your passing. You should be able to read from her body language whether or not she is interested in starting up a conversation.
Good luck.
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Jul-06-2004 16:14
starsearcher
DigitalPunk on Flight643
Registered: Jan 2003
Location: Toronto
aaahhhh finally a good advice from a girl Looks like I can always rely on angelgirl well if I ever run into her again I'll be sure to make some kind of contact/communication
And it's also true what you said about the good looking girls brushing people off...I have to admit that I've met quite a few girls that on paper seem bitchy and too good for anyone but turned out to be really sweet, friendly and intelligent. It was definitely bad judgement on my part and on part of others who suggested to me they are stuck up. Even at the boat cruise with Armin - that girl in Burberry was gorgeous -- and she most definitely turned out to be a sweetie and really friendly thanks angelgirl
Originally posted by starsearcher
Hmmm yeah I think Digital MP is a little more correct than Skipper...she obviously didn't seem like that at all and I'm 100% sure I wouldn't have been ignored...Besides I look totally harmless
Maybe I was right when i said that 99% of the women in the city suck then cause according to Skipper they actually do...
OK, call me a bitch, tell me I suck, but when a strange guy comes up to me on the subway and throws compliments my way they come off like a cheesey line most of the time. it's not often that within 5 minutes of meeting someone I feel like I can trust them enough to a/ be genuine and b/ give them my number.
I appreciate men who can be sincere about it, but in situations like these it's easy to throw the girl off guard which can make her feel defensive, even if your intentions are honest.
Go for it, but don't be surprised to be shot down.
Also, don't stare for too long. it makes us uncomfortable.
Jul-06-2004 16:38
goodnet
•Damn• I look good.
Registered: Nov 2000
Location: Toronto, Canada
I gotta agree with Tordan on practicing.
You gotta condition yourself to behave the right way for those unexpected times when that attractive female pops outta nowhere, or else your general chances of a good first impression (or even making the approach at all) gets lower.
Jul-06-2004 16:39
starsearcher
DigitalPunk on Flight643
Registered: Jan 2003
Location: Toronto
quote:
Originally posted by Skipper
OK, call me a bitch, tell me I suck, but when a strange guy comes up to me on the subway and throws compliments my way they come off like a cheesey line most of the time. it's not often that within 5 minutes of meeting someone I feel like I can trust them enough to a/ be genuine and b/ give them my number.
I appreciate men who can be sincere about it, but in situations like these it's easy to throw the girl off guard which can make her feel defensive, even if your intentions are honest.
Go for it, but don't be surprised to be shot down.
Also, don't stare for too long. it makes us uncomfortable.
Well sure but that's not what i said...i've seen a smile and she was right in front of me...and I wasn't planning on using a pick up line those never work I think everyone knows that (and yet so many ppl still using them ) Anyways...yeah - be nice! hehehe...
I never look like a creepy guy - I think if you've met me you'd know it