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Originally posted by Mr. Pink but no, getting back to the point.... do you think its possible to fully repent cheating.... like do it, but not in your right mind (and im talkin just a kiss or something), fully repent it, and want to move on....knowing you're in love and what not and wont do it again. i mean.......some girls say "always be honest" and tell them when you do something shitty... in that specific scenario lol.....should you even bother to ruin something good?

well i always say that i'd wanna know, but in reality...that is just so i could break up with them hahahaa.

but like take my ex in africa...when she comes back and if things could work out...i don't wanna know anything about the last two years...i just wanna know if she wants to be with me. of course i'm not gonna tell her know that i feel that way because that would in a sense be giving her this license to do whatever hahaha...but that's how i'm thinking about it.


i know a lot of people though that don't tell. and i just kinda see it like this...

if you cheat...the decision to stay together is no longer yours. you owe it to that person if you really love them to tell them the truth. if they are willing to stay with you..then good, but if not...that is your fault for fucking it up...

Sorry, I'm should have read you...lmao...I'm still trying awaken

I think it comes down to morals and decency. If I have a girlfriend, I expect her to be mine and me to be hers. I thought that was how things worked for most people. I dunno about you folks but one woman is hard enough to keep happy, let alone more than one.

tho I must give Harold props for his usual view on relationships.

i try not to become entangled in a serious relationship and instead usually 'see' girls. this way i can keep my options open and there have been times when i was hooking up with multiple girls during the same time (not simultaneously, i wish). this way i didn't really feel guilty coz i wasn't committed to a relationship.

now im trying my best not to hook up with other girls even though im not in a serious relationship, i still like the girl im seeing and there is probly mutual feelings involved.

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Originally posted by Mr. Pink As good as a person could lie... and as minipulative as a person could be.... I don't think she has. Her actions and words match, and she expresses otherwise. been cheated on rod-rico?

Yeah, actually...all the time. I just dont worry about things like "caring" for women. I dont really keep track of them, I dont even break up with them anymore, I dont worry about these things, I figure when I start caring and worrying, shes the right one.

coming clean...depends, again. if you mess up and cheat (doesn't necessarily have to be straight sex, but could be a drunken make out session or something), and you feel like absolute shit about it and feel like jumping off a bridge, then most likely you are a good person and won't do it again. in that case, i wouldn't tell. if you have an attitude like, "whew, she'll/he'll never find out about that, thank god"! then you're just taking advantage and you fall under the category of insecure jerk/bitch i mentioned earlier. it's simple though, once you come clean, there's no turning back...trust is gone. and building trust again is very hard, i speak from personal experience. also, forgiving and forgetting go hand in hand...you can't say, "oh i forgive you", and then hold it over their head in every argument. you haven't forgiven if you do that.

another thing to keep in mind is that someone who is extremely untrusting and insecure about the relationship, could also most likely be that way because they know that they can't be trusted....not a good sign either.

also, if you are doing the long distance thing and you have contemplated straying, or have...don't be so sure that the other person isn't/hasn't either...you never really know. a friend of mine has a gf in NY and he cheats on her left and right down here, and he's like, "oh i'm POSITIVE she's not cheating". lol i'm like, yea sure buddy, take your head out of your ass for 2 seconds and realize that you taking care of business every 3 months or so, isn't cutting it for her...TRUST ME! hahahah

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Slylee realize that you taking care of business every 3 months or so, isn't cutting it for her...TRUST ME! hahahah

i hope my gf isnt thinkin that.


ok essentially its like this:

i love her

i want to be with her

At no moment have i thought of cheating on her

At no moment have I thought that her 3 months couldnt cut it

i do not think she is cheating on me

and i know she loves me....


we both wanted this to work

Im visiting her next week (going back to puerto rico to spend time with her)

and yeah........i fuked up

i didnt even remember. I thought it was a dream.
I was drunk off of 5 screwdrivers (1oo proof vodka)
and some hunch punch with everclear......i dont remember drinking the everclear

thats how messed up i was


but i dont blame the alcohol...cuz im not gonna be ghey like that.

i take full responsibility, but i really dont feel like i should tell her because i dont want her to lose trust in me, cuz i wont do it again. I know i wont.

........so now what?

how do i keep a chill vibe without thinkin that i cheated on the sweetest, most beautiful woman ive ever met?

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i dunno man...that's a tough spot to be in. can you just try and act normal when you see her? just be yourself...the javi she was expecting to find...

that sucks. hapened to my friend a lot with this one girl and they are still together.




I was the other guy once. This chick in college cheated on her bf with me. kinda wierd a few days later when he walked in her room and I was there laying next to her.....heh.

well if you can do it (act normal around her and keep it to yourself), then i would say do it. you'll probably eventually get over it and forget about it yourself. you know in your heart how much you love her, and you know that it was almost like a wake up call that you could lose her...i wouldn't tell her. it's different too when things are long distance. and listen, one of you is going to have to eventually move to be close to the other, or things could end...it's too stressful.

i think there's a lot of gray area involved in this topic...generally speaking, yea, cheating is wrong...but there are a lot of good people out there who have done it and felt like crap and never did it again.

when my bf and i split, i knew he had a few dates (not really dates, just went out clubbing together w/ a group of people and i think one movie together, from what he said) with some hooters bimbo...he said they never slept together or hooked up, and he said she actually helped him in realizing how awesome I was because she was really boring to be around and typical, and he kept thinking of me the whole time. it bothers me a little when i think about it, but only because when i asked him in the first place if he had been screwing around or saw anyone, he lied to my face (he thinks i'm stupid and that i can't tell when he's lying...lol) but it's weird because i can forgive him since i know why he did lie. it was so dumb, and he loves me so much that he wanted to spare my feelings. to be honest, i would have done the same. in fact, i did.

so we're both guilty, and we're both sort of on thin ice with each other right now in the trust department, but we both have a strong desire to be together and make it work...we're determined, so we're trying our hardest to do this. i'm going through a major test right now, and so is he...he's in hawaii right now w/ all his boys for a wedding. one of them is getting hitched. it sucks, he won't be home until sunday and i find myself thinking of all the "what ifs"...it's driving me nuts...i hope this goes away soon and we can be solid again.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Never, nor would I. If there's a problem in the relationship, I'd break up. If I found someone better then I would also break up first.

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Originally posted by Mr. Pink i hope my gf isnt thinkin that. ok essentially its like this: i love her i want to be with her At no moment have i thought of cheating on her At no moment have I thought that her 3 months couldnt cut it i do not think she is cheating on me and i know she loves me.... we both wanted this to work Im visiting her next week (going back to puerto rico to spend time with her) and yeah........i fuked up i didnt even remember. I thought it was a dream. I was drunk off of 5 screwdrivers (1oo proof vodka) and some hunch punch with everclear......i dont remember drinking the everclear thats how messed up i was but i dont blame the alcohol...cuz im not gonna be ghey like that. i take full responsibility, but i really dont feel like i should tell her because i dont want her to lose trust in me, cuz i wont do it again. I know i wont. ........so now what? how do i keep a chill vibe without thinkin that i cheated on the sweetest, most beautiful woman ive ever met?

How far'd you go?

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