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Marriage is the biggest relationship killer. There becomes absolutely no reason to try anymore - it's like the end of the game. Love turns grey when it's not tested - people grow cold and unwilling, like there's no incentive to continue. If you are happily dating, why is there a call to "take it to the next level"? Because that's what other people do? Other people are in relationships for x amount of months before they hit this stage and then x amount of years before they hit that stage? Is it really like that? And even if it were...it so seldom works out for two people anyways, so why try and stay on some sort of set pattern?
Just as love grows grey over time, so do feelings and passion - for love and passion are not necessarily the same thing. If anything love is a totally independent ideal, and though the perfect relationship is almost totally reliant on it, a push of desire and passion will tip the balances towards equilibrium. Our lives are spent in constant struggle with one another - this is evident on scales as large as 2 opposing nations as it is between 2 opposing genders. Life is war, and love is life. Without the passion and the lust in between, there is absolutely no element of life to balance things out - life becomes grey and soon falters under logic.
That being said, your boyfriend is being idiotic and unreasonable - but with good reason. Indecision is a trait we all possess, because the dangers posed in every true risk (especially the ones that love and committment pose) are just so intimidating to a single person that fear of the unknown becomes all to real - it soon becomes the only thing that seems real, and any sense of love is ignored. You must help him to realize that he is not making any committment to a risk or to an ideal or punishment, but to a person. If he truly loves you, he will understand that your beauty is enough to absolve any sense of fear or doubt in not only the mind, but the heart as well.
If not, then they were only ever words, and not only was he unsure of his willingness to committ to you, but he was also unsure of whether or not he loved you in the first place. It seems very common for the word 'love' to be thrown around far too loosely, and it is only a placation method used by disinterested males in order to secure reproductive potentiality.
This is all keeping in mind that committment, love, passion, and marriage are all different concepts that unfortunately get lost in one another (whether due to interperation or actual utilization is dependent on the situation).
So do guys make sense yet?
Yeah, I know.
But nobody every accused females of being too rational either. 
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There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,
Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
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...but i have issues too...i can't lie...does that at least hold good for me that i wanted to talk about shit? hehehe 
