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Originally posted by DigitalMP Don't combat lack of communication with lack of communication. It may get her to talk, but so will asking her what you want to know. Explaining that you used her lack of action as a tactic against her will only make it worse. Learn how to address these matters now, the right way, and make her feel comfortable in the realms of expressing what's on her mind, and you may not have to wait for these same answers in the future. She could very well have been chided during her upbringing for expressing herself when something was wrong, and this could cause her to bottle things up.

i agree that communication is the #1 solution to almost any problem that occurs in a relationship, but it appeared as though Gavin had already attempted talking to her...

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i've tried to get her more interested in oral sex, getting toys, kama sutra books, playing games, crazy condoms, she just doesnt seem real interested in anything maybe i just need to change my attitude? be more romantic? who knows?

now she's obviously not prude or inexperienced because he said that they've had some wild nights... it's only just recently that the sexual spark has fizzled out. it's very hard to ask someone straight-up why they are avoiding sex. yes he can try to talk to her but i don't think she will be 100% honest about what is going on, she might not even be honest with herself about what is going on... i only suggested he pull away from her because it might make her realize that she needs to put just as much effort as he does into a physical relationship. it's a 2-way street... and if you're having problems like this 5 months into a relationship, it's a pretty bad sign.

yes, he should talk to her first about it... but he might not get the answers he needs.

edit // i also want to add that pulling away from her might re-create the "chase" feeling of a new relationship. it's very common for people to want what they can't have, and this might be one of those situations where being a slight asshole might make her want you more.

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Last edited by lücid on Mar-08-2006 at 04:28

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Originally posted by lücid for most girls, sexual attraction is almost entirely mental... it's either there or it isn't,

this is so true, you can't have hot sex unless she really desires you. and you can't have her desire you in an animalistic way if you act all girly and become a wishy washy push over

be a man! make her want you!

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Originally posted by MeLLyMeL Bring another girl to the sack!

i like the way u think mel! pixxxx pls!

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Ok, lets face the facts here...

She lost interest in you and is cheating on you with someone else.

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

Tell her to use this on you:

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Originally posted by Vlad Ok, lets face the facts here... She lost interest in you and is cheating on you with someone else named vlad.

fixed

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Originally posted by jdat Tell her to use this on you:

owned.

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Theres a few things you can do/.

1: find out if she cares about you. by doing so just be like "you know, i think this realationship needs to stop" or you can be rough and be like "FUCC YOU HOE, WERE DONE!"

2: try to be smooth about it, try to cuddle with her, kiss her gently and be kind to her, hopefully something sparks up.

or the last.. try to make her feel the real deal!

3: when one of you get semi-turned on, bend her ass over and put it in the stinker! lol, make her know whoes the boss in the relationship!

or you can disreguard all that ive said, and play some good old James Holden - Nothing when you see her next, and say this is from DJ Legs!

oh and if shes hispanic... i feel bad!

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Originally posted by DJ Legs or you can disreguard all that ive said, and play some good old James Holden - Nothing when you see her next, and say this is from DJ Legs!

Or G&D : Tracking Treasure Down ( original mix )

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Originally posted by Nayil Or G&D : Tracking Treasure Down ( original mix )

If he plays her a song that horrific she'll have no choice but to leave.

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Originally posted by igottaknow fixed

Lies, damned lies!!!

Dont believe them - they are trying to conspire against me!

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.