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Originally posted by Lilith It's all about 'concessions' in my house rather than arguing We argue all the time about stuff we don't agree on but never anything about each other and don't lie about our opinions on one another. Think essentially we can both take a joke and too honest about what we do and think so it's never bottled up for very long. Personal space is important too, I have my spot in the house where I drink, smoke, play 'awful music', generally work from and vis-versa when 'better half' needs to study... and get away from me, because I'll quite freely admit, I'm not someone you want to be around for protracted periods of time because I'm bloody irritating.

That why you are on Calla's ignore list?

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Originally posted by kr00t0n That why you are on Calla's ignore list?

Nah, Spud's just too busy stewing in his own juices...

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Originally posted by Lilith Nah, Spud's just too busy stewing in his own juices...

Lilth got this one from Lenny Henrys 1986 Annual.

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Originally posted by Lilith Bet your mum's glad she doesn't have to do your washing anymore!

haha, I would of actually enjoyed seeing her reaction! Unfortunatly from the age of 16 onwards I've done my own washing and Ironing.

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Sound's like a wise choice on her behalf that's for sure.

Theresa: Sounds like you have a good relationship.

Nothing wrong with being relatively calm and talking things out instead of acting like monkeys, bellowing and getting physically agitated over differences of opinion.

well...i think it can happen. my bf and i have been together for about 4 years and we have never screamed at each other. we've had disagreements and it took us about to years before we got into a "fight" (more like an argument).


but one of my friends told me that fights keep the relationship fresh. what do you guys think about that opinion?

edit: two years, not to years lol

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Originally posted by inconspicuous AndreaCKY772. just. so. dumb.

Last edited by AndreaCKY772 on Mar-13-2007 at 18:59

I think that arguments and disagreements keep a relationship fresh. Who wants to date somebody whose opinions and preferences are all exactly the same as your own, or who, when he / she disagrees with you, just "submits" to your opinion without saying anything? How boring.

But when I think of a "fight," I think of people screaming and throwing things, or one person in the relationship stonewalling another like a little child. I see no need at all for that kind of nonsense.

no way, that's really cool. my last relationship was like that. we broke up for other reasons, but for the most part, we got along great. there was nothing to ever really bitch about in terms of little things.

i can't understand how some couples go through life like that. just always fighting about dumb shit and making up. once in a while, a good argument is healthy, but i can't stand constant arguing or tension...stresses me out. i'm guilty of being in relationships like that, but looking back, i couldn't stand it.

i like my partner to be my buddy and my best friend. i'd say that's the most important thing to me...always getting along and on the same page and just having a good time together, and being able to communicate like adults and work through differences.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

My first long term relationship (three years), we never fought... ever. We had our disagreements, but there was never a moment where one of us was angry enough to raise our voices at each other. That is... not until after we broke up... then I yelled at him a little bit (he deserved it).

Anyway, to be honest, I think I would bail out on a relationship if the guy became aggressive when he disagreed with me. I am not one who responds well to that type of thing.

Sushi, we have been together 7 months, and although we are still in the remainder of the honeymoon stage, I don't forsee either one of us ever yelling at the other.

I was curious because a girlfriend and I were talking about it, and she mentioned how she and her BF always fought, and then told me it wasn't normal that my BF and I didn't. I wanted to know what the general concensus was on that one.

Something else I would like to know... along with whether you think it normal/healthy or not, did you ever see your parents fighting when you were growing up? I wonder if this has a large influence on the opinions in regard to this.