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Re: Honest Truth about myself.
| quote: | Originally posted by limpboy
I am 19 years old, and I was overweight for the past 18 years of my life, I lost about 140 pounds last year.
Now that you know my story, my truth is that When it comes to finding a girlfriend...I suck big time, everytime I see a girl I am attracted too I dont get nervous, I just know that there is no way she will be ever be my girlfriend, so I dont even try, and when I do try I start getting nervous, its like a loser-cycle am having.
this is my Honest Truth, and I would like any advice anyone can give me, but if you dont have something nice to say, please dont say it. |
In my unprofessional psychiatric opinion, you're putting too much emphasis on the "finding girlfriend" part, which kicks your brain and nerves into high gear before you even start talking to a girl, hence the nervousness problems. In my opinion, you shouldn't try to find a girlfriend like you're finding a ripe watermelon at the grocery store. Put the whole "I am 19, I must find a girlfriend or else i will be labelled 'loser'" thought out of your head, and talking to females will be a lot less stressful. Take each conversation for what it is, and not as another attempt to get a gf, and that'll take a lot of pressure out of the talking. Besides, a lot of the guys who are absolutely miserable in their relationships wound up there because they had that specific mission of having a relationship, and thus went for the first fish that bit. Being single is a hell of a lot better than being in a shitty relationship (you'll be surprised how quickly your attraction to a girl changes once you realize that she's she's a conceited bitch or dumb as a doorknob).
Also, I must make the distinction that if you're just looking for someone to fuck, then it's a whole different deal, and you can disregard everything I've said in the previous paragraph. Do treat women like they're watermelon at the grocery store. Make it obvious to her (and everyone else) when you find a particular girl attractive. Wear clothes that are too tight for you. Drill into your mind that you are THE SHIT, and that you're doing the girl a favour by even talking to her. Remember that at all times when talking, and keep your sentences to strings of one-syllable words. Grunt if you have to. If you say little, she will think you are mysterious. If you say a lot of stupid shit, she will think you are a joker. If you say a lot of stupid shit with utmost confidence that you are right, she will think you are smart. Practise accidentally touching a girl's ass. Forget about tact; there's not such thing as "inappropriate". Keep in mind that if you only have 1 minute of potential conversation instead of 20 minutes, you must come on 20 times harder in that minute. DO NOT DESPAIR FOR ONE SECOND about a girl that rejected you - she was stupid, a lesbian, and not worth giving a Dirty Sanchez to. There are many fish in the sea - the faster you find out whether or not she's interested in fucking you, the faster you can move on to the next girl. WITH THE LIGHTS TURNED DOWN, EVERY PUSSY FEELS LIKE PUSSY.
Good luck in your search.
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I'm the trouble starter, fuckin' instigator.
I'm the fear-addicted, danger illustrated.
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