I'm married and happy.

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Originally posted by idoru My parents married in their early twenties and are now 45. I've never seen them argue and I was born just a few years after they got married. Ever. They've never raised their voices, they've never thrown things, slammed doors, stormed out of the house, etc. I was so accustomed to them being so fantastic with their marriage that when they spent thirty minutes disagreeing on plans for a trip when I was ten, I freaked the fuck out and thought they were getting a divorce. I know countless others who have never divorced, but have had their squabbles.

My parents are much the same, I can remember them having minor disagreements, but their marriage is incredibly stable. I think it's because they're both good at compromising, have decided who will do what in the relationship and stick to it, and are dedicated to bringing their kids up as best as possible.

Probably also helps that they waited until 30 or so to get married.

My feelings on marriage is basically that it's become almost meaningless in this day and age. Only way I'd get married is if I'd been living with a chick for several years already, was happy in that situation and there was some conceivable benefit. Would get a watertight prenup as well.

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Originally posted by idoru My parents married in their early twenties and are now 45. I've never seen them argue and I was born just a few years after they got married. Ever. They've never raised their voices, they've never thrown things, slammed doors, stormed out of the house, etc. I was so accustomed to them being so fantastic with their marriage that when they spent thirty minutes disagreeing on plans for a trip when I was ten, I freaked the fuck out and thought they were getting a divorce. I know countless others who have never divorced, but have had their squabbles.

my parents are the same way, but then again they've been in the game for like.. 30 years or something. they're too old to have issues nowadays


anyways to the OP- most people (around my age, 23ish) i know that have gotten married have broken it off relatively quickly. i blame it on age/immaturity or just plain bad decision making when they don't have the correct mindset to really think about the repercussions (not to make it sound negative) of marriage. for example, a girl that i partied with back in the day, went to school with from grade school to high school etc etc was the first person in our class to get married, even though she had obvious issues with her SO. ugly divorce within the year. i don't know why people wanna jump into shit like that so quickly without thinking about it objectively.. meh.

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Originally posted by Ygrene I'm married and happy.

That Sloth-style haircut of yours tells us something different.

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getting married in 34 days

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Originally posted by Ygrene I'm married and happy.

until you run out of energy

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Originally posted by UmmiE getting married in 34 days

Consider this song for your wedding:

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No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

--Steve Jobs (1955 - 2011)

I'm married and very happy. Is it work? Yes, but that is the beauty of it. We have had our ups and downs, but have worked through it. Maybe marriage isn't for everyone; I thought I wasn't the marrying type , but it has worked out for the best. I am a better person b/c of him.

I enjoy sharing my goals with my husband and working towards those goals. We are thinking about having children soon (He is ready, I am not quite ready).

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John Donne "Valediction: Forbidding Mourning". Thy firmness makes my circle just, and makes me end where I begun.

omg please make sure you are ready though when u decide to have kids lol

one of the biggest problems in the world today as far as i'm concerned is bad parenting. people don't have a fucking clue how to raise kids and they think they should just follow the natural order of life and pop out a few and still continue on with their life as usual. my sister is a perfect example. my nephew is so obnoxious and it's all her fault lol

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Slylee omg please make sure you are ready though when u decide to have kids lol one of the biggest problems in the world today as far as i'm concerned is bad parenting. people don't have a fucking clue how to raise kids and they think they should just follow the natural order of life and pop out a few and still continue on with their life as usual. my sister is a perfect example. my nephew is so obnoxious and it's all her fault lol

Oh, I will make sure I am ready. Not going to squeeze one out if I am not ready. I am deathly afraid of any medical procedure and if you knew me you would know how scared I am (not going to get into detail here). I think that is the part that makes me so scared. Mentally I am ready, it is the other thing I am so frightened of (I used to pass out during those puberty movies they showed in 5th grade, I still get nervous when I see blood, etc.).

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John Donne "Valediction: Forbidding Mourning". Thy firmness makes my circle just, and makes me end where I begun.

I think too many people find it easy nowadays to just end relationships rather than work at them. If you're gonna get married, find someone u can coexist with and have similar ideas into what would make a strong marriage, then you might be ok. Marriage is for people who're mentally strong enough to cope with problems unlike the majority of the current set of generations from 15-50 years old. Too many people are just pussies and not willing to give or take and such.

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Originally posted by Meat187 That Sloth-style haircut of yours tells us something different.

http://www.tranceaddict.com/forums/...422#post8969422

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