 |
|
|
|
 |
Lira
Ancient BassAddict
Registered: Nov 2001
Location: Brasilia, Brazil
|
|
|
Re: Life and Relationships - Dreams and Love
OOO@I do. But, I'm a lesbian guy 
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Do you give up what you want, your life desires, to be with the one you love, or do you make the choice to follow your dreams and lose someone you care about? |
I've just chosen the latter. My girlfriend is going to Japan, and I could go along with her, but I felt miserable just to think of going there and leaving my current projects behind.
Although, I must admit, I'm naturally moody, and we have been on the brink of breaking up way too many times this year.
___________________
Indiana Clones Upcoming Sets
[ I May Upload Something Someday ]
|
|
 Jul-15-2008 17:19 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
colonelcrisp
Isn't Batshit Crazy
Registered: Apr 2003
Location: Ottawa
|
|
|
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I think on average people want to find love, and that is of course part of life's dreams.
However, there are other dreams too... or I would assume that most peoples dreams involve more than just love.
The directions in which you choose to take your life need to coincide with your partner if your relationship is to work.
Therefore, person A and person B need to find a compromise that will make both of them happy, right?
But what if person B is not willing to travel at all. Doesn't want anything to do with living in another country, and has no interest in partaking in person A's adventuring. However, person A really feels they need that in their life in order to feel content.
On the other hand, person A is willing to compromise and once traveled for a few years will be more than happy to settle down, buy a house, have kids etc. etc. They just need to travel for a few years first and get it out of their system.
Does person A give up their dreams to travel and just stay with person B because they love them and want to be with them? Or should they follow their dreams and take the chance of losing person B??
Jenny - I was thinking that too... I mean, if one person chooses not to follow their dreams for the sake of staying with the other, I would guess that resentment would be developed and thus later cause relationship issues.
Cetrał - person B wants a house, kids, a stable job, etc. All of which is nice, and person A wants too, but only after person A has had the chance to be free and wander the world for a while. Person A has considered what person B wants, and appreciates it for what it is. However, that does not erase the fact the ultimately, person A wants more than that.
kadomony - I don't see how being monogamous is an issue for person A. Being adventurous and wanting excitement does not necessarily mean that person A is unable to commit.
Fibonacci - person A wants to teach overseas for a year or so. Person B may compromise far enough to go to an all-inclusive resort for a couple of weeks a year. However, they have no qualms finding common ground in other areas of the relationship.
Now, I understand and will completely agree that people are not rocks, and things can most certainly change, however, is it wise to stay together based simply on the hope that one or the other will change? I don't really think so. |
Theresa,
The key is compromise. asking someone to take a trip once a year (even an extended one ie 3-4 weeks) isnt hard to accomodate, but asking someone to move to another country and possibly put a career on hold is another.
My gf and i are at two different points in our lives and it requires alot of patience and compromise to keep it working. She is still in school and im working full time. We both like to travel but because of my career i cant just pick up and leave for 2 years on a round the world excursion, not to mention its because of my career that we can go on a big trip once or twice a year. If i put my career on pause for a year to go live abroad i would be paying for it financially for a long time.
See if you can get person B (and i think i know who B is) to start out with a nice simple vacay (tropical....) and see if you can work it up to a nice exotic adventure ever year or every other year. lets face it travelling is expensive. I managed to blow a week's pay (1500 abo) in london england in one night out........ (but boy was it fun...)
on the other front, me being 26 almost, i am finding im now looking at possibly doing the whole house thing, and within the next 5-6 years maybe kids too, but my gf has no interest in that concept for a while, so i have to put that aspect of my life on hold until she is ready. as long as i am still getting copious amounts of sex and the odd road cone on trips, i can deal.
the only way you can have 100% of your dreams and love (puke) you would have to date yourself, which would suck, especially in the sac since you would only be fucking yourself.
relationships are a two way street and you have to meet at the centerline at some point. kick some ass and take some names and you will ge there eventually
ninja edit aparently "C0untry" is a bad word
___________________
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
I have 3 hobbies: gaming, DJing & correcting maladjusted fools on the internet. |
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
Yeah, Id like to know what horrible, scarring incident in your childhood turned you into such an ignorant, intellectual-hating philistine? |
|
|
Jul-15-2008 18:01 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
All times are GMT. The time now is 05:09.
Forum Rules:
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not edit your posts
|
HTML code is ON
vB code is ON
[IMG] code is ON
|
|
|
|
|
|
Contact Us - return to tranceaddict
Powered by: Trance Music & vBulletin Forums
Copyright ©2000-2026, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Privacy Statement / DMCA
|
