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Originally posted by Frenchie Yeah, I don't see the reason to burn the bridge if there was a relationship there before the bf/gf label was put on. Regardless if it's because your families are tight, you were sand box babies or you just had a strong friendship before hand. You lost the BF/GF label but why lose the friend label if you don't have to?

Yup. And don't get me wrong, I've gotten jealous before in all sorts of situations, but there are just so many times when I think people feel like they have to sacrifice a really close friendship just because a BF/GF relationship has ended.

I do think, though, that there are plenty of times when it's best just to part ways completely with exes.

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by The17sss I don't see the point in staying friends with your ex if you're serious with someone else, unless you've known each other since birth and/or the families have been friends for years or some shit like that. It just leaves the door open for so many possible problems in your current relationship. Out of respect for you and your feelings, your BF should cut ties with his ex. That's just my opininon... but honestly what is the benefit of keeping that situation even in the equation? They used to have a volatile relationship right? Are things really vanilla with you two and maybe he misses the action/spice he used to have with her? Sometimes people like that shit, even if it's detrimental to their relationship, and when they find themselves in a more healthy relationship without the crazyness, they still need their fix. I don't know... I just think those situations create more drama than happiness and aren't necessary, especially since you are basically being forced to accept it when you'd rather it be the other way

finally some common fucking sense in this thread. It's so fucking annoying when someone is all obsessive about being friends with an ex. The fucking relationship didn't work out, let it go and move on. I personally wouldn't tolerate someone being "friends" with the person they most recently broke up with if we were in a new relationship and I damn sure wouldn't be going out to dinner with them and shit like that. You have a fucking mental problem if you expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to be cool with you being good friends with someone you just got out of a relationship with, especially if you were with that person a long time. A few years later maybe, but not right away.

Jamie, have your BF call me and I'll slap him upside the head through the phone.

Who is obsessive? FFS

You're thinking too much into it. "Oh no, we broke up because being together romantically wasn't working out for us so we can't have a relationship of any other kind" My foot. No one is telling you to go get pictures done on Santa's lap the day after you break up or go to a tea house and sip some nice herbal tea. It'll take time but..after a while you get over it and if you're friends.. you're friends. If nothing was damaged friendship wise..awesome.

This thread is shit.

He isn't fucking her is he? No, didn't think so, so stop being so damn insecure, go see a fucking psychologist instead of listening to a bunch of virgins on what to do.

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Originally posted by Alex This thread is shit. He isn't fucking her is he? No, didn't think so, so stop being so damn insecure, go see a fucking psychologist instead of listening to a bunch of virgins on what to do.

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No, f that. Have a 3 some. Nothing will curb your jealosy more than knowing you're better than her in the sack.

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Originally posted by Clovis I just don't think you've thought about all your positions to an end. I have. I know that helping people is better than not helping people.

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Originally posted by Vlad Jealously over new male friends? Well if shes a dirty slut youll find out, if youre in a relationship and you care about each other, you shouldnt have anything to worry about because of that little thing called trust. If you dont trust each other, then maybe you should reconsider your intentions with each other.

people fall in and out of love all the time, trust has nothing to do with it. any woman, given a good enough deal, will trade up. the same applies to men. of course, the onus is on oneself to be the best partner they can, but sometimes that isn't enough. true, if this can occur, then you are not right for eachother. that said, however, no one WANTS this to happen; knowing that every male she meets can potentially cause this downward spiral is aggitating.

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i would say no.

in my case. when i remain friends with my ex-girlfriends
it usually involves fecking.
even if they have boyfriends.

even he is there watching us...ok not that far.

but yeah, we usually meet up to stay in touch, lunch or what not.
(their idea)
and then, BAM!!!! just like that.

we end up fecking
don't know, just happens that way.

there is history there, we are comfortable with each other.
and i'm good.

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Originally posted by daydreamer i would say no. in my case. when i remain friends with my ex-girlfriends it usually involves fecking. even if they have boyfriends. even he is there watching us...ok not that far. but yeah, we usually meet up to stay in touch, lunch or what not. (their idea) and then, BAM!!!! just like that. we end up fecking don't know, just happens that way. there is history there, we are comfortable with each other. and i'm good.

lol


the 2 surprises were a doggy bed for my dog and some pot. lol he is totally kicking my dog out of my thread.


i'm gonna work through this. i mean rjt's story was inspiring. i need to get over it. he is crazy about me and he's not a cheater. i'm being retarded.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by The17sss Ahh yes, but just because they broke up for a reason, that doesn't mean the feeligs are gone. My ex was toxic to my relationship, and I had to break up with her even though I really loved her. Took a while for the feelings to go away even without seeing her on a regluar basis. yes... i fucking can't stand that. What pisses me off even more is if a girl is too stupid to understand the intentions of the guy. I hate when they are like "But he just wants to be friends! He's a really nice guy." Yeah, of course he's a nice guy... he is waiting for his opening and he'll hang around "being cool" with just being friends until he gets his chance. I would always tell my girlfriends, "expect that they have those horny intentions 100% of the time when they want to be 'just friends'... then when it DOESN'T happen, then you can be surprised."

yea i have a lot of guy friends but when i get serious with a guy i usually chill w/ the contact with them just because i know how it is with guys.

he is french canadian too and doesn't have that many friends down here other than the few other french canadians he knows, so i guess he feels like holding onto whatever friends he has down here....even if it's an ex.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

I don't like how people in this thread are so one-sided. Like Rob (and myself earlier) said, it all needs to be taken on a case-by-case basis. You can't completely write something off before you even know what it could mean to your relationship.