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Cloudburst
I am the maximum

Registered: Oct 2003
Location: Jötebårj
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Mar-11-2009 12:40
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[N]ûk|êû[Z]
The Producer Addict

Registered: Sep 2001
Location: Where Angelz Fear To Tread.
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Re: Other peoples' babies
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
Forgive me if this is a subject that's already been discussed in the c0r... I'm still a spring chicken by TA standards.
Anyway, I want to share a little experience and see if you all feel the same way I do. I visited one of my old friends this past weekend who had her first baby 9 months ago. She is one of the few people left from my original clique dating back to the 3rd grade, and the 2nd one of my true inner circle of friends to have had a baby recently.
So, there I am at lunch with her and her baby... watching the circus that appears to be parenthood. I saw my friend all "amazed" and "wowed" at every little motion and/or sound the baby would make, and in my head I was saying, "I don't get it. That baby is just wriggling around with no control of its body... where's the amazement?" Then she would talk to it as if she was having a conversation with someone who truly undertsands what is being said. Again, I'm there thinking, "Ugh... how boring that must be. You know the kid doesn't know what you're talking about. Why are you wasting your time?" I know you have to communicate with them of course, but I feel stupid talking to babies and kids who obviously don't know what I'm saying... which is part of the reason I can't stand to be around them.
You see, I have practially no experience with babies/infants/little kids. I want to like them, but I just can't find a shread of emotion for them. Everyone says, "well wait till you have your own... you'll fall in love instantly and undersand how amazing it is and blah blah blah." But what if that doesn't happen? I try to think, "well I feel this way because it's someone else's kid," but I really don't know.
It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile?
Anyone else get where I'm coming from? |
this pretty much sums up completely my feelings on the matter. which is unfortunate, because my fiancé was born to have kids, that is her sole purpose for being on this planet, and it scares me
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Mar-11-2009 12:54
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The17sss
C.R.E.A.M.

Registered: May 2008
Location: Charlotte, NC
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Re: Re: Other peoples' babies
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
I have never tried to enjoy the company of babies, so I don't know whether I'd be successful if I did. However, I have serious doubts in that regard...
As far as I am concerned, they are a plague. They have the vexatious ability to turn most otherwise intelligent adults into slavering buffoons. They babble unintelligibly or, even worse, cry and whine like, well, babies. Their incessant attention-seeking behavior ranges from the obnoxious to the loathsome. They are foul and unsanitary agglomerations of writhing flesh, as well as tiny black holes into which a vast array of resources unrelentingly disappear, never to be seen again.
There is certainly a great deal of merit to your discouragement. I remain open to the possibility that there are benefits outweighing these rather ponderous costs, but it appears exceedingly improbable. |
I'd like to join the others in saying that I have some serious man-love for you after reading this post. 
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Mar-11-2009 15:12
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The17sss
C.R.E.A.M.

Registered: May 2008
Location: Charlotte, NC
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| quote: | Originally posted by coroknight
It kinda sucks because one of my cousins that lives close to me has a baby which means that whenever the family gets together it turns into a baby passing party. Woo hoo everyone gets a chance to play with the baby. When it's my turn i usually just hold it awkwardly for a second then pass it on. |
This happened to me when I was visiting my friend the other day. We were in the restaurant, just finished eating and were sitting there catching up for bit.
She takes her baby out of the high chair and hands it to me, saying, "Here... hold her," and passes her to me! I didn't want to be a dick and say, "No! Get that thing away from me!" I didn't even know what to do. I just sat her on the table in front of me, facing me... the baby just stared at me like, "who the hell are you? you aren't my dad," and started drooling. My friend was watching me, expecting me to be overwhelmed with the amazement that she feels for her own baby. I faked it a little so she wouldn't think I was a robot.
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Mar-11-2009 17:26
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