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Fledz
Banned

Registered: Sep 2006
Location: London UK
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Omega_Blue
Someone Changed My Custom

Registered: Dec 2003
Location: Gone
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yeah, it's pretty accurate. every one i've ever met has always said or implied something like, "i'm not like those other girls," but in the end, they are just like every other american female out there.
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
I have no quarrel with love, it's marriage that I'm hostile to.
The way I see it, I'm a valuable commodity. It would be unethical for me to deny women the opportunity to freely compete for me on the open market.
Moreover, I have no economic incentive to do so. If I commit to an exclusive dealing arrangement, then I'm no longer on the market, and thus I do not benefit from the threat of competition. My partner's incentive to provide me with value is decreased proportionately to the marginal increase in the cost of my terminating the relationship (which is likely to be particularly high in my case, due to my financial situation). My partner assumes a reciprocal risk (though not necessarily an equivalent risk, since the cost of terminating the relationship is likely to vary between married partners). Consequently, it becomes a modified prisoner's dilemma. This kind of situation produces high transaction costs and is likely to lead to economically inefficient outcomes, which is one reason why such exclusive dealing arrangements are often (rightfully) prohibited or at least tightly regulated in other business contexts.
Additionally, even if were to I decide to change my mind later, game theory suggests I may be advantaged by postponing marriage (see, e.g., http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/). That said, my strong personal preference for preserving the opportunity to change my mind is one of the reasons I'd likely opt not to make such a commitment as marriage even if it weren't for all of the reasons discussed previously.
Finally, even if the result of my choices do eventually lead to my living a solitary life when elderly, that's something I'm quite comfortable with. I don't really get lonely in the sense that I have some abstract desire for more human contact. For me, loneliness is always tied to missing some specific individual. As a result, the risk of loneliness may actually be higher if I were to marry, since I might well experience considerable loneliness associated with that person's absence if I were to outlive them. Granted, that's a risk with any long-term relationship, marriage or no marriage. I've already been down that road, and I'm not in any particular hurry to go there again. |
that's a fascinating observation/way of looking at it. i like the way you think.
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
I pretty much have the same issue. I dated a few American girls, and just got annoyed with them. I stick to my roots now. |
this. i'm seeing an exchange student from korea right now, and there's no nonsense, games or drama involved. yet.
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Lews
Platipus And Prog Addict

Registered: Feb 2007
Location: Hugging Whales And Saving Trees
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Fpcookie
yehboi

Registered: Oct 2004
Location: melbourne
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| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
I have no quarrel with love, it's marriage that I'm hostile to.
The way I see it, I'm a valuable commodity. It would be unethical for me to deny women the opportunity to freely compete for me on the open market.
Moreover, I have no economic incentive to do so. If I commit to an exclusive dealing arrangement, then I'm no longer on the market, and thus I do not benefit from the threat of competition. My partner's incentive to provide me with value is decreased proportionately to the marginal increase in the cost of my terminating the relationship (which is likely to be particularly high in my case, due to my financial situation). My partner assumes a reciprocal risk (though not necessarily an equivalent risk, since the cost of terminating the relationship is likely to vary between married partners). Consequently, it becomes a modified prisoner's dilemma. This kind of situation produces high transaction costs and is likely to lead to economically inefficient outcomes, which is one reason why such exclusive dealing arrangements are often (rightfully) prohibited or at least tightly regulated in other business contexts.
Additionally, even if were to I decide to change my mind later, game theory suggests I may be advantaged by postponing marriage (see, e.g., http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/). That said, my strong personal preference for preserving the opportunity to change my mind is one of the reasons I'd likely opt not to make such a commitment as marriage even if it weren't for all of the reasons discussed previously.
Finally, even if the result of my choices do eventually lead to my living a solitary life when elderly, that's something I'm quite comfortable with. I don't really get lonely in the sense that I have some abstract desire for more human contact. For me, loneliness is always tied to missing some specific individual. As a result, the risk of loneliness may actually be higher if I were to marry, since I might well experience considerable loneliness associated with that person's absence if I were to outlive them. Granted, that's a risk with any long-term relationship, marriage or no marriage. I've already been down that road, and I'm not in any particular hurry to go there again. |
I also disagree with marriage, but more so for reasons such as:
| quote: | Originally posted by Domesticated
I tend to agree really. What's the point of having some mystical bible basher who knows nothing about you say a few magic words to join you and your partner? If you really love someone there should be no problem existing together without the legal status. |
| quote: | Originally posted by Domesticated
I see. Oh well, the result is the same. The point remains: why bother wasting money on a marriage? |
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Slylee
love lockdown

Registered: May 2001
Location: Hollywood, FL
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| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
I have no quarrel with love, it's marriage that I'm hostile to.
The way I see it, I'm a valuable commodity. It would be unethical for me to deny women the opportunity to freely compete for me on the open market.
Moreover, I have no economic incentive to do so. If I commit to an exclusive dealing arrangement, then I'm no longer on the market, and thus I do not benefit from the threat of competition. My partner's incentive to provide me with value is decreased proportionately to the marginal increase in the cost of my terminating the relationship (which is likely to be particularly high in my case, due to my financial situation). My partner assumes a reciprocal risk (though not necessarily an equivalent risk, since the cost of terminating the relationship is likely to vary between married partners). Consequently, it becomes a modified prisoner's dilemma. This kind of situation produces high transaction costs and is likely to lead to economically inefficient outcomes, which is one reason why such exclusive dealing arrangements are often (rightfully) prohibited or at least tightly regulated in other business contexts.
Additionally, even if were to I decide to change my mind later, game theory suggests I may be advantaged by postponing marriage (see, e.g., http://www.slate.com/id/2188684/). That said, my strong personal preference for preserving the opportunity to change my mind is one of the reasons I'd likely opt not to make such a commitment as marriage even if it weren't for all of the reasons discussed previously.
Finally, even if the result of my choices do eventually lead to my living a solitary life when elderly, that's something I'm quite comfortable with. I don't really get lonely in the sense that I have some abstract desire for more human contact. For me, loneliness is always tied to missing some specific individual. As a result, the risk of loneliness may actually be higher if I were to marry, since I might well experience considerable loneliness associated with that person's absence if I were to outlive them. Granted, that's a risk with any long-term relationship, marriage or no marriage. I've already been down that road, and I'm not in any particular hurry to go there again. |
oh ok so it's just a big defense mechanism. push it away and don't experience it at all because it might haunt you later in life and make you actually have feelings!
fuckin robot
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My soliloquy may be hard for some to swallow, but so is cod liver oil.
| quote: | Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone |
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