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| quote: | Originally posted by halo20
I COULD WRITE A BOOK
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lol, Couldn't we all?
Well, there have been numerous facets to this issue presented so far, and they pretty much all hold good points to be taken into consideration. 
There are some things with which I do not agree...
a) Don't talk to a girl inside a club. - Unless you are the grimey kind of guy that makes it foolishly obvious that you're only out for one thing, then talk to the girl! Believe it or not, (and even our own RJ can attest to this, lol), there are in fact girls out there who can appreciate good conversation even if it's in a lounge or a club (perhaps not as much in the latter one). It sounds stupid to some, but to each his/her own. I've had in-depth business and politics related conversations, and even other random ones like discussing the pro's and con's to various motorcycle models with guys at parties (regardless of what the venue was). I know that this doesn't apply to every party-going female, but you'll never know what can happen unless you try. (And in no way am I attacking you, Aaron. )
Just something I thought I could relate to the aformentioned point, since many girls don't care if you're the hottest thing in the room (it was already mentioned in this thread), wouldn't you think it would be to your advantage to present something to her other than your looks? I've never bought the whole "I don't care about looks thing" because it does matter within the whole 'mate selection' process, but some people just don't realize that it can be more of a subconscious motive. To be honest though, I think you can be a good-looking, well-presented male within a club and still be taken seriously by a female. (See: attitude  )
b) You have to be an asshole. - Okay, I'm not going to go with the usual "but we like kind, sweet, sensitive guys" stuff that we always ear. See, girls do want that, but it's not supposed to be a 24/7 obvious act. Girls are frightened away by that. We do want someone who likes to have fun, but not necessarily someone whose idea of fun is throwing beer bottles at cars from a bridge or something to that effect. Prove that you can be crazy and enjoy life, without being a tool. I can imagine how challenging it must be (no, I'm not being sarcastic), but it's all a matter of striking that balance between the nice guy and badass attributes, really.
Yes, we're in broken record mode by now, but it's true: Don't look. Just chill. Have fun. Meet people. The more you look, the less likely you are to find what you really want, and should you try it out with whatever it is you've found, I think the less likely you are to be truly happy with it. Think of it like buying a car, perhaps. If you've suddenly found yourself in need of a car, chances are you're not going to run out to the dingiest car dealership down the street from you and grab whatever won't clear out your bank account and still runs. Otherwise, yeah you've finally got that car you were on a mad hunt for, but are you really happy now that it's accumulated double it's actual value in repair bills? (Can you tell that I just got out of a sales seminar? Hah.)
When it comes to clubs, bars, lounges, whatever, if you see a girl you think you fancy - be normal. Smile, be genuine, and strike up whatever random conversation you can think of, should you be so inclined to do so.
And those were my elongated 2 cents.
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