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hit the nail on the head, especially if it's the girls 1st time.

unfortunately i learned that the hard way. got concrete slammed a couple of time to learn that, and it wasn't pretty for both me and the girl. nowadays i take it easy with girls and let thing come as they come. its better to let a relationship develop naturally rather then to force mold it the way you want it.

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Originally posted by DJMikeyP Ok so in a nutshell me and this girl are getting along very well. We spend alot of time kissing, hugging, going out places, spending all night talking in the car. A few times the making out gets a little heavy and obviously I started it. So anyways cut to our first night together in a hotel. Cool night, then the next morning everything *seems* good. We kiss, run our seperate ways (off to class)... I see her in our mutual class, shes nice to me, she calls me at home that day to say hi... Then I call her about 2 frikkin days later, she doesn't answer my call. I see her at school 3 days later, she is pissed-looking at me. After class is out, she says she wants to break up because I 'only think about sex'. Thats it - thats her only reason. We've had sex 1 time, and the other dates we went on were so NOT about sex until the end when we made out a little, and even then I only started up the heavy petting sessions a couple of times. She said the main reason was because the next morning she was sniffling a little, and I mentioned it was too bad we didn't wake up earlier or we could have had sex again before class. She said this proved to her that I only think about my dick and am not interested in her. I just don't get it. If I didn't think she was too sniffly for sex, that doesn't mean I don't care about her - it just means I wanted some. Its not like she TOLD me she was too sick for it and I argued. Is this for real? What did I do wrong? My friend says its because I waited 2 days to call her after sex and broke some kind of 'golden rule', which I can accept... But does that sound right to you? Thanks for any advice peeps. By the way I don't want her back, this shit seems too whacked to deal with. Just wondering so I can avoid the same 'mistake' in the future. Mike

Like Too Short Said, BITCHES AIN'T SHIT!
MONEY OVAH BITCHES
G'S UP HOES DOWN!

Dig it?!

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Have you noticed that most people don't listen in an argument? That's why most arguments turn into a major waste of time. Think about it. Most people jump to the defense and throw out a lot of meaningless excuses for their own flaws or weaknesses instead of trying to solve the problem and move forward. I don't think it's necessarily a sign of the times...I just think some people are too selfish or too self-absorbed to get past themselves.

about that argument stuff, i don't see why either one of them has to argue their stance. mistakes where made and the only way i see for them to come to a closure would be for them to sit down and honestly and openly talk about their feelings and get to the bottom of things. from there they can find a way to fix things or walk away.

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Originally posted by Orbax Girls shouldnt put out that easy. I always stop seeing them when they finally do. and Im still a virgin. Thats how unattractive it is. or im a loser. I havent figured out which yet :P

So let me get this straight:

You hang out with a girl for a while and she decides that the relationship should get a bit more physical.

Then you break up with them.

I'd go with b.

That's fuckin wierd.

you have a small dick. thats why she doesnt wanna see you

OMG how awful!! Let me first start off by saying I don't want to get into a prick discussion, but she was definitely NOT used to my size in terms of largeness... At one point she specifically told me, "Oh my god you have a big one"... I don't think this is bragging because all her other boyfriends were japanese...

And yeah, I know it would have been the right thing to do, to call her after the cold-shoulder breakup and try to work it out... But like someone said maybe I'm still too burnt out on a previous relationship, and thus her over reaction to a mistake was too much for me to deal with at this time. Like in other words I'm so tired of the 'yes dear i'm so sorry' thing from my previous post, that even if this actually WAS an appropriate time to say sorry and lets work on it, I just figured 'fuck it'.

Not to mention the fact that maybe shes breaking up with me for some reason that shes not mentioning, and this is just a cover. Maybe I also felt a little betrayed, because I thought we were to the point where we were comfortable talking to each other enough so if I did do an honest fuck-up, she would simply bring it up and we'd work it out somehow, rather than her being like, "you're toast" and then me chasing after her, "oh i'm sorry i'm sorry no please no".

Poop.

Love you guys.

Oh you know, one other thing that comes to mind:

This all happened about a month ago, and one week after the breakup, when it was clear she was serious, and it was clear I wasn't going to chase after her, she came into class one day and started talking to me like I was her buddy. I kind of ignored her, for obvious reasons, thinking to myself, "god damn, you drop me and then think you can be my friend?"... She did mention when she broke up with me that she wanted to be friends....

This means she was trying to be friends? Trying to see if I would ask her to take me back? Being snyde? What? Who knows, that class is over, i'll never see her again.

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Originally posted by mto Like Too Short Said, BITCHES AIN'T SHIT! MONEY OVAH BITCHES G'S UP HOES DOWN! Dig it?!

you wont put out? i'll put you out.

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Originally posted by UWM So let me get this straight: You hang out with a girl for a while and she decides that the relationship should get a bit more physical. Then you break up with them. I'd go with b. That's fuckin wierd.

Hehe yeah...see its fine when I try to get them to do it. But when the girls take away me intiative...Sometimes im just like "bitch im drunk get the fuck out of here and lemme sleep"

I dunno. Its just fucking annoying sometimes.

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Originally posted by ralf_c about that argument stuff, i don't see why either one of them has to argue their stance. mistakes where made and the only way i see for them to come to a closure would be for them to sit down and honestly and openly talk about their feelings and get to the bottom of things. from there they can find a way to fix things or walk away.

Yeah, I wasn't thinking of DJMikeyP and his situation when I responded to Aaron (Diginut). I went off topic. I do that, especially when I'm a little sleepy. Sorry, Ralf_c

Back to DJMikeyP...

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Originally posted by DJMikeyP Maybe I also felt a little betrayed, because I thought we were to the point where we were comfortable talking to each other enough so if I did do an honest fuck-up, she would simply bring it up and we'd work it out somehow, rather than her being like, "you're toast" and then me chasing after her, "oh i'm sorry i'm sorry no please no".

Good point. I totally agree with you on this.

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Originally posted by Orbax Hehe yeah...see its fine when I try to get them to do it. But when the girls take away me intiative...Sometimes im just like "bitch im drunk get the fuck out of here and lemme sleep" I dunno. Its just fucking annoying sometimes.

what kind of relationship do you have with your mommy?

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone