Originally posted by Spirit5
Same here. I've had lots of girls as friends over the years, and still do, but I can't just go up to a girl and start chatting without turning out to be a nervous wreck, unless she starts talking to me first, and then i'm usually okay. I have to be in the right situation, like in a class in school or at some event going on...or online...I hate coming across nervous or not knowing what to say, even though this is often the case...
All guys have approach anxiety (of beautiful women) because it's wired into the genetic code. If they say they don't they are either lying or understand well the following two concepts (and how to use them):
Originally posted by Sunflower
I would improve my mental awareness. Sometimes Im so off into my own world that I cant recall if I had taken a shower that day or not
I can't find that inner-asshole that would help me break the friend/date barrier when I meet a new female.
May-28-2006 06:51
klingklang77
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Registered: Nov 2002
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i would change the fact that i am so sensitive and take everything to heart.
also i procrastinate.
and as someone stated before, about thinking theoretically, i think too much in theory, as well.
but other than that, i have gotten over a few other issues i had. i guess it comes with growing up.
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May-28-2006 07:20
prothoid
Senior tranceaddict
Registered: Jul 2005
Location: Dallas
either to be more open or not procrastinate as much as i do, its a tie
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May-28-2006 07:54
Sexy_Warden87
Junior tranceaddict
Registered: Mar 2006
Location: Unknown.
quote:
Originally posted by chadmk3
i wish i wasnt the by product of a lifestyle obsession. i wouldnt have decided to become an investment executive if the $$ wasnt there because i want a nice car/wardrobe/house, but we are all guilty of it.
Dial me when u have a real problem. (guess ur right in a way ;D)
I guess I'd like to be less inhibited when I talk to new ppl or girls. I would also like to change my insecurity, self-loving and ambitions. And as Spirit5 said it often depends on the situation. (Fuck that.)
I think Arbiter pretty much said everything. Instead of blaming ur shortcomings all the time and not doing anything about them(theory), praticise the person u would like to be in real life. Change the "would" into "will".
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May-28-2006 08:04
mentalbarter
We Are Scientists
Registered: May 2002
Location: Newcastle
so basically everyone on TA is a lazy procrastinator who is only on TA to put off doing something else
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May-28-2006 10:29
eckmek
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Nov 2004
Location: Denmark
quote:
Originally posted by jdat
Procrascination and this lack of self confidence in myself.
As opposed to lack of self-confidence in...someone else?
i'd change the fact that i suck so much at holding on to my point, i always back down when people are agressive, and i always try to find a way everyone can agree, like in that really stupid hippie-kinda-way, christ...
i guess im really shy of conflict...
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May-28-2006 11:05
Joycey
tranceaddict
Registered: Sep 2004
Location: Cork
quote:
Originally posted by Trance Nutter
procrastination. The ability to articulate what I mean better.
Anyone who has caught me posting then deleting knows that.
I do honestly think I have improved many of my shortcomings recently including confidence, self-pride and drive/determination.
+1 to everything there but esp articulation... I would love to be able to talk good n shit
May-28-2006 11:29
Spacey Orange
still loves trance.
Registered: Jul 2004
Location: California
quote:
Originally posted by Spirit5
I would be fatter because I'm too skinny (around 112). I would be taller because I'm pretty average to short for a guy (5'5) and I would be more muscular because I don't have much in the way of muscles (I don't lift). I would also have less anxiety and stop caring what people think about me so much...and actually have the confidence to go up to a girl and start talking to her. haha I could go on and on, i'm pretty pathetic...
Im lazy AND too much of a perfectionist. If I set my mind on something and I decide I want to do it, it has to be done to a tee. but that interesects with my laziness because I dont like to spend too much time doing the same thing. the two qualities cancel each other out.
May-28-2006 15:39
RapidFire
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Feb 2005
Location: toronto
quote:
Originally posted by Yan
I can't find that inner-asshole that would help me break the friend/date barrier when I meet a new female.
just show interest. sneak little hints in your conversations. no need to be an asshole.