I was 18 months old. Welcome to the club tubular...

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Originally posted by tubularbills ha, i didn't even think about her kids (she has 4 i think or something like that). weird. step siblings i've never met either. awesome.

I've never had any siblings, from either my parents marriage, or any remarriages either.

I must have been such a little cunt as a kid

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Psychologically it's easier children when they're much younger. That being said, sorry to hear about it dude. My parents hit a rough patch a few years ago and I thought it was going to happen, but it didn't. And even though it didn't actually happen, at the time it kind of fucked me up. Good luck man.

Will, yeah its tough but it will only make you stronger in the long run.

btw if your moms a cougar & needs someone to talk to, you know im still in Addison.

My parents split up when I was 8 or 9.

I cried for an hour, then The Simpsons came on and I was fine... I don't know, it wasn't a nasty divorce, my mom just fell out of love with my dad. He was a workaholic and the only time they ever communicated was when they were drinking... They never hit each other but there was some intense shouting matches, my mom could deal just as much as he could, probably more.

My brother was totally wacked out from it, being 6 or 7 at the time. He got messed bad and had issues for a number of years.

I dont know, its not that bad. I still see my dad all the time, he lives a few blocks away and he and my mom are on good terms.

Best part about being a little child of divorce is parents competing for your love. I didn't really care eitherway so I saw it as way to get free shit.

8 months here. It's so common that when people tell me about it I'm like " yeah, it happens. Better for them to be apart and happy than together and wasting time".

i honestly wish my parents would divorce already lol. but i probably have more oedipal issues than hamlet

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Originally posted by Frenchie 8 months here. It's so common that when people tell me about it I'm like " yeah, it happens. Better for them to be apart and happy than together and wasting time".

I sometimes question if my mom would be able to be happy in their marriage. There wasn't any reconciling it at the point where they got divorced but if both parties had tried a lot harder to work at it when they could have maybe fixed things I think both would be happier now.

My mom wouldn't have to worry about money like she does now and could have pursued her education and career probably a lot easier.

I don't know I guess its their choice, but I have this attitude when my mom bitches about bills and her debt and retirement. I tell her she chose this path so she shouldn't complain so much.

I don't think its resentment at her divorcing my dad as much as it is having to hear about it.

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Originally posted by DaRoZa i honestly wish my parents would divorce already lol. but i probably have more oedipal issues than hamlet

You'd do your mom?

My parents got divorced when i was in the 4th grade. I still remember when my mom took me aside and told me. It feels like it was yesterday. It's fucked with me ever since.

Oh yeah since then my moms been married and divorced again.

My pops just got married last August, she's nice and now i have a hot step sister.

Yeah, I don't think it's resentment. What happened , happened, so shut the fuck up and deal with it is more like it. neither party has the right to dwell and dwell on stuff like that.

Every case is different for sure. If your 'rents split when you were a baby then it was something you grew up with and it's just everyday life. If they split when you're in your mid 20's...you've lived enough years with them together, happy or not, to know what it was all about. If you were young but old enough to know what's going on it might be tough but it's def something you just deal with and move on. It really isn't the end of the world and divorce doesn't have to be messy if both people are mature enough to handle actions. It's not rocket science, it's divorce.

I suppose it does make it a lot easier if one parent just don't give a shit about the child or the other parent to begin with.

My mom got married in 2005 and she's been the happiest she's been ever. So it works out.

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby You'd do your mom?

and i'm on week 5 of grinding glass particles into my dad's food, no dice thus far